Having a miscarriage is a very emotional and traumatic experience. All of the excitement of discovering you're pregnancy suddenly turns into disappointment and frustration in a moment. Though couples wish they could turn back the clock, they also understand that they can move forward after a miscarriage. If you've experienced this, here's some advice to help encourage you and your partner to try to get pregnant again.
There are no time restrictions that prohibit you from trying to conceive after a miscarriage; however, you and your partner should be prepared before starting the process again. It's important to take enough time to grieve and heal from this experience. The truth is, a miscarriage is similar to giving birth, and you need time to heal both emotionally and physically from it. Your body went through the same labor process as a full-term pregnancy. You felt the nausea, the cramping, the hormones, the bleeding, and the exhaustion that comes with delivering a baby. It’s recommended that you give your body time to heal, just like every mother should. You and your partner should also take time to emotionally process what happened before deciding when it's right to try again.
The most crucial aspect of trying to get pregnant again concerns your ovulation cycle. After a miscarriage, it could take anywhere from four to six weeks for you to ovulate. This doesn’t mean you and your partner shouldn’t try in the meantime, but it does show that timing is everything. Moreover, studies have shown that couples who try to become pregnant again within three months of a miscarriage have a higher success rate of becoming pregnant than those who wait longer.
There are too many factors to pinpoint exactly why miscarriages happen- and unfortunately, many women end up blaming themselves for it. As women, our bodies are designed to create and carry babies. So when a miscarriage happens, we feel like our bodies have betrayed us, and so it’s our fault. But that's simply not true. So much of pregnancy is really out of our hands such as the quality of the egg and sperm, where the egg attaches, or if cells divide correctly. You're not responsible for a miscarriage, and therefore you shouldn't carry any guilt for it.
The best you can do is find out as much information possible about the miscarriage and keep trying. Doctors recommend taking a prenatal vitamin with folic acid and to “make sure you have any other medical issues under control, such as diabetes or high blood pressure”. By living a healthy lifestyle, you're giving yourself and your baby the best chance at life.