The relationship between your child and their grandparents plays an important part in developing who your child is. Grandparents are not only a blessing but are always there with an outpouring of love, support, wisdom, and guidance. Whether they are involved as the child's guardian, a babysitter when the parents need a break, or a soundboard when Mom and Dad have questions about parenting challenges.
There are so many reasons why children benefit from having a grandparent in their lives. However, the life lessons taught by a grandparent greatly influences the type of person the child will grow up to be.
10 Life Skills
If someone was asked what skill they remember a grandparent teaching them, most answers would pertain to learning some sort of life skill. The necessity of different skills needed in this day and age may have changed a bit since the grandparents were young. But knowing how to cook, bake, sew, clean, and even how to be frugal while shopping (money management) are timeless skills many still teach their grandchildren.
However, not only do they teach essential home economic skills, but the important life skill of getting along with others. Grandparents are mindful of their tone and deliberation of words to remain respectful yet assertive while talking to others. They encourage turn-taking, empathy, careful problem-solving, and conflict resolution.
Despite if a grandparent is retired or appears less busy than the child's parent, it seems that grandparents are the masters of taking the time to slow down. Many realize the importance of taking breaks and remaining present, which is a crucial life lesson for a child to learn if they are to grow into a well-balanced adult. In this day and age, it can be hard to be fully aware of what your child's emotional needs are since everything is expected to be fast-paced. Grandparents can offer more time and patience toward a child while a parent struggles to handle everything else, like paying for a roof overhead and food on the table.
Having someone who can provide extra patience to help a child deal with big emotions is great. A grandparent can play a part in fostering healthy self-regulation skills with a firm, yet understanding approach. Luckily, most grandparents have had many children of their own, so chances are they won't be scared away from a meltdown.
Knowing your roots is important for understanding who you are and where you come from. Knowing this information can help establish a child's self-acceptance and confidence. Culture and family history can shape personality, decision-making, and a sense of self. Grandparents value traditions, which helps keep them ongoing for future generations whether they're during holidays, special dates, or locations.
Grandparents are also more likely to involve themselves in the know of what other family members are doing. They recall family triumphs, conflicts, and lessons that can be used as an encouragement or warning while guiding their grandchildren. A grandparent is also likely to know the ancestral heritage of the family.
7 The Art of Storytelling
It could be a story from the grandparent's childhood or perhaps they are just reading a bedtime story to the grandchildren. Nevertheless, how a grandparent tells a story can be captivating. Grandchildren learn the art of storytelling from their grandparents' stories, in which they use a narrative structure of setting the scene, verbalize the problem, deliver an exciting rising action and climax, reassure with the falling actions, and end with a resolution.
These enticing stories teach children that it can be enjoyable to listen to others and be entertained by words, rather than sitting in front of a TV. Stories from a grandparent also model to children how to deliver information effectively while engaging a mesmerized audience.
Morals are a standard belief based on life experiences and wisdom of what behavior is acceptable or the right thing to do. Grandparents are excellent teachers for morals, as they have had years of practice navigating tribulations while trying to be a decent person. They grew up in a time where manners were expected, respecting elders a must, and anyone older than you was a "Mr" or a "Mrs".
Unfortunately, having morals is not held as highly in this day and age, as most people are only concerned about themselves or have a give-and-take mentality. Grandparents know that being selfless is rewarded by personal fulfillment, which in the long run is priceless.
5 Having A Hobby
The importance of having a hobby is at times overlooked; however, relaxing while doing a favorite activity is beneficial to your mental health. Many grandparents have hobbies such as gardening, playing an instrument, cards, crafts, and so on. In fact, children may describe their grandparent by their hobby. Chances are the memory that pops into their head is a time where Grandma or Grandpa was doing what they enjoyed and shared the experience with the child.
Having a hobby is an important life lesson because it makes a child feel useful and eliminates feelings of worthlessness and self-doubt. Hobbies are a great way to de-stress, which strengthens coping skills and one's sense of self.
If you are looking for valuable and instructive advice, grandparents are a great source, as they have lived through trying times and resilience was what carried them through. Perhaps their childhood took place during The Great Depression, or they have personal experience living through poverty, trauma, or job insecurity. Through their stories, children learn that you must be resilient, to tirelessly fight for what needs to be done to support your family.
Grandma and Grandpa developed a hard work ethic from a young age because they had to. Since they did not have what we call essentials today, they know to appreciate and take care of what you have. In this generation, we can be so quick to throw away what's broken, but grandparents teach that some things you have to fix yourself.
3 Holistic Health
Overall wellbeing is what it means to take care of your holistic health. With age, one learns that health is not to be disregarded because of other priorities seeming more important. Life goes quickly, and unfortunately, our bodies and minds can deteriorate, which is why looking after oneself is crucial.
Grandparents teach attention to wellbeing by following through on commitments to attending doctor and dentist appointments. They demonstrate to their grandchildren that spending time with others, whether it's with family or friends, is important for mental and emotional health. Correspondingly, faith and spirituality, which is sometimes important to the older generations, can further generate an overall sense of wellbeing needed for a happy and fulfilling life.
2 Have A Sense Of Humor
Undeniably, grandparents love their grandchildren for many reasons, and yet there is one commonality all can agree on: the joy and entertainment they experience again through the eyes of their grandchild. Being around their grandchildren can remind them of their younger days, and grandparents have learned to find delight in the little things parents may take for granted.
While parents are focused on teaching their child structure, discipline, and skills needed to live in a tough world, grandparents remind their grandchildren that it's important to have a sense of humor. After all, you're never too old to be silly.
1 The Importance Of Belonging
Grandparents are like the glue that holds a family together. Generally, extended families such as aunts, uncles, and cousins only come together because of their grandparents. Children learn the importance of belonging by the unconditional love and involvement grandparents have with all family members.
Belonging, which is not the same as conformity, is a needed key factor to feel happy in life. Since the feeling of belonging shapes someone's identity, who the child becomes is impacted by their experiences, relationships, and environment. Grandparents act as the core for the whole family and create a loving environment for the child to feel a part of.