One woman has found herself in a tough situation with her husband and mother-in-law over what their children should call their grandmother.
In a Reddit post, new user u/ninjabekah asked users for their input after her mother-in-law request to be called "mommy" by her grandchildren. According to her, it's an issue her husband doesn't have her back on either.
"He doesn't see a problem with it because his brother's kids call her that," writes the frustrated mother. "And he says they don't have any problems with it."
In her story, the agitated woman didn't confirm if she has kids, but mentioned this practice would be preferred her "future children". Still, her brother-in-law and sister-in-law had the same issue with their children — which put a strain on their relationship. Yet, some users pointed out that if they don't have children, then she shouldn't create any unnecessary drama. For the most part, however, her fellow Redditors sided with the mom, with some realizing that while this may be a family tradition, her husband should recognize how this is bothering her.
Thankfully, though, the response from the other users helped settle u/ninjabekah's mind. She says outside of her mother, she hasn't received much support, so seeing such an overwhelming reaction in one direction eased her worries.
This Redditor isn't the only woman We've reported on some pretty crazy mothers-in-law in the past. In fact, we reported on one who worked with her son to change a baby's middle name while the mother was recovering from a c-section. Apparently, the new grandmother felt the spelling of her new grandson's name was too feminine.
Both stories are different to an extent, both Reddit users could relate to the feeling of their partners not having their backs, and while it could be annoying, it's pretty common. According to a survey from Netmums, many daughters-in-law feel their mothers-in-law undermine their authority or make them feel as though they aren't good enough for their partners. To deal with this, many mothers admitted to moving further away from their in-laws, while others decided to just deal with whatever is hurled at them.
With that in mind, trying to find a balance with your partner regarding their parents isn't easy, but it's important for a husband and wife to be on the same page —especially when it comes to children. For u/ninjabekah, it may be a difficult conversation to have with her husband, but it should probably be saved for when they're actually having kids. Otherwise, it's just an argument about a hypothetical situation.