10 Controversial Parenting Topics To Avoid With The In-Laws

Being a parent is awesome, but it can be really hard. One of the things that makes raising children a difficult thing to do doesn’t even have anything to do with kids at all, but it has a lot to do with other people.

When it comes to parenting, and how a person chooses to do it, it seems that they constantly face judgment from those who are around them. In many cases, that is especially true when those people are their in-laws.

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This means that there are some topics parents try to avoid discussing with their in-laws. Here are a few of them.

10 The Child’s Name

Naming a baby can cause some issues within a persons’ family, especially when it comes to the baby's’ grandparents. This is part of the reason why naming a child is not always fun to do.

There are lots of parents who worry that they will hurt a person’s feelings if they choose the 'wrong' name for their baby. Sometimes in-laws can get upset when the baby is not named after them, which can make get-togethers and holidays pretty awkward. This is definitely a topic that parents will want to avoid bringing up when the in-laws are spending time with them.

9 Who Is Allowed In The Delivery Room

Some in-laws have been really upset if they were not allowed in the delivery room when their grandchild was being born. Wanting to be in the room when the baby comes is totally understandable, since this is a really big deal.

But there are some in-laws who have a bit of trouble respecting the wishes of the parents-to-be if they choose not to have them in there. This kind of thing should be entirely up to the parents, and other people need to accept that someone else’s birth is not about them at all. Parents should try to avoid talking about this topic with the in-laws for as long as they can.

8 Vaccination Is A Touchy Subject

Vaccination can be a very controversial topic that people should probably never bring up with their in-laws. While most people support vaccination, there are some that don't, and others who believe in staggering vaccination schedules or avoiding specific vaccines.

Whether or not a child gets vaccinated for something is currently up to their parents (and occasionally their schools or doctor's offices), but that usually does not stop others from having really strong opinions on the matter. This is probably a topic that could cause some arguments within the family so parents who want everyone to stay on good terms with one another need to keep the in-laws out of conversations about it.

7 What Parenting Style To Go With

There are many different parenting styles, and a persons’ in-laws will likely have a lot to say about which one they do or do not use. There are a few main styles to choose from, and which one a person uses is entirely up to them, as other people should not have a say in this matter.

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Authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved are some of the different styles. Different people have different personalities, and that is why so many people disagree on how to raise children. In-laws may not be very happy if their grandchild is being raised a different way than what they would prefer.

6 Ear Piercing

Ear piercing can be a rather controversial topic, and it is another thing parents don’t really need to bring up with their in-laws. Everyone has lots of thoughts on whether or not little ones should have their ears pierced, as well as how old they should be when it happens.

This topic has caused such a controversy that thousands of people actually signed a petition against it a few years ago. Some people feel that young babies should not be able to get their ears pierced because it alters their body, and they are not old enough to consent to it.

5 Whether Or Not The Child Will Be Religious

Religion is a very controversial topic, and it is usually best for a person to completely avoid discussing it with their in-laws, especially if there are religious differences in the family. There have some cases in which a childs’ grandparents were not very happy that the baby was not growing up in a religious household.

There are also times when they can be upset over the fact that a child is not getting baptized. But this is something that in-laws should not be involved in, since this is another thing that is up to the child's’ parents. Religion is a touchy thing for families to talk about.

4 How Mom Should Give Birth

There are a couple of different ways to give birth, and sometimes in-laws have some pretty strong thoughts on the matter when their grandkids are involved. While there are still lots of moms giving birth in a hospital (and with medicine), it seems like there are also plenty of them who are choosing to have unmedicated or at-home births - which can be scary for in-laws who are just worried about safety.

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This shouldn’t be discussed with the in-laws because it is solely up the parents (especially the mother) - and may well lead to arguments if you choose to give birth in a way your in-laws didn't.

3 Kissing The Child

Many parents are not fans of their family members kissing their new babies, but it seems to be something that some in-laws love to do anyway. While the child’s grandparents might see kissing them as harmless, it can actually be a risk to their health.

Babies are truly adorable, so it is easy to understand why some people want to give them kisses, but that should never happen, especially when a child is really young. Those who want to do it might mean well, but they can spread germs to the child that way, which is why kissing babies is generally frowned upon.

2 How The Baby Is Fed

Once parents-to-be decide how they wish to feed their little ones, they should definitely avoid bringing that topic into any conversations they have with their in-laws. While not all in-laws are the same, some of them will probably not be very happy with the way their grandchild is being fed.

Many of them are totally cool with mothers who choose to breastfeed their babies, while others would prefer their grandchild to be fed with formula instead. But it does not matter how a child is fed. What really matters is that they are getting the nutrition that they really need.

1 Try Not To Discuss Discipline Methods

In-laws are not always comfortable with the way their grandchild is being disciplined. Some parents are completely okay with spanking their little ones when they get out of line, and others try to take a different route to teach their kids about what is right and wrong.

How a child is disciplined should be decided by the parents. But there are still other people who may not like the decision they make, such as their in-laws. This kind of topic may not be very pleasant to discuss with them. Parents are sometimes heavily judged for how they choose to discipline their offspring.

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