Before I had children, I knew I wanted to give them a pacifier. I know too many kids who still suck on their thumbs because they never got a binky. It is much easier to take away a binky than it is to take away a thumb. People always say their teeth get screwed up with a pacifier but every dentist I have talked to said that thumbs do the exact same thing! So we chose to give our child a pacifier so that they could have that comfort.
We have loved having them have pacifiers. They get comforted and they are able to sleep better with it. When babies are little, they often try to use mom as a pacifier and I never have had to deal with that because I just shove a binky in their mouth. When we have weaned them from their pacifiers, that is it. They don't suck on their hands and we don't have to break the thumb sucking habit.
It has been a good decision for us. However, we get a lot of hate for our choice. A lot of people will say things like, "Well, I wish that I could see their smile but they have that stupid thing in their mouth." I have been told that pacifiers are only for "lazy" parents.
I am not sure why so many people have such strong opinions on what I do with my child. People can't just stay in their own lane and mind their own business. These are my kids and we have made the decision to give them pacifiers and they have them until they are toddlers. That is the choice we have made and it doesn't affect you in the slightest.
My favourite memory of this was a mother going off about how giving children a binky was terrible and how I am definitely going to have to give my kids braces. She went on for about 10 minutes about how terrible a parent I am and then she goes on to say that her child is 12 and still sucks his thumb at night.
It is strange that parents sometimes think that their way is the best and only way to raise their children. My child uses a pacifier and I am not going to let you make me feel bad about it.