American actress, Eva Amurri Martino, has opened up to her fans about her pending divorce and its effect on her children.

In a blog post, Eva shared how she and her soon-to-be ex-husband, Kyle Martino, were able to break the heartbreaking news to their two children: Major James, 3, and Marlowe Mae, 5. Eva describes the event as probably the "most challenging step" thus far and although the pair prepared ahead of time, it didn't make it any easier to see their kids' reactions.

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The film and television actress shares that she and Kyle spoke to a social worker beforehand to really learn the best way to approach the situation. The two most important things she took away from that conversation were to validate their feelings and remind them how much they are loved.

"It was the event that I was the most worried about and nervous for," Eva wrote. The star says the entire conversation with her kids took about 20 minutes and the pair tag teamed it. Memorizing a script beforehand, she explains that it was "one of the hardest monologues [she has] ever had to get through" and that "Kyle took half and [she] took half... [practicing] ahead of time together."

Eva explains that their number one goal is to make sure their kids are okay through this change and she admits that they took it a lot harder than she thought they would. For privacy reasons, she didn't say what her kids said exactly but that they begged them to reconsider.

The actress notes that "it's okay if you cry. Acknowledge that the tears are there because this is hard and sad. There is NOTHING easy about saying these words to your kids. But being clear, saying them, and getting it out into the open is so important. And the first step to a healthier family dynamic."

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Both she and Kyle stressed to their children that no matter what they would always be a family and says that that helped calm them. When the children fought the decision that they presented to them, they unanimously explained that the decision has been made and they felt that it was in everyone's best interest.

After a lot of tears, it ended on a good note and the four of them played a game of hide-and-seek. "That conversation taught both Kyle and I a lot about ourselves and about our [co-parenting] relationship moving forward," Eva explains. Staying on good terms with Kyle amid the split is what is maintaining the stability for their children.