It’s not quite clear when a bored child became something of intense concern. So much so, that in a sense, it gave rise to a new style of parenting - indicative of over-protective designs.
The very pressing, global phenomenon of intensive parenting, is the current answer for moms gripped on the premise that their kids always be kept busy. It’s an ultra-modern, faced-paced and pricey approach that experts believe - lacks merit. According to USA Today, ‘Intensive ’parents are taking helicopter parenting to the next level.
Live Science shares that intensive parenting is a style with three main philosophies: That mothers are the best possible people to care for their children, that mothering should center around the child's needs, and that children should be considered delightful and wholly fulfilling for parents. Moms who take an "intensive" approach, marked by the belief that they are the most important people in the baby's life and that parents should always put their child's needs first.
It is a seemingly extreme approach that has evolved from much of the pressure parents feel stems from wanting to pass on advantages to their children — especially since American children today are less likely to be as affluent as their parents. According to Sociology Professor, Phillip Cohen, “As the gap between rich and poor increases, the cost of screwing up increases. The fear is they’ll end up on the other side of the divide.”
Ishizuka's study is the first to directly address the question using a nationally representative survey, asking parents of different social classes what they consider to be "good parenting." He analyzed data from more than 3,600 study participants who were parents. Ishizuka described intensive parenting is an ideal that’s currently out of reach for many families. And the future: Practiced as it is by some families but not others, it might replicate—or even widen—inequities in future generations.
Researcher, Miriam Liss, a psychologist at the University of Mary Washington in Virginia explains, "There's something very appealing about these intensive parenting ideologies," "[These attitudes] seem like they are how we should be feeling toward our children. But they may be more problematic than we think."
The New York Times reveals, Psychologists and others have raised alarms about children’s high levels of stress and dependence on their parents, and the need to develop independence, self-reliance, and grit. Research has shown that children with hyper-involved parents have more anxiety and less satisfaction with life and that when children play unsupervised, they build social skills, emotional maturity, and executive function. Consequently, Parents, particularly mothers, feel stress, exhaustion, and guilt at the demands of parenting this way, especially while holding a job.
Mothers engrossed in their children’s lives, categorically believe they are doing what is best for them. Fundamentally, how could being an intensive parent not be the optimal approach when the idea that a child’s life is causally determined by the quality of parenting - as regularly communicated by politicians, child professionals and the media.