Although Aaliyah (RIP) was quite right when she sang, “Age ain’t nothing but a number” the fact is that most of us don’t agree with her – to most of us, turning 30 is just the worst. No matter how many times you keep repeating that you don’t care a bit about turning 30, deep down inside there’s a part of you that’s going, “Oh shit,” right now.
For many people, turning 30 is kind of like a turning point in life. After years and years of feeling like an overgrown kid, you are now finally ready to be called and considered a grown-up. Because of this, 30th birthdays may trigger what can be considered a major existential crisis. This is the time when thoughts and questions like “What have I accomplished in life,” and “What am I planning to do with the rest of my life,” will start plaguing your mind.
When you’re younger, you keep on dreaming of all the things you‘ll do before turning 30. However, when you do turn 30, you come to realize that there are so many things that you left undone on your to-do list. Well, if that’s something you want to avoid, here’s a list of 7 things that you should definitely do before you turn 30:
7 Learn How to Handle Your Finances
This one is pretty obvious, right? As is known, success is typically measured in finances or financial stability in a majority of cases. This is the basic reason why the first job you hold is extremely important, even if the salary being offered is a far cry from the one that you’ve long been imagining and hoping for – no matter how hard things get, you need to make it suffice.
The reason for this is that your first job will go a long way in terms of helping you learn to be responsible, and to use the money as wisely as possible for the things that you need – not for the things that you want.
Spending money is a fairly natural act for all of us. However, no matter how wealthy we are, becoming broke is definitely going to be an issue if we continue spending more than we earn. This is why we need to control our spending – the more we practice this control, the easier it will be for us to save up an adequate amount of money to make decent investments later on in life.
Start Saving NOW
Do not wait until you’re close to 30 to start saving up money. I know someone who started contributing to his 401k at 27 and was barely into 5 digits when he turned 30. Had he started back when he was 22, he would have at least six digits by the time he became 30. Social security is just not going to be enough, so it is best for you to start saving for your retirement right now.
6 Start a Workout Routine
If you really want to be fit later on in life, it’s highly recommended for you to start making the right health choices at a young age. By building the foundation in your teens and twenties, it will be easily possible for you to continue with your workout regimen, even if it only includes walking for 45 minutes a day, later on in life. As your fitness plan will become a part of your life, it will become increasingly difficult for you to live without it.
Also, you need to make yourself a priority irrespective of how crazy things get with demands from school, work etc. It will be easier for you to dedicate time to working out when you prioritize yourself over all other aspects of your life. Consider your workout routine a reward for yourself instead of a punishment for slacking off or overeating.
Staying fit will be a whole lot more fun for you if you take a healthy, positive approach to it. If you feel unmotivated or sluggish at times, just think about the endgame – will working out make you feel better or worse? The answer, in most cases, is generally better.
Stretch, stretch and stretch
Stretching is important both before and after you work out. Post thirty; gravity is not going to be your friend anymore, which deems it necessary for you to incorporate fitness in your life early on. Stretching will warm up the muscles and protect you from becoming sore, post-workout. It should be part of your day, just like waking up, brushing your teeth, and hitting the gym."
5 Challenge Authority
All of us are born with an innate ability to become rebellious. We begin challenging authority right from our puberty, that too in multiple forms. For instance, we start listening to various types of music, at times out of sheer spite, in an attempt to annoy our parents. We also start drinking alcohol or smoking cigarettes even though we know how harmful these things are to our health.
No matter the harm, we keep doing these things just to show that they aren’t as detrimental as we were told they are. But apart from that reason, we also keep doing these things to establish our individual identities by showing how we don’t blindly trust everything we’re told.
Believe it or not, but you need to hone this trait for the benefits that it has to offer. If you think there’s a better way of doing things, stand up for your ideas and stick to them. Take charge of things if they sound too convenient. All through history, every individual that made groundbreaking discoveries did so by questioning the norms – by questioning the information that was presented to him/her as a universal truth.
A wonderful example of how we shouldn’t let our feats take over us and stop us from challenging authority is that of Nicolas Copernicus. He made a rather courageous move by challenging the theory that Earth is located right in the center of the universe. The theory he presented was the exact opposite of what the church wanted people to believe.
4 Learn to Love Yourself the Way You Are
This in no way means that you shouldn’t work on the things about you that you truly wish to change; it just means that you shouldn’t change yourself out of pure self-hatred. Look after yourself because you are truly in love with yourself. Apart from being kind to your heart, you will also be kind to your head.
You need to accept that you are beautiful irrespective of whether you wear lots of make or don’t wear any at all. No matter if you’re a girl who dolls-up like a glam chick with those killer smoky eyes and perfectly outlined lips or a radiant elf queen from a meadow who never wears makeup, you’re beautiful.
Your personal choices are not going to change how pretty you really are and to be honest, if you’re a genuinely warm person in general, your appearance really doesn’t matter!
Stop criticizing yourself
Criticism is not going to change anything. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself the way you are and be happy with it. People change, but when you start criticizing yourself, the changes in your personality are only going to be negative. When you accept yourself as you are, the changes you bring about are definitely going to be positive.
If you lack self-confidence, then it’s necessary for you to look for a bit of support for yourself. Reach out to your close friends and family members and let them help you out. Asking for help doesn’t mean you are weak – it means you are strong enough to realize when things start going downhill.
3 Try Your Hand at a New Sport
That’s right. If you haven’t achieved much in athletic prowess yet, it’s about time for you to try your hand at a new sport. Remember, physical peak in a majority of sports is considered to be attained between age 25 and 35. However, keeping those scary numbers aside for a bit, the fact is that getting to discover a whole new ability is one of the most exciting and confidence-boosting experiences that you can have in life. The best part is that the activity will also be very healthy for you.
What’s most important is that when you discover a new sport and start taking part in it, there’s a good chance that you will get to meet lots of new people. For instance, you will get to meet your teammates, trainers and even just people you pass in the gym.
Apart from that, you should also try out something that has long scared you before turning 30. Whether this means making a phone call or getting a severe adrenaline rush, you need to learn how to conquer your fears. However, the fear is just going to mount on you as you age and have more and more to protect.
Start being on your own
If the thing that scares you at 25 is skydiving, do it. Do it now because you can and because it will make you stronger. When you're older and not so limber, simple activities might scare you, but at least then you'll have these great adrenaline-filled memories to look back on.
Instead of relying on others, start living by yourself. Peel away from the care of your parents and siblings and start focusing on yourself. But when you do it, make sure that you stay in touch with them – peeling away doesn’t mean severing ties.
2 Don’t Give a Shit About Turning
That’s right – you need to stop giving a damn about turning 30 RIGHT NOW. Seriously. On a personal note, I spent a lot of time during my twenties worrying about the things I was supposed to do and all that I had to achieve. It all turned out to be pure bullshit for me.
There are only going to be a handful of things that you will be proud of when you turn 30 if you keep focusing on timelines and achievements. The twenties are all about getting a decent paying job and gaining life experience. Instead of putting yourself on a timeline, just focus on what you have and enjoy life to the fullest. If you fix goals, your scope in life is going to be rather limited and this is one thing that you are definitely going to regret – like I do.
Try something unconventional
Yes, the one thing you really should do before turning 30 is that of doing something totally unconventional. Experiment with yourself and life in general. However, make sure that you’re old and mature enough to break with tradition while being mature enough to deal with the results. This includes sexual curiosity as well and life-style curiosity. Really discover more about yourself without fearing judgment.
1 Work at Your Dream Job
At the moment, you’re working at a job that barely pays your bills or you’re working your way up the corporate ladder to get to where you’ve long wanted to be. However, there may be times when it feels like you will never be able to work at your dream job no matter how hard you try. Keep pushing yourself towards that goal. Keep being inspired and even take measures like going back to school if you have to. In the long run, you will definitely get there.
You’re never too late to dream, change your life, or learn new skills to start working at your dream career. It may have stressful moments and take time and long hours of studying through the night, but when you finally reach your goal the feeling will be amazing. No one knows what the future holds; you might end up stuck in a job you don’t like simply because you have no choice. But before this happens, give yourself a chance to find your dream job, even if it’s an unpaid position.
Take out time to volunteer
You’re going to spend all your life running after money in order to live a good life. However, your 20’s are the best time for you to do something without having to worry about monetary compensation. You can help the needy, feed the hungry or just volunteer with organizations that are lending a helping hand. It’s an initiative that is definitely going to make you feel good!