Allow me to give you a general overview of my first week as a stay-at-home mom. Technically it hasn't even been a full week yet, since we moved on Sunday and Monday. Regardless - for four days, I have been home alone with the kids each day. And even though I'm not going to work, I'm still exhausted and I need something to pick me up in the morning.
Coffee is amazing. Let's be real, I don't think I'd be half as successful without coffee. It gives me a little jolt and an edge on those silly non-caffeinated adults. (I kid.) I need coffee in my life to get through it. My husband has started bringing me coffee in bed, so that I can just enough of a buzz to help me shake off the morning sleepies and run around after my toddler. I'm going to regret telling you this, because it's going to come back and bite me. But, for right now, my son has a pretty decent sleep schedule. He naps two hours in the afternoon and sleeps almost twelve hours overnight. So, I consider myself lucky. In the world of toddlers, I get a respectable amount of rest. For someone with two under two, I get a shocking amount of rest (Rory is a pretty good sleeper, too). Even so, I'm still exhausted.
I cannot imagine how much more difficult this would be without coffee. I've honestly become dependent on coffee to make me feel like I can keep up with the momentum of the day. Things get ahead of me really quickly if I don't have that little java jolt to get me going in the morning. It's cliche, I know.
As a SAHM, I often look at coffee as a little break for myself. I usually have some as a reprieve before my day starts. During the day, I'll make pour-over style coffee. It takes a few minutes, but it makes only one cup and it tastes delicious. Usually, I'll put my son down for his nap, nurse my daughter to sleep, and then finally get a chance to make myself a cuppa joe. It feels indulgent, this first quiet moment in the day to gather my thoughts and game plan the rest of my afternoon. I savor this moment, a little luxury for myself. It's not just the caffeine that's getting me through the day. It's the anticipation of this small treat.
And what's even better? Coffee makes me feel like I can execute that game plan and win. Maybe it's a placebo effect, but I swear to you it makes me feel more capable of tackling whatever obstacles come my way. I can run to keep up with my son, and I get a moment to practice self-care. Everyone wins. You might even say that everyone is happier when mama has her cup of coffee.
I guess my takeaway from my first week as a stay-at-home mom is this: caffeine is wonderful; and without it, I don't think I could make it through my day. Running after kids takes a lot more time and attention and I don't get half as much done as I feel I should; but without coffee, I'd actually get nothing done. If you love someone with a toddler, take them a cup of coffee. It's crazy how much caffeine one mom needs to keep up with a toddler that doesn't ever have any caffeine themselves!