20 Things Couples Might Do Wrong When Trying To Get Pregnant

Whenever two partners are making long-term life plans together, having kids will likely be at the top of their list. Sometimes, people assume that the day they decide they're ready to try for a baby will be the day that they will get pregnant - or they will assume it will happen within a month of starting their baby-making journey.

And, maybe you and your partner will end up getting pregnant quickly. Some couples are extremely lucky in that regard. However, the harsh truth about this reality is that it is the exception and not the rule. And, that does not mean that there could be something wrong with their fertility. Getting pregnant does not always happen all that quickly.

And, many times the failure to conceive is due to the fact that the aspiring mom and dad are doing a lot of things that are hurting their chances of achieving a pregnancy. So, let's now find out the 20 things that so many couples do wrong when they are trying for a baby. If you are in this position right now, this could be a good eye-opener for you!

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20 Assuming Everything Is Wrong With The Woman

Whenever couples have been trying to achieve a pregnancy for months or even a year but have failed to do so, women in this situation always believe that there is something wrong with her. Therefore, that is why pregnancy has not been achieved.

According to Parents Magazine, if a man is able to do his job perfectly and correctly, then the assumption is that he has plenty of healthy swimmers. However, several fertility specialists have stated clearly that is not always the case, according to the same source.

If a couple has been struggling to conceive for a while, then both the man and the woman need to be checked. Not just the woman.

19 Getting The Timing Wrong

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It has already been covered that couples who rarely try will not likely end up achieving a pregnancy, as well as couples who do so too often will end up with the same result. Then, the question is, what is the best solution and how often should a couple try in order to maximize their chances of pregnancy?

According to Parents Magazine, the first thing before couples even attempt at trying to conceiving is by finding out when the most fertile time is for the woman. She will be able to find this out by charting her cycles by using body basal thermometers, checking the consistency of cervical mucus, and even using ovulation prediction kits if she has a rough idea of when she is fertile.

The best time is to do so once three days before ovulation, and again one day before ovulation. Therefore, there is a lot less room for failure.

18 Waiting For The Big Day

The worst thing to do when you are trying to get pregnant is to not 'try' until the day you are ovulating. The fact of the matter is, once you have ovulated, then the egg will only be viable for another 12 to 24 hours- or even less than that. The only time getting pregnant on the day of ovulation can work is if it's done literally right after ovulation has happened according to Parents Magazine.

It is suggested again from the same source that because swimmers can live in the female reproductive tract for three to five days, the best time is a few times right before ovulation! Again, the chances of achieving a pregnancy are significantly higher this way.

17 Using Certain Products


Women who are concerned about lube that want to get pregnant should be concerned about using it, but not for the reasons that they think. Women who are entering the fertile time of their cycles are usually well lubricated as it is naturally. However, even so, many women want to make sure they have a good boost as far as that goes.

According to Parents Magazine, the worst thing that any aspiring mom should do is use any kind of commercial lubricant. Those kill off those swimmers! There are however some safe types of lube that can be used during the baby-making process. Pre-Seed is a friendly one, and products from your kitchen like olive oil, vegetable oil, and even egg-whites can work well and not do a thing to those swimmers.

16 Panicking And Rushing To A Specialist

Many times when couples are struggling to achieve a pregnancy who have only been trying for two or three months- they begin to panic. Therefore, they are urged to run over to a specialist to do tests on them to make sure their baby-making parts are working just fine.

According to Parents Magazine, it can take a healthy couple six months or longer to successfully achieve a pregnancy. If the woman also has regular cycles and is under 35 years of age, then the odds are with her that there is nothing wrong with her fertility. However, if a young couple has been trying to get pregnant for a year and nothing has happened, that is when seeing a specialist is appropriate.

15 Or Waiting Too Long To See One

There are many couples who rush to a fertility specialist as soon as they are struggling with conceiving, and there are also other couples who wait too long to see one. That is because many of these couples who wait too long are in denial about there being an issue even if they know it deep down.

According to Parents Magazine, women who are over 35 years of age must start seeing a fertility specialist after trying for six months to get pregnant without any success.

The same applies to women who have had a history of pelvic inflammatory disorders, STDs, and STIs, and who have irregular periods. In those situations, then seeing a specialist sooner is better than waiting until later.

14 Ignoring Overall Health

Before couples start their baby-making process are always urged to see their doctors to get a green light to start. This way, they will know up front if they have any underlying health conditions like diabetes, high cholesterol or high blood pressure that get in the way. However, many couples who start trying for a baby do not even bother seeing their doctors to get a checkup.

According to Parents Magazine, many couples who are having trouble with conceiving end up discovering that they do have underlying health issues. They may also be taking medication for an existing health condition that can have a negative impact on their fertility. That is why it is always best to see the doctor before taking this big step.

13 He Takes Long Hot Showers

If you have heard that men who want to become dads should really be wearing boxers and loose-fitting pants instead of wearing briefs and tight-fitting pants or jeans- then there is a reason for this. According to Check Pregnancy, men who wear clothing that is constricting to the area down there will be less fertile.

The constriction causes too much heat to be trapped in the area, and there will be fewer swimmers as a result, that will end up losing their viability and motility. The same applies to aspiring dads that take long hot showers. Heat is any swimmer's worst enemy. So how can these dads stay clean? Simple. They can take shorter showers by using lukewarm water. It is still comfortable for dad and will not have too much of an impact on his swimmers.

12 Poor Lifestyle And Eating Habits

Are you smoking, drinking alcohol, using recreational drugs while attempting to conceive? Then it is most definitely the time to stop doing all of that. This kind of unhealthy lifestyle is not helping your fertility.

According to Check Pregnancy, the same applies if you are eating too many sugary foods, fast food, and pastries. These foods are filled with sugar and trans fats which can do a number on your insulin and blood sugar levels. Additionally, that will prevent ovulation from happening.

The same also applies if you are not eating enough to sustain yourself. If you are extremely underweight or obese, then you will have a difficult time conceiving. That is the time to start changing your habits and getting help from a dietician or nutritionist to help you go back on track.

11 Not Getting Help With Irregular Cycles

If your menstrual cycles never regulated over time after starting your period, then that is concerning. However, on the flip side, if your cycles are irregular, that does not mean that you are not fertile. According to Just Mommies, if your cycles are very long, you will have fewer opportunities to get pregnant since you only ovulate once in a cycle.

Irregular cycles quite often suggest that there are underlying issues like PCOS which will cause fertility issues. Therefore, if you have always had irregular cycles, then this is the time to express your concern to your doctor. It is possible that you will be instructed to determine when you are ovulating by taking your body basal temperature each morning. And if you are not ovulating, then you will likely be put on a drug like Clomid to get it to happen.

10 Misinterpreting Signs

Many women do look at their fertile signs when they are trying to achieve a pregnancy. They tend to mostly look at the consistency of their cervical mucus in regards to how close to ovulation they are. An egg-white consistency is a sign that ovulation is near.

However, according to Just Mommies, many aspiring moms believe that ovulation pain which is also known as mittelschmerz is a sign that the best time to get pregnant is right around the corner.

However, those pains can be a result of anything and can also happen at any time during the cycle. The best way to know how close you are to ovulation is by using ovulation prediction kits along with checking cervical mucus consistency. The pain is not a reliable method.

9 Believing That PreNatal Vitamins Can Help

Even though while trying to get pregnant it is important to take prenatal vitamins as well as folic acid supplements- it will not help with your fertility. According to The Bump, even though prenatal vitamins will not help you get pregnant quicker- you still need to make sure you have plenty of the important vitamins in your system, especially folic acid before your pregnancy test does become positive.

However, if you have been relying on your prenatal pills alone to help you become more fertile, then you will be disappointed. Your prenatal vitamins are not meant to help you conceive easier and quicker.

8 Staring At Smartphones At Night

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Most people nowadays are staring at their smartphones right before they go to bed. It has become a terrible habit, and if you are trying to get pregnant- you may want to stop doing that In fact, you will want to stop doing that until after your baby is born anyway!

According to Womens Health Mag, those who stare at their smartphones at bedtime are hurting their chances at getting pregnant. Not to mention, if you already are pregnant, it can be harmful to the baby.

This is because the exposure at night can actually suppress melatonin which is the sleep hormone. That will interfere with your ovulation cycle. And, if you are pregnant, it can actually mess up the unborn baby's internal clock which can lead to long-term problems later on. 

7 Too Much Stress

Stress is part of life for everyone. However, the level of stress you are experiencing is what matters. In fact, a little bit of stress is good in order to keep you motivated and proactive with anything in life. But too much stress is quite damaging- especially if you are trying to get pregnant.

According to Womens Health Mag, researchers have discovered that women who have high levels of alpha-amylase, which is a stress hormone had a 29 percent lower chance of pregnancy. Additionally, they were a lot more likely to develop infertility than women with much lower levels of the stress hormone.

That means if you are under a lot of stress, a spa day must be in order to help you relax and lower those stress hormone levels.

6 Poor Oral Health

Even though so many of us hate going to the dentist, it is essential that we have a cleaning done every six months at the very least. The reasons go beyond having nice looking clean teeth. Your dental health can affect your overall health. According to Womens Health Mag, there is a link between oral health and your reproductive health.

According to the same source, studies have shown that many women who needed fertility treatments also had issues with bleeding and inflamed gums. That means your oral health can be linked to your ability to conceive naturally. That means making sure that you not only see the dentist for your regular cleaning when you need to but be sure to floss and brush well each day.

5 Your Cosmetics Might Be Bad For You

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If your makeup is free of phthalates, then you most likely can continue using it because that makeup is safe and should not interfere with your baby-making ability. However, if your makeup does contain phthalates, and if you are having trouble conceiving- it is time to get rid of the makeup.

According to Womens Health Mag, materials that contain phthalates which are a group of synthetic chemicals can have a negative impact on your fertility. Many types of cosmetics and some plastics contain these harmful chemicals. It also hurts the chances of an embryo implanting properly if conception does happen. This chemical can also mess with male fertility.

If you are unsure if your makeup contains phthalates, then it is time to do some research on what is lurking in your cosmetics. Be prepared to trash it and buy chemical-free, natural cosmetics instead.

4 Poor Sleep Habits

The importance of getting not just enough shut-eye but getting quality sleep is underestimated. A lack of good-quality sleep can do a lot of damage to your health. According to Check Pregnancy, if both men and women are not sleeping well, that can hurt their fertility.

A lack of proper sleep will cause hormonal and metabolic imbalances, and that will most definitely have a negative impact on reproductive health. If you have a few restless nights here and there, that won't be enough to cause problems. However, if you are consistently getting less than six hours of sleep each night, you will need to start getting quality sleep.

If this is an issue, you will most definitely want to talk to your doctor about issues with insomnia as well. You will want to know what steps you can take to make sure you can sleep much better especially if you are wanting to achieve a pregnancy in the nearer future. That means it is likely that sleeping pills will not even be an option.

3 Not Enough Time Together

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Many couples that are trying for a baby fail to conceive because of the fact that they don't try enough. According to Parents Magazine, there are plenty of couples around who believe that the only way to increase the odds of getting pregnant is to 'bank up' those swimmers.

Couples can't expect to conceive if they only try twice a month and hoping for the best. Especially if they are attempting to get pregnant at a time when they are not at all fertile. Nothing will happen in that case at all.

2 Having Too Much Time Together

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Some couples might not be getting pregnant because they aren't having enough bedroom time. There there are couples who are always trying. 

According to Parents Magazine, contrary to popular belief that doing it too often will drain a man's count, this is not the problem.

If a couple is making sure that they schedule in baby-making time each night, then they will start to see it as a chore. Then, negative attitudes towards from both sides will develop. The next thing that happens is that these couples will end up giving up because they really don't want to try. It has turned into such a drag.

1 Getting Too Hung Up On The Right One


Many couples end up sticking to one position when attempting to conceive because they have heard that only making good use of that position is the most likely to result in a pregnancy. According to Parents Magazine, that is completely false.

In fact, a fertility specialist and endocrinologist Dr.Serena Chen of a fertility clinic in Pennsylvania stated that positions really don't matter. Once those swimmers are released in the area where they are supposed to end up in order to help create a new life.

The result will be the same. Either a pregnancy will happen or not.

Sources: Parents.com, Checkpregnancy.com, JustMommies.com, TheBump.com, WomensHealthMag.com

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