Women who are expecting may be wondering what their labor and delivery experiences are going to be like. Most women will give birth in hospitals, and this list will help them to understand what's going to happen when it's finally time to give birth to their babies!
Hospital staff are going to be supportive, but there are some things that they don't enjoy helping pregnant women with. We've gleaned the hard facts from labor and delivery nurses and other hospital staff. Our research will give moms-to-be the inside scoop on what hospital staff can't stand doing for pregnant women. Expectant moms may use this new knowledge to plan for their own labors and deliveries.
Some women find hospital staff very caring during their labors and deliveries. Other don't have the same positive experiences. Health care professionals are human beings, with strengths and weaknesses. Some are kind and committed to making things as easy for pregnant women as possible. Others have a bit more attitude.
Pregnant women should be assertive when it comes to getting what they want and need during labor and delivery. They shouldn't hesitate to ask for what they want due to being uncomfortable with the staff. This list will help pregnant women to figure out what it is appropriate to ask for.
20 Allowing A Lot Of People Into Labor Rooms
Crowded labor rooms are a new trend and hospital staff aren't necessarily loving the new trend. When a lot of people are in a labor room, it is often harder for hospital staff to concentrate, move around and do their jobs. More people means more chatter, more movement and, sometimes, more confusion.
If there are more family and friends in the labor room than you are comfortable with (maybe you wanted them there because you didn't realize how intense labor would really be?), ask your nurse to get them out. Most nurses will be happy to pull people aside and ask them to leave, according to Parents.com.
19 Some Nurses Don't Like Faking Joy When Babies Are Born
Nurses who help women while they are in labor help a lot of women. They may not even remember the names or faces of women that they've guided through labor. Nursing is a job and babies come year-round. This is why some nurses find the task of faking joy when every baby is born a bit tiresome.
There may be days when nurses genuinely feel joy. There will be other days when nurses are more workmanlike about their duties. On those days, they need to pretend to be ecstatic when new babies are born. According to Theworldcounts.com, 353,000 babies are born daily worldwide. That's a lot of babies!
18 Helping Laboring Women That They Know Well Can Be Weird
Nurses live in communities and they sometimes need to help women that they know through labor. For example, a nurse might end up helping a clerk from a local grocery store or something like that. A nurse may even end up helping a friend. This level of connection may make the process of helping a laboring woman a bit weird for a nurse. A nurse may not be able to remain as detached and professional as she would with a woman who is a stranger.
While nurses may feel awkward sometimes, they can be amused by patients too. According to Businessinsider.com, some women "have no filter" during labor and that can be funny.
17 Cleaning Up Vomit (And Other Bodily Fluids)
When it comes to being a labor and delivery nurse, cleaning up vomit and other gross stuff goes with the territory, but nurses don't enjoy cleaning up the gross stuff any more than anyone else would. They don't resent having to clean it up. It's just one of the less pleasant aspects of the job.
If you throw up during labor and don't manage to vomit into a bowl or bucket, do not feel bad about it. The mess will be handled by a nurse or another health care professional. Saying "thank you" to your nurse (or other hospital staffer) for their hard work will be a good idea, according to Parents.com.
16 Explaining Why Doctors Haven't Shown Up Yet
Sometimes, doctors don't stroll into delivery rooms until the final phase of pushing starts. This is because they don't have to. Nurses and other medical staff take care of things until then.
Women who are new to the labor and delivery experience may not understand why their doctors aren't present. They may feel upset because they know their doctors and would feel more secure and cared for in the presence of their doctors. Naturally, nurses have to deliver the news that doctors aren't around. If a woman can't get her own doctor, another will show up at some point, according to Parents.com.
15 Some Nurses Don't Like Helping Moms Who Are On Benefits
US moms may apply for benefits by filling out state application forms as soon as they find out they are expecting, according to Dhs.pa.gov. Women in Canada may use the Social Assistance Program if they qualify.
Do you judge people who are on benefits? Some nurses do judge pregnant woman who are on welfare or other forms of benefits.
Nurses may feel that women who have babies while on benefits are not prepared to handle parenthood. They may feel that their taxpayer dollars are being used to fund these women. They may especially resent women who have one baby after another while relying on the government benefits system for survival.
14 Honoring Kooky Birth Plan Requests
Hospital staff appreciates simple, short birth plans. Kooky birth plans are harder for them to deal with. The truth is that hospital staff have a lot of rules that they need to follow. If a request in a birth plan goes against hospital rules, hospital staff are unlikely to honor it.
With all of this in mind, come up with a basic birth plan. Then, check in with the nurse manager of the hospital that you plan to give birth at, a week or two ahead of your due date. Ask if your requests are feasible. This is the best way to know whether your birth plan is likely to be followed, according to Parents.com.
13 Dealing With A Pregnant Woman's Family And Friends
Hospital staff expects some friends and family to be around while their patients are in labor. They may prefer that a lot of these hospital guests hang out in waiting rooms, rather than labor rooms. Some friends and family are easy to deal with. Others just aren't.
According to Thebump.com, one woman's sister passed out right after the delivery, because she couldn't stand the sight of a certain red bodily fluid. This unlucky sister hit her head on the delivery room radiator and needed medical attention. These kinds of mishaps make life harder for nurses. They also take the focus off of mothers and newborn babies.
12 Providing Extra Pillows (Bring Your Own Pillow In Your 'Go Bag')
Hospitals do have pillows, but the pillows may not offer the same level of support as a pregnant woman's own favorite pillow. While hospital staff will probably honor your request for another pillow during labor, they'd probably prefer that you brought your own pillow from home.
Geniuspregnancy.com recommends that women bring pillows along with them to the hospital. Most women pack "go bags" and place them in the entryways of their homes, where they are easy to grab when it's time to go to the hospital. Pack your own "go bag" with a high-quality pillow and other labor/delivery essentials, so you'll enjoy premium pillow comfort while you give birth.
11 Some Nurses Want Labor To Be More Natural Than It Is
You may not realize that many labor/delivery nurses wish that labor was more natural than it sometimes is. These days, there are a lot of C-sections being performed. The Chicagotribune.com website reports that one in three US women now get C-sections. Women who do not get C-sections may rely on pain relief methods that aren't natural (such as IV pain relief or epidurals) in order to get through labor.
Nurses may feel that some C-sections and some forms of labor pain relief aren't strictly necessary. It's not uncommon for nurses to wish that the whole labor process was more natural.
10 Answering Questions About Medical Info Found Online
Have you been relying on "Dr. Google" for advice about pregnancy, labor, and delivery? If so, the information that you've gathered through your own online research may not always be accurate. Good websites offer facts with sources, but some websites don't follow this high standard. Nurses sometimes get tired of answering questions about facts that pregnant women find with their Smartphones or laptops.
The best advice about pregnancy, labor and delivery always comes from doctors. So, try not to ask too many questions to hospital staff about information found online. If you do ask these questions and get an attitude from a labor room nurse, you may ask for another nurse, according to Parents.com.
9 Helping Pregnant Women Who Haven't Had Proper Prenatal Care
Proper prenatal care is really important. When a pregnant woman goes for regular checkups, she and her doctor have a sense of how the pregnancy is progressing. When a woman skips the prenatal care, information about her pregnancy won't be on file, where hospital staff can review it. Surprises may crop up during labor and these surprises may not always be good surprises.
According to Mom.me, the risk of giving birth to a low-sized baby goes up when a mom-to-be doesn't get prenatal care. If you are expecting or suspect that you are expecting, be sure to see a doctor. It's incredibly important for you and your unborn baby.
8 Explaining That Labor Pains Are A False Alarm
Women who start having pains and then head for the hospital may feel stressed and crestfallen when nurses let them know that their "labor pains" are really false alarms, but nurses do need to do this sometimes.
False labors are quite common. Sometimes, women really believe that they are in labor. They think, "This is It" and get so excited. Then, they need to return home from the hospital, because their labor pains aren't the real thing. Nurses (or doctors) have to share the bad news.
According to Babycenter.com, false labor pains usually begin in the front of the pelvis or abdomen. Real labor pains begin in the lower back and move to the front.
7 Getting Covered In Body Fluids
There are lots of body fluids at play during labor. Medical teams may get covered in these fluids. Of course, the hospital staff doesn't like getting covered in bodily fluids, but it's part of their job. They wear scrubs and they can change out of them when they get too much junk on it. They can scrub their hands and faces, too.
According to Allnurses.com, nurses don't get covered in body fluids during every hospital shift. It is a "sometimes" thing. Nurses learn to adjust to this stuff pretty fast. They have to. However, it's safe to say that most nurses wish this wasn't part of the job.
6 Listening To The Screaming
Imagine that you're a nurse and you come into work with a tension headache, or maybe you have bad cramps, or something like that. You want peace and quiet, but get a patient who screams her way through labor instead. That's hard, right?
Nurses do listen to a lot of noise during labor. Labor hurts, and women can't help but be vocal when the pain is intense, according to Wehavekids.com. Women who are laboring should not worry about making noise. Nurses can handle it. It's just part of the job for them, even though it's loud. A nurse is getting paid to help you, so don't get too wrapped up in the nurse's emotions.
5 Helping Without Getting Gifts Or Snacks As A Reward
While it's true that you shouldn't spend your labor worrying about your nurses' feelings, it is ok to care about her (or him). One of the best ways to show your consideration and gratitude is by bringing a nurse a present.
Some women get presents ready for nurses before they head to hospitals. They then grab the presents (such as treats that nurses can snack on) and hand them over before they enter labor rooms.
Other women send gifts afterward or deliver them personally. Nurses do tend to prefer the patients that reward their hard work with gifts, according to Parents.com.
4 Dealing With Women Who Are Loopy From Laughing Gas
Laughing gas is used during some labors. It is a way to take the edge off of labor pain. Some women get loopy from the gas. Nurses may find the behavior of loopy women annoying. Occasionally, it may be very funny. The formal name for laughing gas is Nitrous Oxide.
According to the Dailymail.co.uk website, one woman dubbed herself, "Lady Darth Vader" during her labor, because the Nitrous Oxide was affecting her. Nurses who help women in labor have seen so much and heard so much. Dealing with patients who use laughing gas adds another layer of difficulty to their work sometimes, even if the patients are hilarious.
3 Dealing With Laboring Women Who Get Angry
Women generally (but not always) get into nursing because they are naturally compassionate. When patients, such as laboring women, get angry, it's very challenging for nurses. It makes it hard for nurses to remain compassionate.
Women may get angry because of the pain, or they may feel angry because they don't think that they are getting the medical care that they need and deserve. According to Hpso.com, handling angry patients is about showing empathy. Nurses have to show empathy even when they aren't being treated well. Nurses know that women in labor are going through a lot. They are there to help but treat them well.
2 Breaking A Woman's Water Can Be Stressful
Inducing labor is sometimes necessary when a woman is overdue, or when her water breaks and she hasn't gone into labor, according to Webmd.com. Induction is a job that can be tough. Doctors take care of this job because it has to be done right, but it's not one of the easiest or most pleasant tasks.
Labor is sometimes induced with meds and that's not too tough for doctors, although it has to be done perfectly, with proper dosages of the correct meds. Inducing is also done mechanically. This is harder for doctors. Doctors sometimes need to tear away membranes with their bare hands, or use tools to get the job done.
1 Following Unusual Placenta Requests
Some women want to eat their placentas and their placenta requests may not please nurses, who already have a lot on their plates. Plus, some nurses may not be proponents of eating the placenta anyway.
Opinions about eating the placenta vary. According to Webmd.com, there really isn't sufficient scientific evidence that eating the placenta is good for new moms or that it isn't good for new moms. Some hospital staff thinks that people who recommend that women eat their placentas are on the wrong track. It's common these days for women to get their placentas turned into pills, but some nurses wish this trend would fade.
Sources: Parents.com, TheBump.com, Geniuspregnancy.com, Mom.me, Babycenter.com, Theworldcounts.com, Businessinsider.com, Allnurses.com, Wehavekids.com, Hpso.com, Webmd.com