Having a baby is a huge life change; and let's be honest, it's one of the hardest changes you can endure. For a lot of young mothers, the change can be quite difficult to cope with and adjust to for many reasons. One such person is actress and singer Hilary Duff. Duff has recently spoken out about her experience of becoming a mother at 24 and how isolating it was for her- a feeling a lot of us can relate to. The former Lizzie McGuire star gave birth to son Luca Cruz back in 2012, while she was still married to now ex-husband Mike Comrie.
"It was a little isolating in the beginning because I didn't have any friends that had babies yet," she says during a feature on The Motherly Podcast.
Duff goes on explaining that although 'early' in terms of when society says you should have children, she knew she had always wanted to be a mom, and felt as ready as you can feel when it comes to becoming a parent.
"I only got scared once I was pregnant, you know, thinking like, 'Oh this is actually really happening. What if this? What if that?" she explains. This feeling of being scared of the unknown when it comes to having a baby is pretty universal across the age span of childbearing women.
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Duff says that after having Luca- who is now seven- it felt like a lot of her identity went missing after he was born. Although she says she wouldn't have traded it for the world, it seemed like being a mother was her entire identity when he was young. Many women relate to what Duff had to say about motherhood in that it isn't all cute outfits and photo ops, even when you're famous. It's hard and it takes a lot of out a person- energy-wise and mentally.
"Once you do find yourself again, you have the biggest thing under your belt that nobody can take away from you and you're so confident," Duff says. "I did spin it as a positive thing because sitting in it when it was happening maybe I was a little sad about it and I didn't feel like I had anyone to go through the experience with, but then I came out on the other side. I'm like, I'm a freaking superwoman and I can do anything and I have confidence for days."
One of the most important things you can do as a mother is doing what you need to do in order to keep that person you were before you had a baby. Losing yourself for a while after giving birth is normal because you get so caught up in focusing on another person's needs more than your own. But just remember that the happier you are, the better mom you'll be for your child.