Jeannine Morris Lombardi found out firsthand just how emotionally tough adoption can be when she and her husband, Joe, sought a baby through private adoption, according to People. The couple married in 2014 and Lombardi, who always knew she wanted to adopt, and her husband decided to pursue a private adoption plan rather than the adoption agency route. They preferred to go the private adoption route as going through an agency can take anywhere between 2 to 7 years.
At this time, the Lombardis were still dealing with the loss of the first and only biological child, a stillborn daughter, at 32 weeks gestation. So, the couple felt desperate for a baby. That's when the Lombardis met Ashley, who goes by @ashleymamabear2019 on Instagram. Ashley claimed to be a teen mom with a boyfriend named Chris and a whole host of childhood trauma and family issues , including an abusive boyfriend who was in jail, a mother who had committed suicide, and a father who was not around.
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I'm really excited that @people shared part of our adoption story! Even though this story is about our struggle and a very serious, sad situation, it's helping to raise awareness about domestic adoption. ✨ I've connected with so many incredibly strong women through my blog and Instagram on my journey to motherhood and now I'm happy to welcome all of my new followers and friends. It’s important to know we’re not alone. ✨ Thank you for your emails and DM's. My inbox has been flooded since this story went live and I feel the love. I also want you all to know how strong and kind you are. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’re the reason I’m sharing. ✨ Joe and I are so blessed that the right baby found us. She is our whole life and I know she was sent to us for a reason from Heaven. ✨ Link in profile for the full story. * * * * * #adoption #domesticadoption #privatedomesticadoption #peoplemagazine #trending
Lombardi said that she spent countless hours on the phone with Ashley talking about her problems and issues and when Lombardi would try to get off the phone or end the call, Ashley would start screaming. It soon became clear to the Lombardis that Ashley, as well as Chris, were only interested in manipulating the couple through text and calls.
After months of being harassed by Ashley and Chris, the Lombardis finally decided to disconnect their adoption phone and adoption email account. Instead of giving up, the couple decided to contact an adoption agency which is what they now say they should have done in the first place. They were put in touch with an Arizona birth mother and picked up their darling daughter, Amaya, in April.
The Lombardis are happy to go public with their story now in hopes to warn other couples against rushing into the private adoption route without being fully prepared and alert for possible scams.