For those who have never had to experience the heartbreaking, helpless, guilt-ridden feelings one has when a miscarriage occurs, it is hard to understand why when a woman had gone through this ordeal, she tends to not talk about it. It would seem to start healing emotionally, the most logical thing to do would be to speak about what was experienced. For one reason or another, however, women still feel like there is a stigma attached to miscarriage and would rather say nothing than deal with any issues their miscarriage brings up when verbally reliving the ordeal.
Over the past handful of years, more women and couples have started to speak up when it comes to miscarriage in an attempt to try to normalize it and make others see that they are alone when it comes to a pregnancy coming to fruition.
One of those couples is Matthew Morrison and his wife, Renee Puente.
Morrison, 41, and Puente, 35, were blessed with a son approximately two years ago. There were not any difficulties with getting pregnant, and the couple relished in every moment before Revel James Makai was born.
Due to the first pregnancy going so smoothly, there was no reason to believe that when the couple decided to try for a second child, there would be any difficulties getting pregnant again. Nature has a strange way of working, however, and never quite lets one get comfortable for too long.
The ease the couple had with getting pregnant with Revel was not found to be the case with baby number two. The couple has suffered through a few miscarriages up to this point with no explanation as to why they have been occurring. Puente is healthy and has not expressed any problems as far as the typical reasons as to why one miscarries, which could be anything from chromosomal problems with the fetus to problems with the placenta to just stress from dealing with miscarriage and dealing with it more than one time.
According to Very Well Family, though a woman is more likely to experience a miscarriage with a first pregnancy rather than subsequent ones, there is still a 5% chance that she will experience a miscarriage when trying to give her child a sibling. That number is much smaller than the 30 to 40% chance a woman has of having a miscarriage when trying to conceive for the first time.
Does the lesser number help ease the situation when a woman has suffered a miscarriage? Absolutely not. However, it does still happen, and Morrison and Puente want women to know that regardless of how the first, or even a second, third, or more pregnancies have gone, there is never any guarantee that the next one will be as smooth as the previous one.
The couple is continuing to research to hopefully find a way to conceive again soon. Until then, Morrison and Puente are enjoying watching Revel grow and change daily and cannot wait to see what next milestone he accomplishes.
Source: People, Very Well Family