"She's a really good mom. Her house is clean." My mom was told this when she was raising her three children. Her friend believed that a good mother keeps her house clean. In contrast, a mother who doesn't keep her house clean is, therefore, a bad mother. Of course, we should all know that this is absolutely ridiculous. I make mistakes as a mother. I sometimes lose my patience, I let my kids watch too much television, I tell my kids "Maybe later" when I'm too tired to read to them, and I throw chips at them instead of real food because I'm too exhausted. Although I sometimes fall short, I'm actually a really good mom.
I pay attention to my children. I barely ever raise my voice at them. I dance and read with them, and answer their 10 million or so questions. I make sure I take the kids out on one-on-one dates. My kids are signed up for multiple activities, and we take them to church every Sunday. I feel like I'm doing pretty well, but my house isn't clean. It's not like I don't try to keep my house clean. In fact, I clean every single day. There's not a day that goes by (unless I'm sick) that I'm not cleaning some aspect of my house. I'm vacuuming, doing dishes, doing laundry, picking up toys or organizing something. Yet it's never enough to keep it clean. It isn't like I'm just at home everyday cleaning. I have a lot more responsibilities, too. I have to get my oldest child to and from school, nurse a newborn and take care of two other children. Oh, and I also work from home, which takes up about 10 to 15 hours a week.
If you're one of those mothers who has a messy home, you're not alone. You shouldn't feel any less of a mother just because your house isn't clean. Also, why is it just the mom's responsibility? It's almost 2020- shouldn't we be more modern by now? This is a shared household! My house is messy because I have four small children. Cleaning with children is basically like shoveling snow while there's a crazy blizzard going on.
I do like having a clean house. But if I have a choice to clean my house or play with my children, I'll always pick the latter. If I have the choice to go to the park or do the dishes, going to the park wins by a landslide every time! If the laundry needs to be folded but my two-year-old hands me a book, then my laundry will just have to wait. When my kids are grown and have all left the house, I'm not going to say, "Wow I'm so glad my house was clean all of those years." Instead, I'm going to say, "I'm so glad that I spent so much time with my children."
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