According to child psychology experts, children who are consistently teased, mocked, or ridiculed their by their parents are more likely to have issues with bullies. While playful banter between a parent and a child is okay, the consequences of unregulated derisive behaviour are detrimental to a child’s mental well-being. Parents should be more careful about what they tell their children.
A child’s behaviour at school is a result of what happens at home. Kids first develop their self-esteem at home, so they bring that with them when they show up to class. In a new environment where they have to establish themselves, a safe support system at home is essential to their success. If the child is bullied at home, then they may think it is normal when other kids to it to them at school too.
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La prevención del bullying se logra con valores que siembran los padres y riegan los profesores. El bullying es el final de un dominó de malos tratos, mejoremos las relaciones de crianza y así haremos desaparecer los malos tratos en los establecimientos educacionales. . A. Pallamares. @pallamares . . #Bullying #SoyPsicopedagoga #NataliaCalderon🌺
The study was published in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence, and researchers observed 1,409 children between the age of 13 and 15 for three years. They recorded their responses to peer difficulties and their emotional struggles at home. The results showed that derisive parenting increases adolescents’ risk of victimization. Other than the lack of confidence to stand up for themselves, these kids also don’t seek help and choose to silently endure the torment. This only perpetuates their low self-esteem and distrust towards others.
It was also found that extensive teasing at home resulted in dysregulated anger in the kids. Researchers observed that the subjects had difficulties dealing with their emotions, and they often lashed out through verbal and physical aggression. Coupled with the fact that they don’t feel safe around their parents, these kids have found it difficult to integrate themselves in their school environment.
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I love the lack of engagement shown here. This is exactly how we should be teaching our children to respond to bullies as well as giving them the tools to be confident in knowing they are perfect just the way they are 💕#bullying #psychology #childpsychologist #anxiety #solutionpsychology
In the worst-case scenario, derisive parenting will lead to toxic and negative environments for the kid, and this can result in their decision to self-harm. Experts highly encourage parents to reinforce good behaviour through positive reinforcement instead of negative feedback. Insults, teasing, and mockery only breed fear and self-doubt in kids, and their self-esteem will never build up. Parents can’t really control how other kids in school will treat them, but they can advise and guide their child on what to do. More importantly, they can reassure them that they do not deserve to be treated that way.