Surrogacy is an incredibly valuable option for couples who struggle to get pregnant. Several celebrities have recently opened up about using a surrogate, and are so grateful to the women who carried their babies. Though it is a beautiful and selfless act, there is still a stigma that comes with it.
Charlie’s Angels director and actress Elizabeth Banks revealed to Porter Magazine that even though she knows she is justified in using a surrogate for her two children, she still feels judged by others. She said, “I definitely think I’m still judged for what I’ve done and that people don’t understand my choices, but I don’t feel I owe anybody any explanation.” Banks has had two boys via surrogacy, Felix 8 and Magnus 7. She has kept to her word and didn’t reveal a specific reason for using a surrogate other than fertility issues. And she is right, she doesn’t owe anyone an explanation.
On average, there are around 750 gestational surrogate births in the U.S. every year. Gestational surrogacy is when an embryo created through IVF (In-Vitro-Fertilization) is successfully implanted into a surrogate mother. That is such a small percentage compared to the 3 million babies that were born last year in the U.S. It is unfair to judge a woman for using a surrogate because it’s nobody’s business but her own.
Women constantly compare their birth stories and judge others based on the decisions made such as using an epidural, having a home birth, being induced, or not having their mother-in-law in the delivery room.
Even though her body may not have been capable of carrying her children, Banks is a mother in every way. She has loved those boys even before they were born and they are still her first priority today. To show this, she told reporters in June that she brings her boys to work to let them see what she does to provide for their family.
Banks stated, “I think that parenting is your number one job… we should be having whole lives. I don’t need to separate my work from my kids as much as I used to.” Other working Hollywood moms, such as Eva Longoria, are also trying to bridge the gap between work and motherhood. Aren't moms, awesome?