Sure, Ross Geller might have been a forgetful father at times (he forgot to bring his son to his second wedding in London and supposedly forgot about him during about a four-year period), but he’s also a dad that many other parents can definitely learn from.
After all, who else could explain different holiday traditions while wearing an armadillo suit at Christmas? Who else could sing inappropriate songs with as much gusto as he did?If someone is going to sing Baby's Got Back to you, it might as well be your daddy, right? With that said, here are ten different things we’ve learned about parenting from Ross Geller!
10 Love is Love
When it comes to teaching the importance of love, Ross Geller doesn’t hold back. As a matter of fact, he will spell it all out for you!
As Ross once said: “Ah, love. L-O-V-E love. 'L' is for life, and what is life without love? 'O' is for OH WOW! 'V' is for this very surprising turn of events (which I am still fine with by the way). 'EEE' is for how extreeemeely normal I find it that you two are together and that one day you might get married... and have children of your own...” Now, if more fathers were willing to express their love like that, the world would be a better place.
9 Adults Only
Ross Geller might not always make the most sense, but he knows that when it comes to his kids, there is a time and a place for everything. Not only did he shield Ben's innocent ears when Phoebe was swearing at the Ms Pac-Man arcade machine, but that might also be one of the reasons why he didn’t invite his young son Ben to his wedding to Emily in London.
After all, did he really need to have his son witness his father say the wrong name at the wedding and everything that happened afterwards? The obvious answer is no. It’s almost as if Ross can predict the future and know when he will be a total human train wreck by doing or saying the wrong things (which happened to him often).
8 Celebrate Who You Are
After Ross and Rachel’s daughter Emma was born, Rachel thought it would be a good idea for her to enter Emma in a beauty contest. Ross, of course, was adamantly against the idea. He didn’t want his daughter to be paraded on stage and judged by her looks. That’s just not the Geller way.
However, when Ross found out that Emma had won the grand prize, he did reconsider his options. It might not be the Geller way, but if those genes can help you win a big cash prize, why not, right?
7 Know Your Self-Worth
For the longest time, Ross had to repeat over and over again that he’s not just a doctor with a degree, but an esteemed paleontologist who was very proud of his work. Why wouldn’t he be? It’s not like you meet many people who can talk about dinosaurs and prehistoric times the same way Ross can.
“A hundred million people went to see a movie about what I do. I wonder how many people would go see a movie called Jurassic Parka. No, no, no, a bunch of out-of-control jackets take over an island!”
6 Titles Are Important
Speaking of doctors, a day doesn’t go by that Ross Gellar doesn’t remind other people that he’s got a title in front of his name. A very important one, mind you. For Ross, education is important, and that’s something he most certainly passed down to his kids.
Rachel was easily annoyed by this, and by all the times that he reminded her of his status, even when she was about to give birth to his second child. When Ross said, “I'm Doctor Ross Geller,” Rachel replied with, “Ross, please, this is a hospital, okay? That actually means something here.”
5 Defend Yourself
Let’s face it: during the ten years that Friends was running, Ross had to defend himself in more ways than one. He continually had to remind everyone that he and Rachel Green were “on a break,” even though she says that wasn’t the case. When it came to his separations, he knew he wasn’t the only one at fault.
As he put it, “First marriage: wife's hidden sexuality, not my fault. Second marriage: said the wrong name at the altar, a little my fault. Third marriage: they shouldn't allow you to get married when you're that drunk and have stuff drawn all over your face. Nevada's fault.”
4 He's Optimistic
Sure, Ross Geller might have gotten a lot of unfortunate situations thrown at him, and yes, he wasn’t very lucky when it came to the dating department either. But despite the fact that the odds were stacked against him many times, Ross remained very optimistic and that’s something he also passed down to his kids.
He wanted them to know that despite life’s challenges, you can still make it, especially if you have a good attitude. And half the time it happened to work. As he boldly declared one New Year's: “Y'know what? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say no divorces in 99!”
3 Being Clean And Neat Is Important
What with having Monica Geller as a sister, you know that Ross Geller also takes things to the next level, especially when it comes to being orderly and neat! Ross knows that a clean house is a happy house, and that’s probably why he dumped one of his very messy girlfriends when he saw her apartment.
Ross said, “You know how you come home at the end of the day and throw your jacket on a chair? Well, instead of a jacket, it's a pile of garbage. And instead of a chair, it's a pile of garbage. And instead of the end of the day, it's the end of time and garbage is all that has survived."
2 He Lets His Baby Mamas Make Their Own Decisions
Say what you will about Ross Geller, but he might be one of the most easy-going baby daddies on the planet. Many fans couldn’t help but notice that he was suspiciously okay with his daughter Emma moving to Paris when Rachel Green got a job offer with Louis Vuitton.
While he didn’t say no to the move, he did try to stop it at the end of the day. Why? Because he realized that he loved Rachel and Emma too much to allow them to move half way around the world. It might have been a battle to win Rachel over, but at the end of the day, it was worth it.
1 He Values Daddy And Son Time
Okay, Ross Geller might have pretended to spend time with his son Ben in order to escape doing chores with Monica, but he could have used a worse lie, right? Actually, scratch that. Instead of actually inviting Ben over to spend time with his father, Ross used a pumpkin to try and fool Monica in believing that her nephew was at Ross’ apartment.
Hey, we never said that Ross Geller was a good dad. But, in theory, he at least knew --subconsciously, we hope-- that he should have been spending time with his son that day rather than a pumpkin.