Adoptive parents shouldn't wait too long to tell their children that they're adopted based on recent research.
For as long as parents have been adopting children, people have been debating over the right time, if any, to let children know that they've been adopted. Some say that it's better to let children know early on so that they don't feel lied to and develop trust issues with their parents. Others insist that it's better to let children know later on so that they don't develop a complex early on, and are able to lead a normal childhood.
Now it seems that we have a definitive answer! According to a recent study published by Drexel University, adopted children who found out they were adopted later in life (called "late discovery adoptees") typically suffered from emotional distress with overall less life satisfaction more frequently than those who found out earlier.
Ebony White, a Drexel University researcher of the College of Nursing and Health Professions- along with Amanda Baden, a Montclair State University researcher, among other researchers- worked hard together to find out which group of adoptees had the highest amount of stress later in their lives. The study was a mixed-method style and depended on a total of 254 adult adoptees.
All in all, many years of study tells researchers that parents are betters off talking openly and honestly to their adopted children between the ages of four to 13, based on the child's emotional maturity level. The study show that the younger ages the children are told, the better equipped they are to handle the stress of dealing with the feelings that naturally come with such a delicate situation. Interestingly enough, several of the researchers themselves were "late discovery adoptees" and participated in the work to gain a better understanding of the concept as a whole.
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