The idea of calling oneself a "bad mom" is truly en vogue - a furor to be precise. The trend represents a stark metamorphosis as mothers have gone from clinging to an unwillingness to expose themselves to judgment, too abounding disclosure. Facebook groups have become the platform to revel in this abandonment of restraint and the reviews are nothing shy of ‘raunchy’.
The New York Post declares that the new Bad Mom Facebook group, a phenomenon revered by mothers worldwide is defined by unfiltered parameters where “the conversations sound more like locker-room talk than school drop-off chatter”. Where women, “ share a lot more than meatloaf recipes or the latest Dr. Phil parenting tips”.
Every mother will profess, keeping up with every facet of life is insurmountable. The pursuit of motherhood comes with an immeasurable amount of pressure and very little time to be taken for one's self. So, when Bad Moms, an American comedy about a trio of overworked and under-appreciated moms who finally allow themselves to be selfish and take back their lives came out, it’s premise was seducing.
Mila Kunis who played Amy, one of the featured parents in the groundbreaking film shares, “It’s not ‘bad mom’ like, oh I’m gonna leave my kid for 20 days and run away to Mexico and have margaritas". She further explains that the film channels the frustrations of stressed-out moms, revealing that so much of what was implemented in the storyline scattered around real stories.
The Facebook group is actually one of at least five similar groups, Bad Moms of Long Island has racked up 8,000-plus members since August. Bad Moms (uncensored), has more than 6,800 fellow members. The reality is, women inclined to believe they are bad moms are in pursuit of other moms to trust and confide in. Jezebel contributes, the confessions are raw. “My man is a weirdo,” divulges one breastfeeding Bad Mom...“He wasn’t bothered by them leaking at all. He thought it was sexy. I’m like, touch them, I’ll kill you.” A Long Island mom asserts...“Just got my husband to spend $100 on cheese, cured meats, and olives for sex”.
What is more intriguing than the racy, tongue in cheek comments indicative of these groups, is the level of exclusivity they impose. Tara Johnson, 46, co-founder of Bad Moms of Long Island, said her group requires prospective members to submit a questionnaire about where they live and if they have kids. She adds, there is one strict rule: What happens in Bad Moms stays in Bad Moms. Johnson gives an example in which said once kicked out a member for sharing a photo of another mom with a separate Facebook group, as it violated the secrecy code. “It’s like Fight Club,” she said.
Kunis, who has two children with husband Ashton Kutcher, confesses, "I don't think that's something I ever could have understood until I had kids of my own. I think Bad Moms (one and two) bring that to light, what we truly go through for our kids and the pressure we as moms — we, as women — put on ourselves."