I remember getting my mom some pretty basic Mother’s Day gifts. Every year I’d give or make her a card. Sometimes I’d pick up flowers or a potted plant. When I got older, I took her to breakfast or bought her coffee with my own money. As a 31-year-old mother of two toddlers: I’m sorry, mom. I did you wrong. Not sure why no one called me out or told me to do better, but you basically deserved a small kingdom or at least a pedicure. Since my kids are still toddlers I know they’re not buying me a Mother’s Day gift themselves; my husband is the one shopping for me. Somebody go tweet this list at him!
What Mom Really Wants For Mother’s Day
Selections from a recent AskReddit subreddit thread.
“Just a day where I get home from work, they’ve done their chores and they aren’t bickering over nothing.” This is so simple, kids!
“A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I'm a mom too.” Would you like some pepper with that salt?
“Champagne. Someone to come deep clean my house. Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink.” But is she drinking the champagne while they cook her dinner?
“I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don't want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family.” I could probably write a whole article on this alone. The most important part to note here is that she doesn’t want to have to plan the day! Taking initiative is such a great gift to give your mom.
“I don’t want to plan Mother’s Day. That’s literally all. I’ll take damn near anything so long as I have nothing to do with making it happen!!!” See what I mean? You’ll notice there’s a trend here...
“I don’t care if I get food from a place that I think is only mediocre as long as it magically appears in front of me.” Read: Someone else figure it out so I don’t have to, thanks.
“A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it's not just do nothing on Mother’s Day do twice as much to catch up the day after.” I don’t know who this mom is, but I relate to her so much. This is why I get so annoyed when my husband tells me to leave the house for the day. I know it’s just going to look awful when I come home!
“This year, I will want to be left alone. May 12, 1980 ... birthdate of my oldest child who was placed for adoption at birth... Mother's Day always sucks when it falls on his birthday.” Our hearts go out to you, anonymous mama. It was uplifting to see so many other Redditors reach out to support you with affirmation that adoption helped them!
“I want a house that stays clean for more than an hour, a meal I didn't make that I don’t have to clean after, and a lovely day with my children and husband without having to worry about spending money. And chocolate, and a nap I don't have to set an alarm for.” HOLD THE PHONE, I forgot that I used to be able to nap without an alarm. That is THE BEST gift request yet!
“To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3-year-old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away.” This is why I put a childproof lock on the bathroom door.
“Brand new mom (7 weeks) and I would love a big dinner and dessert because I’ve been eating like crap and haven’t been able to really cook while caring for the baby. I’d also like to take a long bath and maybe get a pedicure.” There is a light at the end of the newborn tunnel, mama! You enjoy this first Mother’s Day!
“Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house, and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself.” I love the specificity and simplicity of this list. This person strikes me as really content with their life!
“An hour or two of total and complete silence.” Yes.
“Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone. I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention. Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted me time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left.” I can really relate to this feeling right now. Part of me has just accepted that my life will never be solely my own ever again. Another part of me craves just one month without obligation to others. I’d probably end up feeling lonely.