Danielle Fishel has been dealing with a lot of mom guilt after her son spent 3 weeks in the NICU.
It has been a rough start of motherhood for Danielle Fishel! We were all so excited that our former Boy Meets World star was pregnant. We have all watched her grow up as our beloved Topanga and we were excited to be able to watch her become a mother and raise a sweet little baby. We loved watching her belly grow and we were stoked when she told us she would be having a little boy! However, things got a little bit tricky when her water broke a month early. Fishel said that her water broke and she went straight to the hospital. Her son was born at 35 weeks and had to spend some time in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).
Her son, Adler, had to stay three weeks in the NICU and it was so hard for Fishel. She said that it was a difficult time and it was the hardest thing she has been through. When Adler was born they found fluid in his lungs. She told People in an interview that she blamed herself. She said when her son was in the NICU she blamed herself the entire time. She felt like somehow it was her fault that her son was in the situation he was in. She blamed herself for her son being sick. She told People “I had this feeling instantly of somehow it was my fault,” she said. Baby Adler had chylothorax, which she describes as a “leak in the lymphathic system” that was exacerbated by breast milk. As a result of Adler’s condition, Danielle said she and her husband “had to take him off of breast milk and put him on a specially formulated formula that doesn’t use the lymphatic system.”
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She admitted that she felt like her body was fighting against her son. She knew that her breastmilk was supposed to be giving him all the nutrients that he would need and it was supposed to be keeping him alive. However, instead of being good for him and keeping him alive it was actually the reason that he was in the hospital. The thought that her breastmilk was the reason for his long hospital stay was really hard for her to cope with. When they took him off the breastmilk she felt like a failure. Not only did her child come early, but then she wasn't able to provide him with breastmilk. Fishel admitted, “You want your body and everything you do as a mom to be functioning optimally for your baby and when it’s not, you feel like a failure,” she said. “There was a little bit of a mourning process and a grieving process for me there.”
Fishel certainly isn't the only mother who has had these thoughts. Most moms have to deal with mom guilt whenever something happens to their child. We have to tell Fishel that none of this is her fault and she is doing a great job as a mother. We hope that she knows that she didn't do anything wrong! It wasn't her fault that her son came early and it wasn't her fault that her son was sick and had to spend time in the NICU.