Parenting is one of the most challenging jobs in the world. Between the sleep deprivation, the constant mess, the screaming, and the never-ending to-do list, having kids can make even the steadiest person feel like they're going insane. Rachel Feldman, a mother of five says that parenting isn't easy but there are certain things that she does to make it a little more bearable.
In an interview with People, Feldman describes her parenting style as one that is strongly focused on her kids' emotional well-being. She and her husband believe in enforcing a "bucket filler" philosophy "which is: everyone has an invisible bucket that gets filled when they feel good, and gets emptied when they feel bad." As an example of this, Feldman says she tells her kids that if someone is bullying them, then the bully probably just has an empty bucket that's in need of some filling (i.e. kind words).
Rachel Feldman goes on in the interview explaining that the hardest part about parenting, other than sending her kids to daycare on occasion, is the clutter than five children entails. The way that Feldman describes why she doesn't like the clutter is different than you might assume, however. "The kids bring home so many projects from school so I'm constantly having to choose between what to keep and what to toss. I feel like every little scribble and stick person they draw holds so much creativity," she says. It isn't so much the dislike for clutter that frustrates Feldman, it's the fact that in decluttering she needs to pick and choose what is most valuable; a hard job to do when all of their work is valuable to her.
As far as balancing the workload goes, Feldman says it's a team effort between her and her husband. Having a partner who splits the duties 50/50 makes raising children a little less hectic resulting in a happier, more balanced family. In reading the full interview with People, one thing that stands out is Feldman's positivism in terms of parenting. Even when asked about the tough aspects, she still manages to turn them into positive elements of raising children which is a lesson many parents could benefit from. To read more on what she had to say, click here.