Affirmations are becoming a well-welcomed trend among parents and their children. The stigma toward mental health is dying out, and more people are discussing how we can prepare our children at a very young age to assist in their confidence and well-being.
We bet you've been reciting affirmations to your children without even noticing; however, there are a few that will help when a sudden scenario arises in which you don't know how to simply calm your toddler. Read below to be inspired by 10 simple affirmations that you can easily apply to your day-to-day life with the busy little toddler.
10 I AM SAFE
Children (at nearly any age) come up with random fears and anxieties. Whether it's their little brains conjuring up incredibly creative nightmares or fears that are projected from a television show, children quite early can become nervous at a moment's notice. "You are safe" is a sentence you can repeat while your child cries, screams, or suddenly tenses when they sense fear.
It could be used when they see a spider (considering children usually pick up on fears and/or phobias of their parents and/or guardians), when they think they're going to pee their pants, or even when they fall and scrape their knee. Reassuring that they're safe will be incredibly comforting for the toddler and they will learn to repeat this affirmation when they're in need of it, too.
9 I AM KIND
As silly and as simple as this sounds, affirmations can be as short as this example. Repeating "I am kind" will instill a sense of peace within their little bodies. Though they may still be learning definitions of many words (including "kind"), putting positive reinforcement on a quality you'd like to encourage is a simple yet powerful act.
Repeating "I am kind" while getting ready for the day can be a quick practice. It will bring a calmness to not only your child's day but to their caretaker's as well.
8 I AM GRATEFUL
Just as good ol' Gary V explains: emphasizing and exuding gratitude is the way to live. It's important to teach children at this early of an age how vital it is to be grateful for the things (big or small) can be.
This affirmation is one to live by. When you see the things in life to be grateful for, that's when all of the sad parts seem to fade. "I am grateful" can be a sentence on its own or a start to a new one by vocalizing the things, tangible or not, that you (and the toddler) are truly thankful for.
7 I FORGIVE MYSELF
When a toddler is shamed and guilted, this has more of a negative effect on them than many parents and/or guardians believe. We are only human, so many times when we (the parent) reacts, it's out of sheer reflex. Many of us are conditioned to punish right away; to discipline.
When we decide to sympathize with the child (who is usually seeking attention when they "act out"), we allow them to forgive themselves for their own actions. This affirmation will bring great peace into their childhood up into their adulthood. The general public tends to be too hard on themselves; so, let's teach them young to take it easy and forgive themselves for their faults.
6 I AM STRONG
Confidence is key. It's quick to notice (when you are out with your little one) how many people compliment their physical looks. "You're so cute!" you'll often hear. Or, "Wow, what beautiful, big eyes you have!" is a quite popular one.
When we (the caretakers) put emphasis on our child's mental state (like their emotional and mental strength), they will feel empowered. Yes, at even the tender age of 2. Forming the habit of "You are strong" can be a compliment used when the child scrapes their knee, when they brush their teeth alone, or when you notice an act of generosity and kindness. It takes strength to live your best life, so why not begin now?
5 I CAN DO THIS ON MY OWN
Toddlers are little balls of I-wanna-do-it-on-my-own! And, safety permitting, let them! Usually, the "stubborn ones" tend to be more sensitive and emotional. These traits are not negative traits: they're just, simply, traits.
When the child knows that they want to do something on their own, encourage their independence by repeating, "You are fully capable of doing this on your own," with a kind tone that shows them you're present if they need your assistance. "I can do this on my own" tends to be a statement yelled by the little, fierce toddler. This affirmation will turn it into a more positive recommendation.
4 IT’S OK TO ASK FOR HELP
In contrast to our previous suggested affirmation, "It's ok to ask for help" confirms the validation they may need when they (indeed) need help.
Again, toddlers are sponges and they also retain a lot of affirmations (and feelings) that will last a lifetime. Ensuring they know at these incredibly impressionable ages that asking for help is ok will guide them into a safe and comfortable life.
3 I AM UNIQUE
Indeed, every single individual is unique. Before they hit the age of insecurity and shame, embrace their characteristics, whether you believe them to be "generic" or not. Affirming that they are unique in a very positive way will build confidence, strength, and power.
"I am unique" should be a sentence they embrace with joy and pride. Beginning this affirmation during the toddler stage is incredibly important to guide them into feeling comfortable in their own minds and bodies as they grow older.
2 I WILL LEARN WITH PATIENCE
Whether your toddler is comprehending the dynamic and complex sentence structures you may be putting together every day, this affirmation is key for comforting the child. Toddlers tend to become incredibly impatient when they try to pick up a new skill and task; this is very normal.
Frustration, anger, and sudden bursts of tears are healthy to release. Embrace their ability to feel. Know that they're actually showing you that they're comfortable around you when they show these emotions. They feel safe. "I will learn with patience" is an affirmation to begin early in life so they understand it's ok to feel these "big" feelings.
1 SHARING IS CARING
Is this actually an affirmation—one that I've been repeating since I, too was a young one? You may be thinking this to yourself right now. Because, yes—it sure was and is. "Sharing is caring" is a very classic quote repeated by parents, teachers, and caretakers all over the world. Its use of rhyme promotes retaining the phrase. It's easier for young children, and its positive connotation will reassure them that sharing at appropriate times is a very kind act.
While they're young, it's important for them to be exposed to social scenarios. Whether they will become siblings or join in a toddler-class, "sharing is caring" should be an affirmation used almost daily.