Choosing a name for a child isn't as straightforward as many would tend to believe. After all, there are a lot of things to consider. Do you go with a traditional name versus a unique name? Do you avoid the latest trends? Do you hyphenate? Do you honour someone meaningful by naming the baby after them?
The latter question seems to have been on the mind of an anonymous dad-to-be recently, who made headlines after he took to Reddit to ask the internet whether or not he should be troubled by the fact that his girlfriend wants to name their unborn son after her ex-boyfriend who passed away.
Reddit seems to be a popular forum for new parents and parents-to-be as of late. Recently, the site called out a dad who wanted to divorce his wife after she became pregnant with their second child. Fortunately, Reddit was a little more forgiving to this latest dad.
"The other night when discussing names, she said she would like [our son's] middle name to be that of her ex, who died," he wrote. He added that the request has made him very uncomfortable.
"I don't want to tell people, especially my son, that he is partly named after another man who his mom loved before me," he said.
Was he wrong for feeling that way? The majority of respondents said no.
"That's her past and not yours," one user wrote, despite acknowledging that they understood her desire to honour someone from her past. Another user echoed this sentiment, arguing that the dad-to-be should respect why you do not like this idea, for "obvious reasons."
One user called her request "immature", believing that it was a useless gesture, and the sentiment would ultimately be fleeting.
But in true forum fashion, there were those who defended the mom's request.
"She clearly loved this person even after they were no longer romantic, and is close to his family as well. I think it's an amazing sign of respect and you should grow up a little."
Others pointed out that it was only a middle name, and not the child's first name.
"Most people never mention middle names in normal circumstances anyway so does it really matter that it will be after a person that clearly meant a lot to her and her family?"
There were even those that despite not taking sides, felt that the soon-t0-be dad was coming across as a little insecure and that he was perhaps making a big deal out of nothing.
A name lasts a lifetime, and it's important that both parents be on board. Hopefully, by now, the couple has come to an agreement about their son's name and can move forward. Would you be okay with your partner honouring an ex via your child's name? Let us know in the comments below!