Over the last several years, gay couples have been growing families of their own more and more. While it started with adoption, gay couples have been using various methods to have children of their own instead. It's fantastic that more great people can grow families of their own.
Unfortunately, gay couples in the United States face a lot of struggles in the journey to being parents. While the list of them is long and exhaustive, one such struggle is gay couples having to adopt their biological children. That's because, on the child's birth certificate, only the child is on it- no parents are listed alongside them. This situation can create a massive legal headache that can also cost more money than you think. It's an upsetting situation that gay parents continue to find themselves in.
Gay parents can be just as good of parents as their straight counterparts- so, why does this keep happening? With same-sex marriage being made legal back in 2015- over four years ago now- gay couples have been getting more and more rights. So, you would think that they would be gaining more parental-related rights.
Despite gay couples gaining some rights from same-sex marriage being legalized, they continue to have to fight for other rights. Parenting and adoption rights are set by the state, so they can wildly vary from one state to the next. While that may seem like a good idea, it can create issues for those affected by such legislation. For example, states such as Michigan and Texas are trying their best to push legislation that undermines the right of gay couples. This is where the stress of being forced to adopt your own biological child as a gay parent comes from. What's worse is that it can be so expensive that couples who can't afford it will just accept their situation. Gay parents struggle with a lot of persecution already; there shouldn't be more of it.
When it comes to a gay couple's parenthood, more issues can arise from a sperm or egg donor that you used. They can turn on you and try to claim the child because they helped create them. Certain states have it so that once paternity has been established for a gay couple, that's the end of it. Worse, this can happen shortly after, or long after the child in question has been born.
It's not just gay couples being negatively impacted by this ridiculous situation. Their children can also suffer, too. If the state you're living in doesn't recognize a parent's relationship with their child, that can create trouble. Namely, the child will be less likely to receive health benefits from their parent's insurance company. If your child needs medical attention due to illness or injury, then the parent will most likely have to pay out of pocket.
Despite the U.S. Supreme Court ruling that married gay couples are to be on their child's birth certificate back in 2017, unmarried gay couples don't have this. So, if an unmarried gay couple doesn't take all of the necessary steps to ensure their parental rights, they've opened themselves to a huge legal headache. Hopefully, it won't take too long for the appropriate legislation to come around and make things right. After all, parenting should be easy to come by for gay people as it is for straight people.