Tracy Caliendo didn’t think she’d have any more children after experiencing fertility problems. So, imagine her surprise when she welcomed four kids in less than two years!
Tracy and her husband, Pete Pasetsky, tried several rounds of IVF in order to expand their family. Although Tracy already had a son, Hunter, who’s now 12-years old, from a previous marriage, the couple wanted to have children together. But initially, luck didn’t seem to be on their side. Tracy underwent three unsuccessful rounds of in vitro fertilization and also suffered through on miscarriage, leading her to believe she’d never have more children.
Tracy was understandably surprised when she became pregnant in 2016 after her fourth and final round of IVF. Given her past experiences, she and her husband weren’t confident that her pregnancy was viable. So, in order to maximize their chances of having kids, they decided to hire a surrogate at the same time, whom they impregnated with two embryos.
“I kind of hedged my bet,” 43-year old Tracy said to People. “I said, ‘Let me get a surrogate to carry two [embryos] so that hopefully one of us will end up having a child.’” However, Tracy truly didn’t believed that both hers and the surrogate’s pregnancy would be successful. “When I was working with the surrogate, she was like, ‘I don’t really want twins,’” she explained. “I said, ‘Oh, don’t worry. The chances of that are basically zero.’”
But luck was on this family’s side! Tracy gave birth to a healthy baby girl, Harlow, in 2017, while her surrogate delivered twins, Piper and Presley, only five months later in 2018. “When it rains, it pours,” Tracy said. “We couldn’t even believe it.” Given how close the kids are in age, Tracy says they’re practically “triplets.”
However, the surprises didn’t stop there. Shortly after the arrival of their twins, Tracy shockingly discovered she was pregnant once again. “Out of nowhere, I ended up pregnant naturally, without even trying,” Tracy opened up on Instagram. “It was a bit frightening.” Unfortunately, this pregnancy was higher-risk, as the mother developed placenta accreta, which occurs when the placenta grows too deeply inside the uterine wall.
In September of 2018, Tracy delivered her son Dylan at only 29 weeks gestation. Despite the difficult pregnancy, the baby boy is thriving and overcoming some slight growth and moto skill development challenges.
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We found experts in the field. We had doctors who were wonderful, and I was very heavily watched,” Tracy said of her final pregnancy. “I had to be seen by a doctor every two weeks from the day I found out I was pregnant and then once every week as I got closer to my due date. I wasn’t even allowed to leave New York City.”
Despite their full house, Tracy and Pete have both gone back to work- and are relying on a strict schedule to maintain their busy household. Hunter is 12-years old, Harlow is 2-years old, twins Piper and Presley are 20-months, and baby Dylan is already 11-months.
“When you have to feed five kids, you know you’re going to be working the rest of your life,” Tracy explained, adding the family employs a full-time babysitter to help out with the kids. “We literally live by a clock. But no matter how difficult the day gets, we always remember what it took to get here.” The mom-of-five added, “When you struggle, you do get a totally different perspective. When people say to me, ‘Oh my God, my kids are driving me crazy, I need a break,’ all I think to myself is, ‘You have these healthy children. You’re so lucky.’”