Mayim Bialik is the kind of person who makes headlines more for the things she says and does in her personal life than for her work in Hollywood. Sure, she’s on one of the most highly-rated comedies on television – The Big Bang Theory – but it’s the way that the raises her family and her ideology that makes people talk. And while there is no doubting that she is a very talented actress with great comedic timing, Mayim does have a penchant for explaining all of the different and unique ways that she likes to raise her boys at home. Plus, she often has something to say about pop culture, the way women are perceived in the media, and popular opinion.
With that being said, there are millions of fans from all over the world who love Mayim for who she is. After all, she’s not the kind of person who will apologize for her beliefs, whether it’s parenting or her personal lifestyle. That’s why we’ve got a list of 20 things that Mayim Bialik does to raise her kids that would definitely raise other moms’ eyebrows. Check out our list below and be prepared to be wowed,
Mayim loves social media and she also loves to reach out to her fans with her blog and the multiple interviews that she does each year. And while she doesn’t mind talking about her personal choices and the way that she raises her family, if there is one thing that she refuses to do, is post photos of her son’s faces.
As a matter of fact, she often uses very creative and unique ideas to involve her children in her posts, but without showing their identities altogether. For Mayim, their privacy is very important to her and that’s why she guards it so fiercely.
To put it bluntly, it doesn’t look like her kids will be going to any Ariana Grande concerts soon. Why? Because she’s said a few things about the singer in the past and it was divisive, to say the least.
Mayim wrote in her blog Kveller, “A few billboards I have seen lately really bug me. There is one for Ariana Grande, and I will go ahead and admit I have no idea who she is or what she does. Based on the billboard, she sells clothes. Why is she in her undergarments on this billboard though? And if she has a talent (is she a singer?), then why does she have to sell herself in those kinds of clothes?”
As anyone who has been keeping up with Mayim over the years knows, she’s huge into having a very organic lifestyle for her two sons. She’s always been a big advocate for breastfeeding and extended natural feedings for that matter. Let’s put it this way: her children will never eat a hot dog in their lives, especially if it’s non-organic or has nitrates in it.
On breastfeeding her toddler: "Whoever decided that 'when they can ask for it, they should wean' must not have wanted to keep nursing, and that's fine for them, but it is working for us, verbalized or signed!"
One of the reasons why fans love Mayim so much is that she likes to keep things real. Not only does she believe in nap times for toddlers, but for moms, too!
Mayim says (according to US Weekly): “I remember when I was sleep deprived when I was a new mom. You feel completely out of it and unable to really do the things you normally would do and the way you would do them. And I realized that even though I don’t have kids who are tiny and lead to you being sleep-deprived, it looks exactly the same. I’ve taken to napping in the day, I feel like such an old person. That’s kind of the way I’ve had to sort of catch up, because I get really grumpy.”
This might not always work out for a lot of non-traditional families out there, but for Mayim she makes her best effort to making sure that she spends the holidays with her kids, her ex, his new partner, and her kids, too."Is it always perfect, and exactly what I want?" she says. "Of course not. But we all end up being together, and that's literally what's most important. Divorce isn't the end of a family. It's the end of a nuclear family. It's the end of a family living in one house. But we still have responsibilities to each other's families, and to our children as a family."
Mayim might sound like she has all the answers when it comes to parenting, but truth be told, she doesn’t. As a matter of fact, the actress has often admitted to experiences mom guilt.
Mayim confessed, “I feel mom guilt all the time… Especially with the societal emphasis on women being able to do it all. I would love to be able to do it all, but I can’t physically be in more than one place at once. I miss out on a lot of things. Especially, since my boys are homeschooled, they have a lot of awesome field trips and all these things.”
A lot of people might not agree with this, but Mayim is a huge fan of co-sleeping. If her kids want to snuggle with her in the middle of the night, she will make sure to make some extra room for them. For her, it’s all about remaining close to her kids. She cherishes the bond they have.
On sleeping in the same bed as her children, Mayim has said in the past: "I chose to safely co-sleep with my sons, participating in the subset of co-sleeping known as bed-sharing. That means my sons and I shared—and still share on many nights—a sleeping surface."
Here’s something else that a lot of parents can relate to: Mayim has a very hard time putting her cell phone down, especially when she’s around the kids. She feels as though she has to respond to all of her texts and emails, no matter what she’s doing.
Mayim said, “When I’m with my boys, I’ve been making more and more of an effort to put my phone down, so that they can have concentrated time with me, and honestly that helps. I’m not just saying it helps me cope, but it helps me feel more connected when I’m with them, so that when I’m not with them, I’m not feeling like I’m never present.”
Mayim by no means is a perfect mother or a human being for that matter. But then again, there’s a slim chance that such a person even exists. With that being said, Mayim has plenty of regrets from her past, including not taking better care of herself when she was younger. “I think what I would have liked to tell my younger self about my mental health is that there are answers,” she says, according to People Magazine. “For me, some of those answers I had to wait years to find and I needed to get different help, which ended up being really the right kind of help.”
While there are a lot of parents and young children that are obsessed with Disney’s megahit film, Frozen, Mayim was no fan of it. That’s because she didn’t like the way the two main characters, Anna and Elsa, were portrayed. Mayim wrote in her essay (on Frozen’s plot and supposed feminism): “The search for a man/love/Prince is still the reigning plot line in the movie, as it is with pretty much all movies for young people which are animated. The sister’s desire to marry this guy she just met, and the other sister getting mad at her–we still have a plot about the identification of a woman being based on her desire and search to meet a man.”
Not only does she not like Anna and Elsa, but apparently Mayim thinks that all dolls that are currently on store shelves need a makeover – a more realistic looking make over, that is. Speaking about how the Frozen characters look like on the big screen, Mayim said, “They have some exaggerated features, sure. But by and large, they look like they have the proportions of human beings. Not so with our lead ladies. They have ginormous eyes. Like really ridiculously big. Teeny-tiny ski slope noses. Exaggerated delicate ski sloppiness, actually. Barbie doll proportions of their bodies in general: tiny waists, ample busts, and huge heads. They look like dolls. They don’t look like the same species as the male characters even! What’s up with that?! My sons thought the females looked like BRATZ dolls, truth be told. I kind of agree.”
By now, it’s without a doubt that a lot of people have noticed that Mayim has very specific rules and regulations when it comes to raising her kids. With that said, she doesn’t like ‘sleep training.’ On not being a fan of the Ferber method: "Any sleep training or sleep modification regimen that involves your baby crying and you not tending to it is going against your natural mammalian wiring. Similarly, any time you become immune to those cries, you are pushing down a very strong hormonally primed instinct to protect and help your baby and that's kind of sad to me."
Here’s something that a lot of parents would definitely have an issue with: Mayim doesn’t give her children medicine when they are sick. On refusing to give her children medications or antibiotics: "Between our two boys, ages six and three-and-a-half, we have dealt with just about every ailment, sickness and flu out there. However, neither of our sons has ever been on antibiotics, nor do we give them Tylenol, Motrin, antihistamines or cough syrup. I've learned from talking to other moms that almost everything you have right now in your home and your heart is enough to deal with most everything. I'm not arguing to be negligent"
For a lot of parents, they believe that it’s pretty much their job to teach their children good manners. But for Mayim Bialik, that’s not always the case. While a lot of little boys and girls are taught from an early age to say please and thank you – and especially to adults – Mayim prefers that her children don’t use these words at home.
According to Mayim, she believes that the words are so over used in the English vocabulary that they often love their meaning and just become generated words in her children’s vocabulary. In other words, thank you but not thank you.
Not only does she not allow her children to say “please” and “thank you” at home, but she also prefers that they don’t apologize, either. According to Mayim, she believes that natural expressions of appreciation or sorrow are much more important and that’s what she aims to instil in her kids.
Instead of simply saying “I’m sorry,” she wants to teach her children the difference between right and wrong and to recognize when they are at fault. What’s more, she also wants them to learn how to fix the situation on their own without having to say these two words. And so far Mayim says it seems to be working for her family.
When it comes to specific words that Mayim likes or doesn’t like, it’s pretty hard to keep up with her vocabulary! She’s also made it no secret that she doesn’t like it when someone uses the word “girls,” especially when referring to a group of women. This is something that she’s taught her two boys.
Mayim puts it this way: “When we use words to describe adult women that are typically used to describe children, it changes the way we view women, even unconsciously, so that we don’t equate them with adult men. In fact, it implies that they are inferior to men.”
If there is one thing that Mayim has saved money on, it’s diapers. Why? Because her kids have never used them. The actress believes in diaperless potty training. It’s based on the idea that babies use natural signals whenever they have to go, so to speak.
She says that once you figure out your baby’s clues and cues (like sound, for example), then they will eventually respond by going to the potty themselves. And while this method doesn’t work for everyone, it has worked for Mayim and her two sons. Lucky for her that she’s never had to change a dirty diaper in her life!
Mayim insists that even though she and her ex are no longer together, they have a good relationship. What’s more, she wants to be a good role model for her kids, especially in her post-marriage life.
Mayim has said, “We don’t trash talk each other… marriage can be really awesome and it’s a lot of work. Being divorced is lame, it’s bad, it’s not a fan way to raise kids. Things my ex did when we were married that annoyed me then annoy me still. So why put the effort in? Well, life’s not a dress rehearsal. My kids get one chance to be kids and this is their situation. I have to put them first because I’m their mom and he’s their dad. Their dad has given over his life to care for them completely and so courageously.”
Apparently, Mayim is no fan of hospitals or western medicine for that matter. She opted to give birth to both of her children at home with her family by her side.
On opting for a natural childbirth at home in front of her husband and eldest son: "Three pushes later, Frederick slithered out, and Miles was carried out of his highchair to cut the cord. A small spurt of you-know-what startled him, and he promptly asked my husband to finish the job. Miles then sat down on the floor, and minutes later was handed a bundled up wide-eyed baby brother."
When it comes to her children’s education, Mayim likes to take matters into her own hands, and that’s why she doesn’t enrol them in public or private schools.
When asked about why she decided to homeschool her children, she said, “Many reasons. My husband and I enjoy the flexibility: traveling, scheduling outings and such on our time. We like our children not being held to some standard of what other kids are doing as their defining label. Both of our boys are very sensitive and gentle and developed 'late' in terms of walking, talking and interacting. A public setting would not have allowed them to progress under our care and we like to keep our finger on the pulse of their development as organic and natural and normal.”