Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wish you could just freeze that moment in time with your children? If only that was really possible! Although there isn’t a way for us to stop time, there are things we can do to slow down our days and learn how to treasure the precious moments that we have together with our kids right now – in the moment, in the present.
As a parent, you will often find life getting extremely busy, at times you’ll find yourself just going through the motions, going from one task to another like a mindless drone until you finally get exhausted and retire for the day only to get and do it all over again. If this is the sort of life you live, I personally encourage you to stop right now, slow down, and spend some quality time in the moment with your kids.
Trust me, the effects that this will have on you and the relationship you share with your children will make it totally worth your while. If that doesn’t convince you, here’s a look into 7 different reasons why you should live life to the fullest in the moment with your kids:
7 It Will Help You Appreciate Your World More
One of the most prominent, most worthy reasons as to why you should live in the present and enjoy life with your kids is because it will help you in decreasing the amount of analyzing and labeling that you do in your life to the things and people around you.
When you’re busy with your kids, you’re going to start appreciating the smaller things in life and will stop judging as much because your mind is going to be full of positivity. This might sound strange to some, but the fact of the matter is that the moments in which you are present with your kids in the present; the ordinary world is going to become a whole lot more wonderful and interesting to you.
With them, all colors will seem brighter and things that you previously found to be ‘dead’ will appear more ‘alive’ to you. This is because of the innocence, curiosity and love that child have to give to the world – let’s not forget, their careless attitude will also contribute to your positivity. You will be able to see how precious life is and how you can relax and unwind without all your man-made gadgets and stuff.
Your presence is the best gift you can give to your children
When you start appreciating things by taking on your kids’ curious yet loving attitude, you will find the most common, boring and routine things become fascinating.
To be there for them, to be here ‘now’ – that’s what your children want. When bringing up your child, it’s necessary for you to remain actively engaged in their lives. Don’t let time pass by without making it special for them and yourself.
6 You’ll Learn From Your Children
It will take a bit of practice for you to learn how to live in the present with your kids, but if you want to learn a few things about life, then I encourage you to spend more quality time with your kids. Have you ever seen your kids getting completely transfixed by a bug crawling across the grass, gleefully rolling down a hill, or splashing in puddles without a care in the world?
That’s the thing – children are blessed with a gift for joyfully living in the moment, enjoying life to the fullest. Watch them carefully and learn from them – join them and learn how to live without a care in the world. By living in the moment with them, you will be able to speak to them, look them in the eye and find out about all that interests them.
The best part about it is that you will be able to learn a lot about your kids by spending time with them, giving them your full attention and being an engaged listener. Get down on their level so they know how much you love spending time with them. Play Legos and let your kids lead – you will find how much kids love enjoying life in the present; they will make you want to be a kid again!
Win them over
The next time your children ask for something they don’t usually get, give it to them and involve yourself with them too. Seeing their joy and their happy faces is going to ease your stress and it’ll feel good to be there with them in that moment
5 It Will Help You Bond with Your Kids
Bonding is an intense relationship that develops between parents and their kids as time passes by. It is bonding that makes parents want to shower all their love and affection on their kids and protect them like no one else can. It’s also because of the bond that parents and kids share that mothers and fathers wake up in the middle of the night to feed their hungry baby and pay the utmost attention to even the smallest of their baby’s cries.
Developing this bond is highly recommended for you in order to live in the moment with your kids and spend as much quality time as possible with them. Experts suggest that the bonding shared between parents and kids plays a great role in helping children learn about intimate relationships and foster a sense of security and positive self-esteem.
Most interestingly, research studies have shown that the ways in which parents respond to their children has a significant impact on the kids’ social and cognitive development. This shows how important a role bonding plays in a child’s life, thereby adding to the reasons why you should live in the moment with your kids and bond with them.
It is a process
Bonding is a process – a time-consuming process that every parent and child has to go through. Believe it or not, babies are born ready to bond with their parents. However, parents tend to have different feelings about it. To make things easier for yourself and to be able to develop this bond smoothly, give your children a bit of time and focus on the present with them.
4 It Will Help You Develop a Meaningful Relationship with Your Children
There is no better way of showing your love for your kids than to give them your time and enjoy life to the max with them. If truth be told, living in the moment and having fun with your kids is a tangible expression of how important your children are to you. This is how children perceive things – to them, the parent who gives them the most time is the best, and to continue winning their love and respect, it‘s necessary for you to enjoy the present with them as much as possible.
You need to make your presence known in your children’s lives and to do that you must bond with them in the present – who knows what the future holds? It’s the present that matters! Kids need to know that they can share a special bond with their parents. Do you remember the time when you had ‘the talk’ with your mum and the way your dad engulfed you in those tight hugs? Do you remember how loved you felt in those precious moments.
The feelings of acceptance that those moments brought to you probably still linger in your mind. This is what you need to make your kids feel loved too. Your children aren’t adults-in-progress. There is no reason why you should wait for them to grow older in order to develop a strong and meaningful relationship with them. Don’t consider yourself just a chauffeur, potty-trainer, babysitter and tutor – you are their safe refuge, an ever-present companion and spiritual leader.
Don’t feel stuck
In order to let go of those feelings of being ‘stuck’ in parenthood, enjoy the present with your kids. Rejoice with them and take pride in being there for your kids.
3 You’ll Be Able to Create Beautiful Memories with Your Kids
Memories are important to everyone in this world. It’s through memories that you can create a sense of balance, stability and a sense-of-self in troubled times – particularly the memories that you have of your children. Moreover, kids love hearing about what they were like as babies and enjoy their parents telling them about the things they did when they were little.
Living in the moment with your kids makes creating these memories extremely easy. The stories that you tell them later on in life about their childhood will help your kids organize their life experiences and build their concept of a personal identity. They're also a great way to bond with their mom and dad.
Look back in the past and think of your own early memories. What do you remember about your parents? Do you remember going on that family vacation when you were five? Do you remember the times you spent with your parents checking out photos of when you were a year old? What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of all these memories?
Make time for activities together
These memories remind you of the love your parents made you feel, and how important you felt when your parents focused on you in the present. This is the sort of thing you need to make your own children feel too and this is easily possible by creating memories that they can relish forever.
As a parent, you obviously live a very busy life. But no matter how busy you are, it’s necessary for you to spend quality time with your kids. Indulge in different activities with them such as crafting, biking, playing cowboys or even feeding the ducks at the local park. Trust me, these are memories that your children will remember forever!
2 Just Focus on Having Fun
Instead of focusing on all the different things that you need to do in life, take some time, put all those thoughts aside and start enjoying the now with your kids. Yes, I understand that it’s easier said than done. Our culture and society do not encourage this sort of mindfulness. Still, even if you can manage it for a few moments each day, you’re bound to notice a difference in the connection that you share with your kids.
In order to stop thinking about things and have fun with your kids, the first thing that you need to do is to disconnect completely from technology. Turn off your computer, switch off your phone and even turn off the TV for a while.
Yes, all of these are very important bits of technology, but they’ll only distract you from spending time with your kids. Also, set aside your to-do list and just make yourself believe that what you have accomplished so far is good enough for today. Rather than focusing on getting all of it done today, take time out and just have fun with your kids. The love, joy and happiness that you get back from your kids is going to make it all worth it.
Treasure these moments
Treasure every single moment that you spend together with your children. Make sure that you put aside every single distraction and just focus on enjoying what you’re doing together in the moment because these are moments that will never come back.
1 You Get to Be Playful
As you spend time with your children, there’s a good chance that you’ll feel a playfulness arise in you. This is going to make it easier for you to just ‘do’ things that you previously found uninteresting. With their joy and laughter, you’ll be able to let go of that heavy, overthinking frame of mind and become a little carefree at least for the moment.
Their smiles and curiosity will take away your burdens and make life a bit more enjoyable – things will become super easy to do and you won’t find yourself burdened so much. Remember, kids are often rather playful and ‘present,’ and with them, you’ll also be able to become a little playful while connecting with the present.
The best part about living in the moment with your children is that it will help you relax and do away with your stress. You will feel much calmer as you focus on what your children are doing or want to do. By connecting with your kids in the moment you’ll be able to relieve your stress and enjoy life to the max while creating memories that all of you, as a family, will be able to cherish forever.
Stop being a worry-wart
Kids have a very carefree attitude towards life. There’s nothing in the world that they get worried about except for their toys, playtime and things they like to eat. This is something that you could definitely learn from your kids – not being a worry-wart all the time; it’s something you’ll pick along the way as you continue to live in the present with them.