While many women will be quick to lament the many struggles that come with pregnancy (i.e. bed rest, morning sickness, swollen ankles, etc.), others will admit to struggling just to get pregnant. Celebrities and non-celebrities alike have shared the hardships they've faced with trying to start a family of their own. Add in the increasing pressure of friends, family, and even complete strangers, it can all take its toll on you.
But when you and your partner have been trying for a long time (be it months or years), it can become an emotionally draining task. You might even begin to wonder if it's worth doing anymore. If you and/or your partner are beginning to feel this way, perhaps it's time to take a break from trying to conceive.
There are a lot of good reasons to take a break from trying to conceive. As mentioned above, doing exactly that for a long period of time with no success can impact your emotional state. Taking a break will allow you to not worry about conceiving for however long you decide to stop. If the stress of the situation is beginning to affect other aspects of your life, a break is a great idea to consider. If you're considering taking a bigger step to aid in your journey to conceive (i.e. donor, IVF, surrogacy)- or are unsure if you should continue doing so (if you've tried any of those methods)- taking a break can help you make the best decision for both you and your partner. Finally, if you experience a miscarriage, take a break so you can recover from this devastating loss.
There are a lot of pros that come with taking a break from conceiving. First, it allows you to take as much time as you need to consider what your next steps should be. It also allows you to resume your life before you and your partner had begun trying to have a baby, which means that you can live your life as you please. Doing all this can reduce all the stress that comes with trying as well. Plus, you can do many more things that you wouldn't be able to do while trying to get pregnant (i.e. drinking).
But as with anything ever, there are a fair amount of cons to this matter. If you're over 35 years old or your fertility worsens after taking that break, you've lost time that can never come back. You may also find that your anxiety increases because you'd rather just keep trying and trying until you eventually become pregnant. Lastly, if you're spending a lot of money on certain fertility treatments (IVF program), you may lose money from not completing what you're supposed to.
So if this concerns you and your partner, should you stop trying for a while? The best thing you can do is talk to your doctor or health professional about your current situation. They can determine if a break is necessary, as well as recommend how long it should be. If it's more of an emotional break you're seeking, a therapist or other mental health professional can help you cope with your fertility issues.
As far as you and your partner are concerned, understanding what this break from trying means is key. This means having intercourse either with or without using any sort of protection. It all boils down to what makes you both comfortable. You also need to come up with a date to resume trying. It must be one that you both agree to. Then, when you're both ready to try conceiving again, you'll both be ready to do exactly that.