In a typical or "average" pregnancy, the expectant mother might experience some unpleasant symptoms. Morning sickness, back pain, and heartburn can all make normal daily life seem like it's out of reach. Some mothers, however, have much more going on in their pregnancy than some sleepless nights. For them, the uncertainty of pregnancy is just the tip of the iceberg. Medically complex pregnancies put a special kind of wear and tear on mothers and babies alike. I would know - I've had two myself.
When I say, "medically complex", I am referring to pregnancies that involve any sort of atypical condition. This can range from having a bicornuate uterus to developing gestational diabetes (like I did in my own pregnancies). My natural curiosity makes me wonder about the "why" - why does this happen in some pregnancies and not others? What has caused this condition? But for the purposes of our article, let me be crystal clear: I am not a medical professional. Any guess on the causation of a medical condition is going to be just that: a guess. A stab in the dark. Instead of trying to figure out why some mothers struggle with these conditions, I'd like to focus instead on what these moms can do to help themselves and their baby(ies).
Get A Second Opinion
Hearing the words, "We got your results back," makes my butthole clench and my stomach drop. (Side note: Does your butthole clench to keep your stomach from dropping entirely out of your body?) It's a gut punch that you often don't expect, even if you're a worst-case-scenario person. Before you take any action, I highly recommend using the BRAIN decision-making tool. Ask about: Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, and Not Right Now. As in, what is my intuition telling me? And what happens if we don't do anything about this right now? After you've assessed urgency, seek out a second opinion. If nothing else, this added voice of reason will calm your worries. You'll be more confident that you made the right choice!
Take Immediate Action
With a diagnosis in hand, it's time to get in the driver's seat. You needn't let your medically complex pregnancy run you ragged. Instead, empower yourself to learn about your health. This action could take any number of forms: medication, therapy, exercise and diet change. Acting as quickly as possible can prevent further complications, or worse. Maybe you're feeling a bit rushed as we speak? That's because I want you to appreciate the urgency. Once you know better, you have to do better. For your sake, and for the baby's!
Give Yourself A Break
Enduring a medically complex pregnancy is not for the faint of heart. Perhaps even worse than dealing with the condition itself is the guilt and regret that floods over the expectant mom. Trust me, mom guilt is a REAL thing and it is such an overwhelming feeling; it can threaten to sweep your feet out from under you. Before you go blaming yourself or pointing fingers, remember this: This is not your fault. It will never be your fault, no matter what happens.
Have you ever had a medically complex pregnancy? How did you find out? Share your truth with me on Twitter @pi3sugarpi3.