A lot of people would agree that the older a person gets, the harder it is to make or even maintain adult friendships. That’s because as an adult, we’re busy and relationships with your friends just aren’t as important as they used to be. After all, we’ve (likely) got a spouse or a partner that we see every day. We’ve got work and family obligations. And by the time we are back home after a long day at work and with the kids, the last thing we want to do is get dressed up and go out with girlfriends. Instead, all we would rather do is sit at home, catch up on our favorite shows on Netflix and Hulu, and just wish that we could live in your favorite pajamas all day.
But, with that being said, moms need their own mothers in their lives, and there’s a few specific reasons as to why. With so much on your plate, only another mom can truly understand what you are going through at any given time. That’s why we’ve got a list of 20 reasons why every new mom needs her own mom and appreciates her now more than ever before.
20 She’s Your Number One Fan
Sure, you have your husband, your friends, and your support group, but always remember: your mother will be your number one fan, through thick and thin. This is something that moms not only know, but feel, too. They want to be there for the good times and the bad and they want to be the first ones to lift you up when you’re falling down.
According to Parenting, Laila Ali said, “As moms, we’re nurturers. So the second word would be ‘nurturer.’ That’s what I think a mom is and should be capable of being. We can do it all. We wear so many hats as mothers."
19 She’s Your Children’s Babysitter
And yes, there’s a very good chance that your mother will also be your child’s first babysitter. Actually, make that your child’s first free babysitter. It’s needless to say that if there is anyone that you could trust with your baby, it would be your own mom. After all, she did a pretty good job of raising you, right?
You are the responsible, good, caring, and loving adult and mother that you are now thanks to her. Plus, your mom will always take care of your children like they are her own. Because they are her (grand) golden children, too.
18 She Is A Girl's First Best Friend
A lot of moms might not realize it right away, but once you have your first child, your own mother kind of slides into the “best friend” category. She is the one that you can talk to about anything, regardless of what the topic is.
Molly Sims has said (via Parenting): “My mom is my best friend, so I hope I can be one of his best friends. But my mom was my mother before she was my best friend—that came later. A lot of times I think parents try to be the best friend and then they try to be the mom. My mom always set boundaries and really made me respect her. That is something I really want to do with my children.”
17 Mom First
A lot of new mothers say that they can’t help but get a funny feeling when someone calls them “Jack’s mom” or “Emma’s mom” for the very first time. Why? Because you are so used to calling your own mom by that name, that you have a hard time readjusting to the fact that you’re in that same category too!
Gwen once said, “Patti [Gwen's mother]. I think of my mom when I hear someone say ‘mom!’” Even with that being said, you know that you will always call your mother “mom” no matter how annoying it is when your own kids call you that repeatedly throughout the day!
16 She’s Your Teacher
Sure, as a child, you were probably always told that your education was the most important thing in your life. And while you’ve had plenty of people to help you along the way (especially when it came to math, science and art) there’s one person who has always been the most important teacher in your life: your mother.
That’s right: she’s the one who will teach you everything that you need to know beyond the classroom. Stevie Wonder once said, “Mama was my greatest teacher, a teacher of compassion, love and fearlessness. If love is sweet as a flower, then my mother is that sweet flower of love.”
15 There Is Nothing Like A Mother’s Strength
When you become a first time mom, trust us that there will be just as many bad days as there will be good. There will be some nights that the baby will sleep throughout the night. And then there will be other nights that your little bundle of joy won’t give you any shut eye at all. That’s where your own mom steps in – she reminds you to be strong and that yes, this too shall pass.
Aerin Lauder once said of her mom, “My mom has always been kind of my backbone. She keeps me strong. She is a mother, a friend. She is really everything to me.”
14 She Gave You That Work Ethic
It goes without saying that every mother is proud of her children. And while everyone has different accomplishments that they are proud of, many mothers simply feel good knowing that they’ve taught their children a solid work ethic and how to get the job done right.
Tamron Hall has said, “I'm proud of my hard work. Working hard won't always lead to the exact things we desire. There are many things I've wanted that I haven't always gotten. But, I have a great satisfaction in the blessings from my mother and father, who instilled a great work ethic in me both personally and professionally.”
13 She’s A Listener
Your mother is not only someone that you need to listen, but one person in your life who will always listen to you, no matter where she is or what she is doing. She’s the person that you can trust the most about your problems, your issues, you fears, hopes and dreams.
Chelsea Clinton once said of her mother (via Brainy Quotes), “That's who my mom is. She's a listener and a doer. She's a woman driven by compassion, by faith, by a fierce sense of justice and a heart full of love. She is a woman who is my role model, as a mother, and as an advocate.” Awww!
12 She’s Got Your Back
One of the best things about having a mother that you are very close with is knowing that she’s always got your back. In other words, she will be there to pick up the kids from school if you are stuck at work.
She will buy your groceries for you (and maybe even cook you dinner) when you are having another late night at the office. And yes, she will even help fold your laundry when she sees that you are stressed out. Because she knows what it means – and feels like – to be a busy mother who needs another set of hands.
11 She Shares Every Emotion With You
Yes, your mother cries your tears for you, but at the same time, she won’t let you see them. That’s because she knows that you don’t have the time to breakdown over the things you go through every day – whether it’s professional or personal – and that’s why she wants to take some of that pain or anguish away from you.
Yes, that’s what mothers do. They laugh when you laugh, and they cry when you feel like crying. They share their heart with you and carry you through all of life’s emotions. It’s no wonder we love our mothers do much.
10 She Wants You To Be Happy
Your mother understands you like no one else in this world will. That’s because she had you even before the world got to know you. For your mom, she wants to see you happy and that’s why she will always be there when you need her.
Jennifer Garner has said, “My mother is a big believer in being responsible for your own happiness. She always talked about finding joy in small moments and insisted that we stop and take in the beauty of an ordinary day. When I stop the car to make my kids really see a sunset, I hear my mother's voice and smile.”
9 She Sees The Beauty In Life
Being a mother will challenge you in many ways that you haven’t been challenged before. But with your mom by your side, she will remind you to take a moment to just sit back, relax and appreciate the smaller things in life. She’s there to calm you through each storm.
Rachael Ray has said, “Good food and a warm kitchen are what makes a house a home. I always tried to make my home like my mother's, because Mom was magnificent at stretching a buck when it came to decorating and food. Like a true Italian, she valued beautification in every area of her life, and I try to do the same.”
8 You Respect Your Parents More Now
A lot of people would agree that your relationship with your parents change as you grow older and enter different stages of your life. Well, a lot of people would say that they most definitely grow close with their parents and especially when they become a parent themselves.
If there is one person who knows this all too well, it’s actor Liev Schreiber, who has two children with his former partner, Naomi Watts. He respects everything his parents have done for him in his life. Liev has once said, “I love my mother and father. The older I get, the more I value everything that they gave me.”
7 She Sees You Grow
If there’s one person who has seen you grown up since the very moment that you were born (and quite literally, too), it’s your mother. She’s seen you as a toddler, she’s seen you as a pre-tween and yes, she’s seen you during your mood swings as a teen and so much more.
She’s seen you as a struggling college student, she’s seen you graduate, and now she’s seen you fall in love, get married, and have a child of your own. She’s seen every side of you – the good, the bad, and the loving – and so much more that has been in between.
6 She’s Tough
One of the reasons why so many women (and men) look up to their mothers is because they know that they were born tough. After all, they are the ones that have to deal with all of the trials and tribulations that come with childbirth, right? While everyone has their different experiences, moms are the kind of women who always know how to get back up, even if they get knocked down by the ins and outs of life.
Little Richard once said, “I think God made a woman to be strong and not to be trampled under the feet of men. I've always felt this way because my mother was a very strong woman, without a husband.”
5 You See How Much Courage It Takes To Be A Mom
One of the greatest things about having a mom – and being a mom yourself – is learning just how much strength and courage that you have in you. Little do you realize how much you can take on the world until you take on your new role as a mom. In other words, anything is truly possible, especially with a positive mind and attitude.
Caroline Kennedy put it this way, “I think my mother... made it clear that you have to live life by your own terms and you have to not worry about what other people think and you have to have the courage to do the unexpected.”
4 Mom Always Being There
If there is one person that you can count on to always be there, it’s mom. She’s the one person in everyone’s life that will show up regardless of what day or time it is. In other words, you can rely on her no matter what.
LeBron James has said, “For me, already being part of a single parent household and knowing it was just me and my mom, you'd would wake up times and hope that the next day you'd be able to be alongside your mother because she was out trying to make sure that I was taken care of. But all I cared about was her being home.”
3 Family Always Comes First
Moms know best: they always put family first. But at the same time, society gives working moms a double standard, which is probably why so many children learn to love and appreciate them and all the hard work they do even more. Their work is never done, both in and outside of the home and everyone knows that.
Ultimately, a woman can't depend on anyone the way she can depend on her mother, and that family bond will always be the strongest part of her.
2 She’s Always Taught You Values
We all know that mama knows best. She’s been through a lot in her life and she is the one person in your life that will teach you all about the good, the bad, and the ugly. And as much as she wants you to succeed and have good values, she also wants you to see both sides of the coin. She wants you to also raise children who will know how to lose and how to win with grace and dignity, of course.
Halle Berry recalled, “When I was a kid, my mother told me that if you could not be a good loser, then there’s no way you could be a good winner.”
1 She’s Your Most Trusted Friend
A lot of people will come and go in your life. But if there’s one person who will always be there for you, it’s your mother. And now that you are a mom, there’s a good chance that she is also your most trusted friend. She’ll keep your secrets, she’ll be just as heartbroken with you over your losses, and she will also cry tears of joy with you over all of your successes, too. And yes, she will always have your favorite pecan pie ready for you, should you unexpectedly come over on a Thursday evening after work.
Because that’s what moms do. They sense that you will come over, even before you even think about coming over.