Having a miscarriage can be disappointing, heart-breaking, and scary. It is disappointing and heart-breaking because you were so excited that you were reading and anticipating all of the weekly developments of your baby. It is scary because you are worried that it may happen again. Whatever you do, you must remember that you are not alone.
There are other women that you can reach out to who have had miscarriages. Also, please remember that it is okay to grieve. Yes, you lost a real life. You lost a human being. You have the right to feel sad, angry, etc. I know it is hard, but you must not be so scared that you are extremely nervous when you are pregnant again. Pregnant again? Yes, most women do go on to get impregnated again.
Some immediately go on to have a planned pregnancy as soon it is healthy for them to do so. Others choose to wait to grieve the loss of their child. There are some proven practices to use to conceive after a miscarriage. Each individual is different. Whatever you do, take the time to do you. Grieve if you need to grieve, cry if you need to cry, talk with friends and family if needed, move on quickly if you needed.
Whatever you do make sure you are okay. Please make sure you are mentally ready to get pregnant again. It is not dangerous to try to get pregnant again after having a miscarriage, but it is healthier for you and the baby if you are mentally ready. In this article, we will discuss the nine best practices to conceive after a miscarriage.
10 Your Life
A miscarriage is the spontaneous loss of a fetus from the womb before it's able to survive on its own. It most often occurs before the 12th or 14th week of pregnancy. If your miscarriage occurs between 12 and 20 weeks, then you need to see a doctor to determine the cause. However, about 10 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriages. Some miscarriages occur so early that the female is not even aware that she was ever pregnant.
That's because the pregnancy may have failed to implant into the uterine wall. A woman might have a miscarriage around the time of her next menstrual cycle. The reasons for most miscarriages are unknown. However, many experts believe miscarriages happen due to the baby's bad chromosomes. Miscarriages can occur if the mother experiences any type of trauma such as an accident or fall. Your chances of having a miscarriage increases if you have a history of miscarriages.
A miscarriage is scary and incredibly disappointing and depressing
Some conditions such as thrombophilia (blood clotting), diabetes, auto-immune disorders, and thyroid problems can be treated early in the pregnancy to minimize the chance of a miscarriage. In addition, an abnormal shape of your uterus can prevent implantation. Pregnancy becomes more difficult as a woman gets older in many ways. This occurs because the sperm or egg may be unhealthy.
9 Healthy Lifestyle
No one really knows the causes of miscarriages except for abnormalities, etc as discussed earlier. Nevertheless, we can discuss having a healthy lifestyle while trying to conceive and once impregnated. Please eat healthy (a balanced diet with fruits and vegetables). Take a daily prenatal vitamin ideally a few months before trying to conceive.
Women need prenatal vitamins instead of regular vitamins. Women particularly need the folic acid that is in prenatal vitamins. Folic acid prevents neural tube defects. Stop drinking alcohol and smoking. Poor diets, too much caffeine, drugs, smoking, or exposure to chemicals can cause miscarriages as well. Eliminate or decrease your consumption of caffeine. Choose gentle exercises.
A healthy lifestyle will increase your chances of sustaining a pregnancy
It's not good to be underweight or overweight. You can check your BMI to get an accurate measurement of your weight. There may be issues with the mother's hormones, she may have an infection or chronic health condition. Poor diets, too much caffeine, drugs, smoking, or exposure to chemicals can cause miscarriages as well.
8 Genetic Testing
Genetic testing may help you to find out why you're having miscarriages, it could be a problem with your genetic code accepting your husband's, or there could be a medical condition preventing you from becoming pregnant.
Some doctors say if you have had two or more miscarriages, then you need to consider testing. Other doctors say if you have had three or more miscarriages, definitely get yourself tested. Testing is needed if you have had miscarriages occurring after 20 weeks. There could be a genetic issue causing the miscarriages.
Take a genetic test to see if your DNA is baby ready
There could be structural issues with the uterus. It has been stated that progesterone therapy is great for preventing miscarriages. Tests can help pinpoint precautions and steps that you may need to do before attempting to conceive again.
7 Medicinal Aids
It might be possible that you need a medical intervention to become pregnant, which could mean that you need to take medicines in order to keep your pregnancy. The only way to know for sure is to get yourself tested.
Be careful with prescription drugs and herbs. It is best to avoid all medicine, herbs, and home remedies unless your doctor to say it is okay. Never take anything without your doctor's knowledge and stamp of approval.
Always take precautions with medicines and pregnancy
And never continue medications if you're experiencing adverse reactions from the prescriptions or the home remedies. If you're ever unsure always get a second medical opinion, never take something just because one doctor says to take it.
Some infections can cause you to be sterile. It's possible to have an infection and not realize you have one. If you suspect that you have an infection make an appointment to see your doctor and discuss your concerns.
Check to make sure you don't have any infections prior to trying to conceive. Some infections can cause miscarriages. If you have an infection that can be cured by antibiotics. Wait until you have finished all of the antibiotics before trying to conceive.
Some infections have next to no side effects that you'd notice
Once you've finished the antibiotics get your doctor's okay before you begin trying for a baby again. You want to make sure that you're physically able to sustain the pregnancy the next time around.
5 Miscarriage Risks
Educate yourself and learn your risks. Women who are over the age of 35, smoke, use drugs, have chronic health issues, women who don't practice a healthy lifestyle have an increased risked of having miscarriages. Therefore, women who are aware of their risks may be able to change their lifestyle. Thus, eliminating some of their risks factors.
There might even be environmental factors that are keeping you from having a baby. Pesticides, certain chemicals and environmental agents can cause miscarriages and health problems. Be sure that you use protective gear when necessary whether at work or at home when using chemical abrasives and cleaners.
Know your risk of a repeat miscarriage
Talk to your doctor about chemicals you're exposed to so they can further assist you in becoming pregnant and staying pregnant. Your doctor might even recommend that you go on maternity leave immediately if they suspect your work environment of being the cause o your ordeal.
4 Your Emotions
Get in touch with your emotions. You need to get in touch with your emotions and understand them. Having a miscarriage is a very difficult thing to handle. Having a miscarriage may trigger a range of emotions. You have to face, understand, and handle these emotions.
Everyone handle loss in different ways. However, there are known grief stages that we all go through. We definitely know that dealing with a miscarriage is not easy. However, make sure you have healed or on the healing path. Your feelings are normal and you should talk with others about your feelings.
Never keep your emotions bottled up
You could talk to your partner, health practitioner, etc. You can also try to find other women who have been through the same thing. You can join discussion boards for women who have had miscarriages. There are also websites dedicated to women who have had miscarriages. Search and seek for help.
3 Stress and Anxiety
Find ways to cope with stress and anxiety. You have work and life in general to deal with. On top of that you are worried about this pregnancy because your other pregnancies ended in miscarriage. How oh how do you deal with the stress and anxiety?
I know it is extremely difficult, but you must find a way to channel your stress and anxiety. You can try prayer, yoga, or meditation. You can take relaxing walks, listen to music, and pamper yourself. Keep yourself away from toxic relationships and take time for yourself.
Try to lower your stress levels and anxiety during pregnancy
Alone time can be what you need to de-stress and lower your anxiety. A good book can take your mind of your worries and give you some escape if only for a little bit.
2 Mental Health
Take care of yourself, it is okay to tend to yourself. You need to take care of yourself emotionally and physically. You should not be ashamed to seek psychological help. Seeking help is definitely beneficial to you. Studies have even shown that seeking psychological help even helps future pregnancies and births.
Don't give up. Stay positive and keep trying. Women who have had miscarriages can have children. I know this for sure because I was one of those women who lost babies due to miscarriages. I kept trying and now I have a six year old boy. It is possible, so don't lose hope.
Feel more confident about pregnancy and give yourself some tools to attempt the pregnancy journey again. We're rooting for you and know that you'll be fine. There are other things you can do as well to improve your chances of conceiving. You can ask your employer to minimize your work stress. You can try working from home if your employer allows. You can also ask for extra scans during your pregnancy.
You will have a baby, don't focus on your loss and keep your head up, you'll get there
This may lower anxiety and provide reassurance to some women. You may have to shop around to find an OBGYN who is willing to provide extra care. You want your doctor to perform progesterone tests and screen you with an early ultrasound. You need to find a doctor who will listen to your concerns and show you compassion.
1 Outside Help
Now I would like to give a few tips for those of you who may need to show support to someone who have lost their baby due to a miscarriage. You need to be compassionate, kind, and considerate. Please choose your words carefully. You don't want to say something that would make her feel worse. The best thing to do is to listen to her. Allowing her to discuss her feelings is very therapeutic for her.
You could make her something or send her a card. Try to give her exactly what she needs. Help with chores and activities if she would like help. Some women like to be alone and some like to be surrounded by people during the sorrow. Keep checking on her even after some time has passed. I know you may feel uncomfortable and under distress as well, especially if you are someone who truly cares about her.
You may also be experiencing grief as well, because you're someone who loved the baby too you might also be going through a tough time. You may need to take some time to help yourself as well, but remember you need to be there for her. Having a miscarriage is a tough, heartbreaking thing to happen. Please don't believe that you shouldn't have any emotions because you don't usually hear about others feeling any pain.
Your support during this time will mean the world to her
People hardly ever talk about the emotions that are involved when a miscarriage occurs. You'll only hear the statement I had a miscarriage. You will rarely hear the statement I had a miscarriage and it's really taking a toll on me emotionally. I thought I was an alien for having my feelings. I had to read books about other women and how they felt because the women in my immediate circle who had miscarriages didn't seemed bothered by it.
I also stumbled upon TV programs about other women and how they felt about their miscarriages. This began my seek and search program. I sought out more and more information. The information let me know that I wasn't alone in how I felt. This single thing helped me tremendously. Ladies, please don't give up. Please get the help you need to heal if needed.