When my husband and I found out we were going to be parents, we were so excited. We were thrilled to be able to bring life into this world and it really is an amazing thing.
I have had four children and it is still incredible to see what a woman's body can do. When we were pregnant, we were told by other couples that our marriage would struggle. People were concerned about our relationship because we had children so quickly. We had a three week old by our first anniversary. I started getting a little nervous about our relationship due to all of the things people had to say to us. I was terrified! I loved my husband so much and I didn't want my relationship with him to get screwed up from a little baby.
The first weeks of having a baby are really hard. Becoming parents is a very hard transition because it is the first time in your life that you can't be selfish. You can't think about yourself first. I was so tired, so lonely, and dealing with post-partum depression. I know my husband was tired and struggling, too.
When my son was three weeks old it was the first time that we had ever really had an argument. I don't even remember what it was about, but it definitely had everything to do with us both being exhausted. We apologized later and we both decided that we just didn't like that at all.
My husband and I have been married for about 6 1/2 years and we just welcomed our fourth baby. I remember when we were only married for about three weeks and we had dinner with a couple who had been married for three years and had one child. They had a really awkward and bizarre argument in front of us and she looked at us and said, "the honeymoon stage ends you guys!"
My husband and I got really uncomfortable and when we were leaving that evening we both were thinking that the love we had for each other was going to go away when we had kids. That scared us. Were we going to be one of those couples that are miserable after only three years?
Here we are 6 years later and I am so glad that the honeymoon stage did end! I love him more than I ever thought possible. I love him more today than I did 6 years ago. My husband and I have been through a lot together and with every hardship, we grow stronger and stronger. We have dealt with financial hardship, we have dealt with death, we have had two miscarriages, we have moved 6 times, we have flipped a home and we have had 4 children. My children have not once ruined our marriage. The kids don't make us fight, they don't make us regret marriage and they certainly don't try to break us apart. Marriage is one of the most amazing things and kids definitely couldn't ruin that for us!