When someone works in a job or profession that requires a good chunk of time dealing with clients or patients face-to-face, it becomes clear that sometimes a little white lie will do more good than harm, especially if the person in question is feeling a bit concerned or frazzled about what the future holds.
There are some OB/GYNs that will do their best to soothe moms-to-be with reassuring platitudes and little white lies, especially if they can tell that momma is feeling a bit nervous about the whole pregnancy progress and needs a bit of reassurance that no, all of the hair-raising stories that they have read online will not happen to them all at once when the time comes to give birth.
The truth is, pregnancy is a complicated process and it certainly isn’t always pretty, but there are some times doctors feel it's best to keep their mouths shut unless something changes.
For example, What To Expect points out that many OB/GYNs would prefer it if their patients wore compression stockings all throughout their pregnancy, but some choose to keep mum unless varicose veins become a real headache because they know many moms will balk at wearing something so ugly.
Read on to learn how OB/GYNs will often fudge the truth in order to reassure expecting mothers.
20 The Second Pregnancy Is Just Like The First One
According to Romper, there is a very good chance that an OB/GYN won’t crush their patient’s hopes, telling them that their second pregnancy is going to be exactly like their first pregnancy.
Sure, there is a chance that pregnancy with baby number two will be quite similar to what mom experienced when she was pregnant with her first child, but like anything else in life, there is no guarantee of that and it is far more likely that a mother’s second pregnancy will be wildly different from the first one. This could be for the better, but the pendulum could also swing in the other direction and the pregnancy could be a bit more trying than the first.
19 Birth Will Be A Breeze
Thanks to television shows and movies, many women mistakenly believe that the birth of their first child is going to be exactly like the media they have watched over the years and the labor and delivery is going to be an absolute breeze.
Romper points out that while some women are lucky enough to have easy birthing experiences, there are plenty of other mothers out there that have stories that are pretty darn hair-raising. For example, some moms might have felt uncomfortable when they were given the epidural or the entire labor process for other moms can span days instead of hours.
18 Your Doctor Will Perform A Routine Episiotomy
Most moms-to-be assume that their doctor will perform a routine episiotomy after they have delivered their child and don’t even think to question their OB/GYN to see if the procedure is actually necessary or if they are just going to do it out of habit and because it is “expected” of them.
According to Fox News, Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists actually issued a statement back in 2006 that recommended against OB/GYNs performing routine episiotomies and just recently published a list of helpful tips that doctors can follow in order to make sure that moms-to-be don’t need to undergo such a procedure as part of the birth of their child.
17 Testing For Everything Actually Means Every Health Issue Is Accounted For
It’s pretty common for moms-to-be to ask their OB/GYN to perform routine testing during one of their check-ups, just to make sure that everything is fine. However, most women will say “test me for everything” and don't realize that this just means that they’ll be tested for the three most common infections.
Buzzfeed writes that if you really want to get a rigorous health test done by your OB/GYN, then you need to tell them that flat out. Be prepared though—some health issues doctors won’t test for at all if you are younger or older than a certain age because the chance of you getting it are low.
16 30 Is The Cut-Off For Your Biological Clock
It is a commonly held belief in society that a woman’s biological clock screeches to a halt once you hit the age of 30 and it is far better to get pregnant in your twenties because there is less of a chance that you or your child will develop health issues during the course of the pregnancy.
Verily Mag points out that 30 isn’t a good cut-off date because the College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists has said that women 30 and older can cut down on any hurdles of getting pregnant by maintaining a well-rounded, healthy lifestyle. Plus, potential fertility issues don’t tend to start until your late thirties, so there’s no reason why you can’t become a mom at age 30.
15 Preparing For Labor Helps A Lot
Today’s Parent points out that there is no way around the pain of labor, but there are a few tips and tricks that moms-to-be can utilize during their pregnancy to make their lives just a wee bit easier once the cramps start up as the body gets ready to push the baby out into the world.
One way to help stay calm during the big day is by signing up for prenatal yoga classes. Moms that take prenatal yoga classes are able to stay fairly limber throughout their pregnancy and it teaches mothers to use their breath so they can concentrate on something other than the pain during labor.
14 Learning How To Push Properly Is A Must
OB/GYNs will often recommend that expectant mothers take childbirth classes and learn the correct way to “push” properly so that the birth will be a little bit easier on them, but taking those classes is a bit superfluous.
According to Fox News, while taking classes to learn how to push properly during delivery isn’t a bad idea, it’s not needed. Once the baby is ready to make his or her entrance, they trigger a reflex that is impossible to ignore. Plus, some studies have shown that being directed to push can actually cause more issues as well as wear and tear during labor and delivery.
13 Your Bladder Won't Wreak Too Much Havoc During Delivery
Thanks to all of the hair-raising stories that circulate online and amongst friends and family, some moms develop a phobia of losing control of their bladder, bowels, and stomach during labor only to have their OB/GYN attempt to reassure them that there is no guarantee that will happen to them.
Fox News writes that OB/GYNs in fact know that it is perfectly common for moms in labor to expel the contents of their stomach in some way, shape or form. Sure, it’s not exactly something to look forward to, but there’s also nothing to fret about or feel ashamed of either. The doctors and nurses have seen it all and it certainly won’t phase them.
12 Labor Will Start Pretty Quickly
In many movies and television shows that feature pregnant characters that are about to deliver a baby, the writers make it seem as if labor progresses pretty quickly and if it doesn’t, that is a sign that things are going to be more difficult than the woman first anticipated.
Fox News adds that it’s normal for your water to break and for labor to take a bit normal than what pop culture has depicted. Some doctors may want to induce ASAP if Mother Nature isn’t kick-starting the process while others may advise moms to wait another day or so before inducing so that their baby can finally make their debut.
11 Staying On Your Back During The Delivery Is Best
I can’t even begin to count the number of birthing scenes I’ve watched in both movies and television shows that feature the mom-to-be laying down on her back on a bed with an encouraging team that is comprised of their significant other, their doctors and the attending nurses. This popular image has colored many women’s expectations and moms-to-be don’t realize that there is no written rule that says they have to stay on a bed in order to give birth.
Fox News writes that in fact, some OB/GYNs feel that pushing while somewhat standing up or even squatting can make the entire process go along a bit easier thanks to gravity doing most of the work for you.
10 You Need A Spotlight During The Delivery
When many mothers-to-be ask their ob-gyn about what the set-up of the delivery room will look like or when they tour the hospital, one common item that usually comes up is the spotlight that will help the doctor and their team of nurses see better during labor and the delivery process.
Fox News adds that even though some old-fashioned doctors prefer using a spotlight to help them see better, more and more OB/GYNs are realizing that they don’t need it. In fact, the bright lights hinder the hormone that starts the contractions and it’s better if the room is kept dim during the entire process.
9 Being Pregnant With Multiples Is The Same As Being Pregnant With A Singleton
If you’re pregnant with more than one child, your OB/GYN may very well reassure you that not much is going to be different than if you were just carrying a singleton.
US News points out that this isn’t technically true, since mothers of twins have a higher chance of developing certain health issues during their pregnancy that put them squarely in the “high risk” category; that is why it is so important for mothers carrying multiples to make sure that they listen to their OB/GYN and not slack off on following up on things such as appointments and health screenings.
8 Twins Should Be Born On Time
Learning that you are carrying twins can be a bit of a curveball for some mothers, especially if they weren’t expecting that news and they will immediately look to their ob-gyn for reassurance that all will be well.
According to US Health, OB/GYNs know that the most common issue that tends to crop up when someone’s pregnant with multiples is that there is a chance they will decide to make their grand entrance at 36 weeks on average instead of the usual 39 to 40 weeks for their singleton peers. That’s why it is important to quiz your doctor intently about what symptoms could be associated with early labor and make sure you note any changes as the due date draws closer.
7 There's No Need For Support Hose
Some doctors know that many women are resistant to the idea of wearing support hose the minute they find out they are pregnant because let’s face it, they’re just not pretty and so they keep their opinions to themselves.
According to What To Expect, many gynecologists actually feel that it would be a lot better if a pregnant woman started wearing support hose ASAP instead of waiting until the last minute because the compression stockings can help prevent varicose veins from being too much of a pain for mom-to-be to deal with. They may not be pretty, but the health benefits are totally worth it.
6 Having An Ultrasound Performed At Every Appointment Is Good
Many moms-to-be assume that ultrasounds are a routine part of every check-up at the ob-gyn and they love seeing the photos of their little one. Heck, some even take the photos home and immediately upload the latest ultrasound pictures to all of their social media accounts for their family and friends to see too.
What To Expect adds that many OB/GYNs feel that moms-to-be shouldn’t go overboard with constantly expecting or asking for an ultrasound at every visit. After all, it is a routine medical procedure and should only be done if a doctor feels that mom and baby need it.
5 It's Fine To Invite Your Whole Family For The First Ultrasound
Many women are really excited for their very first ultrasound and tend to invite not only the baby’s father but also close family and friends so that they can all share the joy of seeing the little one for the first time.
US News points out that moms should re-think inviting a whole bunch of family and friends to the first ultrasound appointment because there is always the chance that the procedure will show a health issue in the results. That kind of dour, somber news can quickly take all the fun out of the visit and cause friends and family to add to the parents' stress about their little one’s health.
4 Your Infant May Not Be The Jolly Green Giant
Pretty much every mom-to-be has heard birth stories from family and friends about how so-and-so’s child had a hefty birth weight and the little one was as robust as the Jolly Green Giant. Or they have heard from their OB/GYN that their little one is going to be large and in charge, which in turn could make the mom fret about the amount of pain they’ll be in.
That being said, Fox News writes that some OB/GYNs won’t tell you that ultrasounds can be off by a pound or more, especially as the baby’s due date draws near. There are a few doctors out there that will recommend a mother with a large fetus get induced, but for the most part, it’s out of an abundance of caution and there’s no guarantee that mom’s going to give birth to the Hulk if they decided to wait things out.
3 Definitely Clean Up Before The Birth At The Salon
Many moms-to-be feel the need to look their best during the labor and often ask their OB/GYNs if it is safe for them to make an appointment at the salon to get waxed or treat themselves to a manicure/pedicure. Most doctors won’t have a problem with mothers making those appointments and will happily give them the go ahead, but the fact of the matter is, getting waxed and getting your nails done really isn’t necessary.
Fox News points out that the OB/GYNs at the hospital have seen it all and don’t care if you show up looking like a long-lost Kardashian or if you simply decide to roll out of bed in your comfortable pajamas. It’s all the same to them. Make an appointment at the salon if you think it’ll help your nerves to look your best, not because of some misguided idea that doctors care about what their patient looks like when they’re in labor.
2 It's Perfectly Fine To Have A Large Crowd Around You While Giving Birth
It is trendy to have a large crowd of close family and friends around you when you’re giving birth and if it seems as if that’s what you really want, then there is a good chance that your OB/GYN won’t do too much in order to dissuade you from your wishes.
Fox News adds that internally, your OB/GYN might be wincing at the thought of having so many people around a woman in the middle of labor because it can be incredibly distracting for both you and your doctor. If you don’t feel comfortable having a whole crowd of people and just went along with the idea because “it’s the thing to do,” you can always change your mind and just have one or two people in the room with you.
1 You Need To Eat Three Square Meals A Day During Pregnancy
If asked about nutritional changes during pregnancy, most OB/GYNs will recommend that moms-to-be have about three square meals a day, but that rule definitely doesn’t apply if you’re carrying multiples.
US News points out that if you’re pregnant with twins, triplets, etc. then the common stereotype of eating three whole meals a day is going to go out the window because your body needs more fuel in order for the little ones to grow big and strong. Instead, it is best that moms-to-be of multiples eat several smaller meals throughout the day; this tactic will also help keep the morning sickness at bay too.