For a lot of moms, they try to find that fine line between posting too many photos of their children on social media and not enough photos. As much as you want to keep many private moments to yourself, there are relatives out there who are going to want to see the latest pics and videos of your little tykes.
But with a lot of people wanting to not look like they are more active in their online lives than their real lives, they are slowly but surely posting less and less on Facebook, Instagram, and the like. Here are ten signs that say you post way too much on social media.
10 You’re The Mom Who Is Always Posting And Uploading
Have you ever noticed that at a birthday party there will be about five or six parents whipping out their phones and taking photos or videos of the birthday child blowing out their candles? While it’s fun to capture these moments for your child, if you find that you are the person who is always uploading pics and videos of other kids’ birthday parties, it’s time to take a step back.
As a matter of fact, if it’s not your child’s party (or not your child), don’t post it on your feed. Some people find it poor taste to post photos of children who are not your own.
9 Every Milestone Makes It To Your Feed
Each time your children said their first words, took their first steps, or heck, rode their first bikes (without help), a video, photo, or post ends up on your Facebook feed. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel proud of your children and their accomplishments, is it really necessary to share these moments with people who might never meet them in real life?
Think about it. Certain Facebook followers might have been your friends many years ago, but if they are not in your life today, they are strangers. You don’t have to share all of these special moments with strangers who have never met your kids.
8 You Feel Sad When Someone Doesn’t Like Your Photo
Let’s put it this way: Not everyone is going to be on social media every single moment of the day. While posting is fun, it shouldn’t be obsessive. If you find yourself getting upset when one of your close friends or family members doesn’t like your photo or view your story, that shouldn’t be a reason to be upset.
If a photo or post goes unnoticed, it’s not the end of the world. It just means that people are spending less time on social media, which might turn out to be a good thing.
7 You Post 300 Photos Of Your Family Vacation
You might think it’s a good idea to post about 300 photos from your family vacation but truth be told, not a lot of people out there have the time or even care to look at them. One or two photos might be fine, but there’s really no reason to post your entire iPhone photo log onto Facebook.
Psychology Today writes, “For the small number of individuals that are genuinely addicted to social media use, treatment is warranted. However, the goal of treatment for this type of addiction (unlike many other addictions) should be controlled use rather than total abstinence.”
6 Your High School Friends Know All About Your Kids
It might have been well over twenty years since you last physically saw that one girl who used to sit with you in science class. But because of social media, she knows all about you, your marriage, your kids, your lifestyle, and of course, all of the vacations you’ve taken in the last ten years.
If you have more online friends than you do real-life friends, this might be a bit of a problem. Actually, anyone who follows you online shouldn’t even be considered a friend unless you have their phone number in your contacts. If they are not a real-life friend, consider deleting them.
5 If You Don’t Get Enough Likes, You Delete The Pic
A lot of people probably won’t admit to this, but there is something strangely satisfying about getting tons of likes and comments on a social media post. Not only does it make you feel loved and accepted, but it also gives some people the attention that they crave.
However, getting an opposite reaction might make you feel like you’re not good enough. If you find yourself deleting a pic from your Facebook profile because it simply didn’t get enough “likes,” it might be time to reassess your social media practices. What people like or don’t like online shouldn’t matter to you.
4 You Find Yourself Checking In Several Times A Day
There’s nothing wrong with checking in once or twice a day when it comes to your social media accounts. But if you find yourself checking in several times a day, this suggests a real problem.
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and your other accounts shouldn’t consume your entire life. The Washington Post writes, “Most people’s social media use is habitual enough that it spills over into other areas of their lives. It results in behavior that is problematic and dangerous, such as checking social media while driving.”
3 Not Having Wifi Gives You Anxiety
Believe it or not, a lot of people actually have anxiety when they are not connected. In this case, we are not talking about human but a wifi connection. A lot of people straight up start hyperventilating when there’s no decent signal on their phones. That’s when a digital detox comes into play.
Psychology Today notes, “When it comes to solving the problem of reducing individuals’ use of social media there is no magic bullet. While individuals are ultimately responsible for their own social media use, policymakers, social media operators, employers, and educational establishments all need to play their part in reducing excessive social media use.”
2 You Have Full Conversations On Facebook Messenger
If you find yourself having full-on conversations with your friends on Facebook messenger yet can’t remember the last time that you’ve spoken to your neighbor, it’s time to reassess a few things in your life. This is another sign that says you need to put the phone down and start paying attention to others.
The Washington Post writes, “Some restaurants are now providing discounts to customers who refrain from using their smartphones during a meal. More positive reinforcement strategies like these may well be the way forward in trying to decrease the time spent checking social media and to increase time spent engaging in real life.
1 You Can’t Delete Social Media Apps Off Your Phone
Have you tried deleting your social media apps in the hopes that you can help detox yourself from your phone just to find yourself re-uploading it again 24 hours later? Well, don’t worry. You’re not the only one.
First and foremost, deleting your social media apps from your smartphone is a good way of curbing your need of wanting to check-in and post all of the time. If you can get yourself to delete the app for more than 72 hours to even a week, there’s a good chance that you’ll find yourself not wanting to put the app back on your phone again.