Actress and podcast host, Becca Tobin, has recently been very vocal about undergoing IVF so she could freeze her embryos with her husband, Zach Martin. Now Becca is letting people know to stop asking women about their fertility.
Fans may remember Becca from her role as Kitty Wilde in the musical comedy-drama series, Glee. After that she found fame again when she joined the popular podcast, The LadyGang, alongside ET host, Keltie Knight, and designer, Jac Vanek. The podcast has garnered quite a big success, as they had a short-lived show on E! and were even going to host a live show. Now Becca is planning to embark on her next big adventure: motherhood!
Becca opened up to PEOPLE about why she decided to undergo IVF during the pandemic. "I actually like to put things out when I know I'm not going to see people, so I can control how much I let in after I've put so much out there," she revealed. "So quarantine was the perfect time for me to do it, because I could post a video and then turn away from social media...I had time to process that for myself."
The actress felt that during quarantine was the perfect time for her to undergo IVF and to share as much as she wanted to. Now is when people are feeling the most isolated and need something to feel connected to. The podcaster felt people are going through so much right now and need to hear that they are not the only ones going through a bad time. "Women put their fertility journeys on hold because of COVID, or whatever...I felt like it's a disservice to not really put everything out there...I couldn't be like, 'Yay, my life is perfect.' I just felt like, no, that's not the truth...And that was why I felt like I needed to talk about it," she explained. Becca knew with her platform she could help other women who may be going through something similar.
Becca also recently took to her Instagram where she and Zach sat down with their fertility specialist, Dr. Said Daneshmand. He reassured the couple that the embryos they froze have a 70-80% chance of implantation, pregnancy, and delivery with at least three of the five.
While many fans and friends have reached out to her with good intentions, they often ask the wrong questions that can often be painful for the 34-year-old, she explained. Becca is now asking people not to inquire any further about her and Zach's IVF journey. "Please don't text me. We just need to understand that: Stop asking women about their fertility, and let them volunteer the information and read the room," the actress declared. Now that Becca has gone public with her journey, she realizes that people might be commenting if they believe they've spotted a baby bump or will ask point black if she is pregnant. Seeing comments and questions like this can be tough and just adds more pressure to the person and their family, the actress revealed.
Every women's IVF journey is a difficult process and being constantly asked about it can be tough to hear. Like Becca said, unless the women volunteers to speak about their fertility do not ask about it.
Sources: People, The Daily Mail, Instagram: @becca