You've probably often heard the term ‘mindfulness’ but if you want to know what it means and how it can impact your parenting style, read on.
In this ever-changing and competitive world, parenting is not an easy task. This delightful and joyous journey with our children is often intertwined with worries, anxieties, and hindrances that can drain us physically, mentally, and emotionally. However, it is imperative that we stay calm and fresh, and help ourselves to handle all the challenges of parenting successfully.
Quite often, we're either thinkings about an incident which has occurred recently or we're busy trying to predict the future. However, the most crucial moment is now, the most critical task is the one at hand, and the most vital person is the one with who you are right now. We tend to ignore these simple truths of life, but mindfulness can help you to effectively deal with these.
What is Mindfulness?
As reported by All 4 Women, Mindfulness is the essential human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we're doing, and not be overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us.
Noa Belling, the author of the book, The Mindful Body, writes about a zone or a state of mind which allows us to be our best selves. When we are in that zone we feel more confident; we can handle challenges more effectively and we are better attuned to our children and their needs.
It is in this zone when our brain is relaxed and thus functions the best. We have better access to the more developed parts of our minds which help us think intelligently and creatively, and enable us to make better choices.
While mindfulness is inherent, it can be cultured through proven techniques. It involves accessible and straightforward techniques including a healthy diet, regular exercise, quality time with family and friends, and getting sufficient sleep.
A few minutes of mindful meditation practice in your life can help in numerous ways; it can also alter your parenting style in multiple incredible ways:
- You will be calmer and at feel more peace
- You will be able to tackle daily issues more competently
- You will naturally become more patient with both your child and yourself
- You will be able to raise more responsible kids
Kids learn from seeing us; our agitation and stress not only reflects on the way we deal with them, but they also learn to deal with difficulties in life in a similar way. So, we need to find out productive ways to handle stress.
Techniques of Mindfulness
At times we tend to lose our cool, but with these simple techniques adapted from Noa Belling’s The Mindful Body we can be stronger, better, and happier parents.
Hand to Chest
The moment you realize you are losing your patience, take a pause, place a hand on your chest where it feels the best, and take a good, long, deep breath. Touch helps to release the oxytocin hormone which helps in social bonding, and it can swiftly lower our stress hormone levels, giving us much more clarity of thought.
Time and again, when feeling stressed out, take a pause, breath in and let your mind get the oxygen required for boosting your energy. This simple but effective action revives our brain and other body parts as well.
Hug and eye contact
A hug and an eye to eye contact help to build a relationship. This also helps us switch gears and enter into our zone of well-being in just a few seconds.
Orient to the present moment
To deal with a stressful situation, it is imperative that you focus on the situation. To do so, feel your surroundings, stand straight and firm with both the feet on the ground. It might take a few seconds, but it might also help you to feel more grounded and deal with the task at hand.
Inculcate the practices mentioned above in your kids too.
“The more we live in the moment instead of in our thoughts about the moment, the less likely we are to complicate our lives with unnecessary worries."