Michelle Obama Shares Her Struggle With Miscarriage And Her Thoughts On IVF

In her new memoir Becoming, Michelle Obama is revealing many personal events and private thoughts but her revelations about her struggles with infertility and miscarriage are the most poignant.

The former First Lady's highly anticipated first book will be on sale Tuesday and some excerpts have already caught some positive attention. Mrs. Obama wrote about how she suffered a miscarriage 20 years ago while trying to start a family. At the time, she had no idea how common they were and how many other women suffer similar losses. 20 % of all pregnancies ultimately end in miscarriage.

In an interview with ABC, she said, "I felt lost and alone, and I felt like I failed." She also acknowledged that miscarriage is still a somewhat of a taboo topic. It's important to keep talking about it in order to normalize these events for future generations of mothers.

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After her miscarriage, the Obama's further struggled with having a baby and had to use in-vitro fertilization in order to conceive both of their daughters, Sasha and Malia. According to Becoming, Obama was 34 years old when she realized she may need some help to start a family.  She revealed that she sometimes had to give herself the painful shots that IVF requires when her husband, future President Barack Obama, was off working in the Illinois state legislature.

These struggles are relatable and so many women have gone through the same thing. Talks about miscarriage and infant loss have just become more common but it still makes people uncomfortable. Considering how many women are affected, this should be something that we can all openly speak of but for some reason, we can't. Many women feel shame when they have a miscarriage and a great amount of guilt comes with this even though there is usually no way to prevent them.

The good news is that most women who experience a miscarriage go on to have healthy babies. When a former First Lady can openly talk about a topic that affects so many women worldwide, it's refreshing and promising for the future. Transformation of taboo topics will increase education and hopefully lessen women's negative feelings towards themselves.

Michelle Obama's openness will undoubtedly change a few lives for the better. What do you think of these revelations? Do you think it's important for public figures to share their hardships in order to normalize things like this?  Let us know in the comments!


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