Growing up in a middle-class family, I had no idea just how good I had it. No matter what, my mom always provided three meals a day, and our pantry and fridge were full of snacks if I wanted them.
I lived in a comforting, beautiful home with a loving family — and I thought all my friends and classmates did, too. My mom and dad didn't buy me everything I wanted or asked for, but looking back, I was given more than I ever needed. I had so many extra things on top of the necessities. I had everything. I just didn't realize it back then.
Now that I'm a mom, I see things through the eyes of a parent instead of a child. I always heard it said that parents want their children to grow up better than they did, and my husband and I are no different; we're learning what that might look like for our family as we build it. However, on the flip side, no matter how crazy this might sound, I want less for my daughter. I want less for her future siblings.
As I grew up, all throughout my school years, would you believe that I had enough clothes that I didn't have to repeat an outfit for four, five, sometimes six weeks? Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Again, I had no clue just how good I had it. All I knew is that I didn't want to repeat my clothes too soon or else someone in my class would probably notice.
It sounds so privileged... and it in no way illustrates the all-around conservative lifestyle my parents taught me. It's also much different from the way I live now, as a stay-at-home mom. Currently I embrace a capsule wardrobe, but still, I wear the same tired clothes, day in and day out. I'm sure my friends who work at Kroger and TJ Maxx think I live in one pair of leggings and my old college sweatshirt. They're basically right.
As I opened my little girl's dresser drawer this morning, I was overwhelmed by the number of outfit choices she has. It doesn't even matter that most of her clothes come from consignment sales; she just has too many options, and today it hit me: she could grow up too well if I continue to let her dresser, and closet, overflow like this.
It isn't realistic to not repeat an outfit for more than a month! Really, my daughter only needs a few outfits that are seasonably appropriate — enough so I can keep her laundry to once a week. Since she's well past the spit upstage and not ruining every outfit in the first five minutes of wearing it, this means she needs, I don't know, literally a handful of choices — not a truckload of them. My parents did a wonderful job teaching me the important things in life and making sure all my needs were met. I just want my kids to grow up with a little less than I had.