Pretty much every mom-to-be has heard the usual list of pros and cons of being pregnant from their ob-gyn, which includes raging hormones that can make them cry at the sappy commercials for the ASCPA, bizarre food cravings like wanting to eat pickles and ice cream in the wee hours of the morning, and the bouts of morning sickness that leave them spending plenty of time in the ladies' room.
What some ob-gyns don’t tell moms — particularly young, first-time mothers — is that there is a whole other slate of issues, both physical and emotional, that can affect their well-being during pregnancy.
Science Daily points out that the standard of waiting to see a new mother six weeks postpartum isn’t a good idea, since new moms are often at risk for developing serious issues with their heart and waiting too long can often lead to a woman having to rush to the hospital because a health condition went undetected for so long.
Parents adds that aside from the physical concerns, new moms can often wind up feeling isolated from family and friends, especially if they’re stay-at-home moms.
Moms that are curious to learn what else ob-gyns don’t always tell their patients, read on to learn just which nuggets of information are being left out.
25 Pregnancy Can Cause High BP
Most people believe that having children as a young mother means that there are fewer health risks than there are for older mothers. There might be fewer risks at that age, but nothing in life is without its downsides, including pregnancy as a young mom.
According to Revere Health, young moms that are pregnant with their first can develop high BP, which is known in the medical field as “gestational hypertension.” One of the downsides of the pressure going up is that it can sometimes lead to some potential health concerns for the little bundle of joy during the birthing process.
24 There Is A Chance Of Having Low Levels Of Iron
Revere Health writes that another thing that young moms need to watch out for is low levels of iron. Anemia is not fun to deal with because it requires the mom-to-be to give their meal plan a huge overhaul or purchase tons of iron supplements until after the baby is born.
The reason why some young mothers develop low iron levels during pregnancy is due to the fact that their current meal plan isn’t chock-full of enough iron in order to fuel both mom and the fetus, so mom winds up feeling extremely tired for the next nine months or so.
23 Your Little One Could Be Born Early
Kid’s Health writes that while most infants are born on or around their projected due date, some young moms can have a little one that’s born a little bit too early. Risk factors range from being incredibly stressed out, certain age ranges, and certain health issues such as being diabetic.
One way to lessen your chance of having a “preemie” is to start prenatal care as soon as you find out that you’re pregnant and to make sure that you take your prenatal vitamins every day so that your body will stay in tip-top shape as the little one grows.
22 It's Common For Hair To Shed A Lot After Pregnancy
One downside of giving birth that isn’t really talked about much by doctors to their patients is that many moms often start shedding their hair like a Siberian Husky about to get rid of their winter coat
Today’s Parent notes that major hair loss is a normal part of the postpartum process because their body is trying to regain its normal hormonal status, which can affect locks in a big way. It tends to stop around six months post-partum and taking vitamin D or zinc ASAP after the little one comes home can help keep your hair from shedding constantly after giving birth.
21 Varicose Veins Are Likely To Pop Up While You're Pregnant
One downside of giving birth is that your body decides to morph, oftentimes in ways that are unexpected. Parents points out that while pretty much every mom-to-be has heard about how their hips physically change (and it can be a permanent change too), no one really mentions how it appears as if varicose veins have suddenly popped up all over their body.
Baby Center adds that for the lucky few who didn’t have varicose veins before getting pregnant, they should subside on their own after four months or so. For the unlucky moms that were plagued by them before pregnancy, there’s less of a chance that they’ll disappear a few months postpartum.
20 Behavioral Issues Are More Likely In Children Of Younger Moms
Baby Centre writes that another common issue that often pops up in children of younger moms that ob-gyns don’t mention is that they tend to have a different view of parenting and as a result, some of their children wind up developing behavioral issues.
For example, there are some young mothers out there that are very lax in terms of reprimanding bad behavior and their children wind up acting very ill-tempered and demanding as they get older because they have never been taught to behave otherwise by their parents. It’s cute when a yearling acts demanding, but it’s not cute when a five-year-old does the exact same thing.
19 Higher Chance Of Developing Insulin Issues
Pretty much every mom-to-be has heard from her ob-gyn how pregnancy can cause her hormones to run amuck and make her cry at a drop of a hat or how she’ll crave chocolate chip cookies for three days straight, only to wake up on the fourth day and find the smell to be just so bad.
St. Louis Public Radio adds that there are some young moms out that that haven’t heard from their doctor that pregnancy can also wreak havoc with their insulin levels and this issue can continue long after they have given birth to their little bundle of joy. To add insult to injury, many mothers that are at risk for this sort of issue simply aren’t tested until it’s too late.
18 Unplanned C-Sections Can Wreak Havoc With Mental Health
Even though doctors often urge their patients not to read other women’s stories about their labor and delivery, there isn’t a mother out there today that hasn’t gone online and took a peek at other mom’s experiences. From hilarious labor stories to harrowing C-sections, it’s easy to get an idea of just how varied the delivery process is for each mom.
Romper points out that these stories and many doctors often don’t include how emergency C-sections can negatively affect a mom’s mental health because they are often very frightening for first-time moms and the aftermath could linger in their memory, which can lead to a case of coming down with the “post-baby blues.”
17 It's Not Good To Wait The Standard Six Weeks To Be Examined By Your Regular Doctor
According to Science Daily, most doctors tell women that they can go home two or three days after delivery and to come back for a check-up six weeks later. Since it is generally assumed that doctor knows best, most young moms wouldn’t even think to question their advice.
Science Daily adds that it’s actually a lot better for moms to check in with their doctor before the six weeks are up. Between the risks of decreased heart health and other issues, it’s better for doctors to start identifying high-risk patients and telling them to come back earlier so that they can catch any problems before they start.
16 You Can Get Excess Protein In Your Bladder During Pregnancy
WebMD points out that young moms are more likely to develop a condition called preeclampsia, which is a combination of too high BP and excess protein in their bladder. This not-so-delightful combination can cause annoying side effects such as their face and hands getting really bloated.
Even though there’s no cure for this health issue except giving birth, ob-gyns can help their patients control the symptoms by giving them certain meds to lower pressure in their body and giving them large doses of magnesium to help reduce the chance of any ill-effects happening to the mom and her little one during pregnancy.
15 Pregnancy Puts You At Risk For Lowered Degrees Of Heart Health
When it comes to discussing health issues that can crop up in pregnancy or the post-partum period, most women would admit that their ob-gyn has told them all about giving birth to a “preemie” or developing preeclampsia, but The Huffington Post writes that a study published in the Mayo Clinic Proceedings notes that doctors should also warn their patients that being a new mom also increases their risk for having lowered heart health.
Even though serious heart issues in young women tend to be pretty rare, pregnancy and the postpartum period are when they are at the most vulnerable and doctors should be more open about that fact so that their patients can stay on top of their health.
14 Struggling More With Body Image During Pregnancy
Parenting writes that some mothers that are fairly young also tend to be more self-conscious in terms of their body image. Pregnancy can wreak havoc on a woman mentally, physically, and emotionally; some moms can find it hard to adjust to their new reality and all the biological changes that are currently taking place in their body.
There is also a ton of pressure on young moms to stay looking like a supermodel all throughout their pregnancy and quickly go back to looking like a famous Hollywood starlet after their little one is born. Real life isn’t like that, and that can lead to some moms feeling a bit of concern that they don’t meet the so-called ideal.
13 It's Easier To Get Pregnant After Having Baby Number One
One nugget of information that old-fashioned ob-gyns conveniently don’t tell their patients is that it can be a heck of a lot easier to get pregnant with baby number two if you already have had one child.
According to Expecting Science, the reason why some doctors stay mum on this tidbit is because it was previously believed to be an old wives’ tale. However, a study conducted by Kenneth Rothman of Boston University has garnered evidence that there’s actually a bit of truth to this old wives’ tale, so if you don’t want to have a second child right away, it’s best to discuss contraception options with your doctor.
12 Higher Chance Of Feeling Blue After Baby Is Born
Thanks to the pregnancy hormones, many women often struggle with the roller coaster ride of emotions during the nine months that they carry their little one. The emotional tidal wave doesn’t stop there either—it’s quite common for moms to struggle with hormonal-based mood swings after their little one’s born.
Livestrong points out that younger mothers have more of a chance of developing what is known as the “post-baby blues” and struggle with feeling really glum and as if they are stuck in a vat of molasses. This mood issue can manifest any time during the first year when the baby is born, so it’s important for moms to stay vigilant and discuss any emotional changes with their ob-gyn.
11 Your Infant Might Not Be As Robust As Their Peers
Pretty much every mom-to-be has heard the stories about women giving birth to babies that were positively ginormous and left the attending doctor and nurses wondering if he or she was related to the Jolly Green Giant.
Livestrong adds that another potential concern that young mothers should be aware of is the opposite—that their little one will be as tiny as a hobbit when they are born, since depending on the age, there is a chance that the infant could have a lower-than-average birth weight and not be as robust as the other babies in the nursery.
10 Being Pregnant Can Affect Professional Plans
According to Baby Center, while young mothers may have an easier time getting pregnant than their older counterparts, they often don’t realize that having a baby at an earlier age can negatively affect their professional paths because usually at this point in life, they are still trying to figure out a path and establishing themselves on a professional level.
All of the work they put into their job can take a downward spiral because even if the mom goes back to work after they have their baby, the statistics are not in their favor because all the signs point to it being probable that she won’t earn as much money as her childless or older mom counterparts at work.
9 Having A Baby Can Cause Financial Woes
Another issue that some ob-gyns don’t bring up with their patients that are going to be young moms is that having a child can really exacerbate their pre-existing financial woes. Many young people are struggling to find well-paying full-time jobs at a stable company as well as trying to pay off their student loans on time.
Baby Center adds that adding a child into the mix when you’re struggling with college loans and finding a decent-paying job can make it easier to slide into credit card debt and other financial woes that will plague young moms for years to come.
8 Young Parents Can Clash During Pregnancy
Ideally, moms-to-be should prepare themselves for the lifestyle change that is going to occur once their little bundle of joy enters the world. Not only will they have to take care of an infant, but having a baby can often put a strain on a relationship because both parents are tired and can be prone to squabbling.
The Baby Center points out that some young adults don’t realize that the roller-coaster upheaval of having a baby is only temporary and it winds up seriously damaging their relationship because they don’t have the life experience needed to successfully work through their issues.
7 Younger Moms Might Not Be Emotionally Ready For A Huge Lifestyle Change
Thanks to pop culture, having an adorable baby that you can show off on all of your social media pages is seen as one of life’s greatest achievements and when you are a parent, everything is all sunshine and roses all of the time. Sadly, pop culture stories in television and movies do not equate to what happens in real life and some young moms don’t realize just how emotionally or physically taxing it is to raise a child.
Baby Center adds that in order to be a successful parent, young moms have to be ready, willing, and able to make sacrifices and major lifestyle changes (such as not going out all night with their friends on a Friday night); but there are some that lack the wisdom and maturity to make that transition.
6 Higher Chance Of Having Nutritional Issues
According to the Annie E. Casey Foundation, statistics show that more than two million young parents are forced to rely on supplemental food programs in order to make sure that their child has some semblance of a nutritious meal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because they simply don’t make enough in order to purchase pricey items at the grocery store.
To add insult to injury, Very Well Health adds that some young moms don’t have access to purchasing nutritious items for their family because they live in “food deserts” and simply don’t live near any grocery stores that sell health items at an affordable price.
5 Baby Could Struggle To Get The Hang Of Breastfeeding
In pretty much every movie or television show that depicts a character that has recently given birth and chosen to breastfeed, the baby picks up the hang of this feeding method without any kind of fuss.
Parents points out that this isn’t the case in real life and it’s actually pretty common for some moms to struggle to teach their child how to breastfeed properly. Despite the pressure from society to breastfeed one’s child, there isn’t much of a discussion on how much work and practice it takes for mom and baby to get the hang of it or where to go if the little one simply isn’t picking it up.
4 Stay-At-Home Moms Can Feel Isolated After Giving Birth
Thanks to the media, there are plenty of mothers that erroneously believe being a stay-at-home mother is all roses and sunshine, all the time and that they will be perfectly content to be with their baby all day, every day for the next year or so.
Parents points out that the reality is often different and there are plenty of stay-at-home mothers that wind up feeling isolated, especially if they are used to having a big community to chat with at work. One way to combat those feelings is to join meet-up groups either in person or online for fellow stay-at-home moms who will empathize with your struggles.
3 Peer Pressure To Be A Perfect Mother
Parents writes that moms often don’t realize just how much pressure they face from society once they give birth. It often seems as if everyone—including family and friends—has an opinion on what they are not doing right in terms of taking care and raising their own child.
This tends to lead to young moms feeling pressured to do everything perfectly and then they wind up getting burnt out when they can’t meet expectations. There’s no need to feel guilty for putting your baby in their crib for some time to decompress or if they can’t stop exercising their lungs—you’re not perfect, and there’s no need to be.
2 Finding Childcare Is Difficult
If young moms have no choice to go back to work ASAP, then it shouldn’t be too difficult to find childcare near their place of living that is both top-notch and affordable, right?
According to Parents, the idea of quality and affordable childcare is rapidly becoming a myth for moms today due to the fact that these sorts of places are quickly becoming too pricey for parents to afford and there’s a competitive edge among some mothers to enroll their child into childcare programs that will give their little ones an excellent head start in terms of education and development.
1 Breastfeeding Can Lower Chances Of Health Issues Down The Line
When ob-gyns discuss the pros of breastfeeding their infant, they often mention how it helps mother and baby bond or how it helps the little one receive the proper nutrients they need in order to grow big and strong.
13 KVAL points out that doctors often leave out an important fact when discussing the issue with their patients: that researchers from Ohio State University have found evidence that breastfeeding can actually keep your girls healthy and free of any hair-raising health issues in the future and that only 16 percent of women had been told about this nugget of information directly from their health care providers.
Sources: Revere Health, Livestrong, Baby Center, Parenting, First Cry Parenting, Baby Centre, Parents, The Annie E. Casey Foundation, St. Louis Public Radio, Romper, 13 KVAL, Science Daily, WebMD, Kid's Health, Expecting Science, Very Well Health, Today's Parent, The Huffington Post