Getting pregnant seems simple but considering how many things biologically have to go right in order to conceive, what are the odds? We know many couples struggle to get pregnant and others have no problem, but pregnancy isn't as likely to happen every month as you may think.
The facts are that a healthy woman under the age of 30 not using contraception has a 20% chance of getting pregnant every month. At age 40, those odds drop to 5%. These statistics were calculated by the American Society of Reproductive Medicine. These numbers aren't surprising when you consider that there are only a few days a month each woman can get pregnant.
Get ready for a biology lesson. Women can only get pregnant when they ovulate which is when the uterus releases an egg for fertilization. An egg doesn't live long in the body, only 24 hours before it essentially dies, so the sooner sperm gets to it, the better. Timing is everything. Sperm, on the other hand, can live for up to five days outside of the body on surfaces and in a woman's body
So in order to get pregnant, you need to have sex right before you ovulate or the day of. Sperm either needs to be there waiting for your egg to release or get to it the day you ovulate. This time is called your fertile window. If the egg does go unfertilized, you get your period.
It takes women 30 and under on average six months to get pregnant. Of course, it is normal for it to take longer but any longer than a year is when couples should seek medical help. But if you have been trying to get pregnant with no luck, track your ovulation cycles first. Since every woman's body is different, you can't depend on your period dates completely.
If you're regular it will be easier but not absolute. Most women ovulate 14 days after they get their period. Look for signs of ovulation. You can do this by tracking your body basal temperature (BBT) and your cervical mucus. Your temperature is warmer during ovulation and your cervical mucus is much thicker. Another easy way is to buy some ovulation test strip.
They test your pee for oestrogen, the chemical that signifies ovulation is imminent. If you have sex while ovulating and your heathy egg meets a healthy sperm, they will form an embryo. Your body then needs to be in a receptive state in order to implant in the uterus and develop into a baby.
It isn't known why some embryos implant and others don't which is why the chances of pregnancy a month is only 20%. It is a small number, but if you're healthy with a regular cycle, you should get pregnant sooner than later. Be patient and easy on yourself.