Mom-shaming hits an all-time low when a c-section mother is called out by her friends who say she took the easy way out of childbirth given she didn't push her baby out vaginally. Whether you have given birth or not, we all can agree that when a woman becomes pregnant and a baby comes out of her body, she has given birth, right? Apparently not. Shockingly, this opinion is quite popular in Western society. C-section mothers are very often shamed regardless if their surgery was elective or an emergency. Similar to the epidural vs. no epidural vaginal birth debate, c-sections are viewed as cheating nature by avoiding the pain that comes with bringing a child into this world. One mother spoke out about her own experience with mom-shamers on Mumsnet and what she had to say was distressing.
Chances are, you have probably heard people or heard of people talking about c-section mothers not actually giving birth and that they aren't true mothers because they didn't physically push their baby into this world. Well, a mother who had her healthy baby boy 5 months ago via c-section went on Mumsnet to vent and ask for advice on what to do about her friends who had a lot of similar comments on her birth experience. "I generally don't talk about the birth because no one really wants to know about someone else's experience, but [my friends] did ask so I briefly told them (induction, back to back labor [until] fully dilated, pushing with episiotomy and forceps, [emergency c-section])", the mother wrote online.
Her 'friends' returned with "you've not given birth properly, you've not been in transition, you've only done the easy bit. So many women think they've given birth but they have no idea". The mother quickly changed the subject but regrets doing so now. She wishes she would have inquired more about why they thought this way. In her post on Mumsnet, the mother continues saying, "my other friend didn't agree but didn't necessarily disagree; she said that a section is the easy option but if your body can't give birth properly then it's not your fault".
For a better understanding of what a c-section actually is, a woman is given an epidural (most common) or a spinal block which is inserted via a needle into her back. In more rare cases, typically for emergencies, general anesthesia is used which knocks the mother completely unconscious for the procedure. Once administered, the doctor takes a scalpel (a medical knife) and cuts through the woman's skin and uterine tissue until finally locating the baby. Once the baby is removed and being cared for, the doctor stitches up the uterus with dissolving stitches and then closes the abdomen with sutures.
What the mom-shamers tend to forget is that eventually the anesthesia wears off and mom feels like she has literally been butchered. Not only that, but according to healthline.com, there are very serious risks that are associated with c-sections including: uncontrollable bleeding, blood clots, breathing issues for the infant, riskier pregnancies in the future, infection, injury to the infant during surgery, damage to other internal organs, and the basic risks of abdominal surgery (adhesions, hernias and more).
Does it still sound like the easy way out?