While learning the sex of your baby ahead of time has been pretty commonplace ever since ultrasound technology has made it possible, these days there is some debate about whether or not to do so. While gender reveal parties are definitely all the rage these days, there are also many people who feel that focusing on the sex of the baby is a bit outdated.
Deciding to find out the sex of your baby before they are born is definitely a personal decision. There are many reasons to do so and many reasons not to, so it’s best to follow how you feel and do what is right for you and your situation. However, if you need some help deciding, we’ve collected a list of pros and cons to help you decide if you should find out the sex of your baby before they're born.
10 PRO: YOU CAN PLAN YOUR NURSERY
One of the most rewarding and exciting things about pregnancy is getting to plan for the arrival of your little one. This includes gathering supplies and getting your home ready. Putting together a nursery is a great way to get prepared and put time and energy into something as you wait.
If you know the sex of your baby, you can choose to decorate a nursery that is more themed to typical 'boy' or 'girl' stuff, if you wish. However, regardless of the sex and whether you know or not, you can always go for a more neutral theme and adjust a little later.
9 CON: IT TAKES AWAY SOME OF THE SURPRISE
For some people, waiting to find out the sex until delivery is part of the fun. This means that you will be in for a pleasant surprise when your baby is born. It really depends on your personality.
Some people like to wait and be surprised, while other people are stressed out by not knowing. If you want to go into the birth with no preconceived notions of the sex of your child, then it’s a good idea to wait.
8 PRO: OTHER PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHAT TO BUY FOR YOUR BABY
Another fun thing about pregnancy is all the people in your life who are excited for you. This can include extended family members as well as friends. Many of the people in your life likely want to buy things for your baby. So, if you know the sex, you’ll be able to let them know.
They are likely to appreciate this, especially if you plan on having a baby shower. It’s also a good idea for you to tell them if you plan on having more gender-neutral clothing or more traditionally gendered clothes, as this will help them pick out things you’ll want to use.
7 CON: YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO MAKE A FUN POOL
If you don’t plan on learning the sex of your baby ahead of time, there are definitely some fun games that you can do. You can set up a pool where people guess the sex of the baby.
This can also include people’s guesses on the delivery date as well as the length and weight. These betting pools are a fun game to play at baby showers and a good way to get the people in your life involved.
6 PRO: YOU WON’T BE DISAPPOINTED
Parents of three girls or three boys will probably understand what we mean by 'disappointed!' Sometimes, it’s best to learn the sex of the baby as soon as you can so that you can settle with the decision. Of course, no matter the sex, you’re going to love your baby. But, in some situations, people are hoping for a boy or a girl.
If you know ahead of time, you’ll be able to be prepared and adjust to the reality. If you wait until the birth, you might be a bit surprised or disappointed if you were really holding out for one particular outcome.
5 CON: YOU MIGHT FEEL MORE TEMPTED TO GET SUPER-GENDERED ITEMS
Many parents these days are looking for ways to raise their children in more egalitarian ways with fewer gender stereotypes and influence. If you wait to know the sex of your baby, you’ll be less tempted to buy and participate in the more extreme 'gendered' items for babies.
You’ll be able to focus on more gender-neutral options if this is the route you want to take. Of course, this is also a personal decision.
4 PRO: YOU MIGHT NOT BE AS STRESSED
For some people, waiting to find out the sex of their baby can cause a lot of anxiety. Pregnancy will bring about a lot of stress and anxiety as it is. You might be worried about a lot of things, such as how the birth will go and the health of the baby.
Knowing the sex ahead of time can alleviate at least one burning question. You won’t be likely to be as surprised when the baby is born, and this means you’ll be taking one unknown off the table.
3 CON: YOU CAN AVOID GETTING THE WRONG INFORMATION
These days, ultrasounds that reveal the sex of a baby are quite accurate. Most of the time the accuracy is around 90%, but this doesn’t mean that mistakes aren’t made. There is always a small chance that the ultrasound reading will be wrong or inaccurate.
Also, it’s not always possible to see the gender during an ultrasound. If you don’t want to find out, you won’t have to worry about getting the wrong information.
2 PRO: IT MAKES PICKING A NAME AHEAD OF TIME MUCH EASIER
One of the biggest reasons to learn the sex of your baby ahead of time is so that you can pick out a name. It will make the naming process a lot easier if you only need to focus on finding one name as opposed to options for both girls and boys.
While you still might change your mind once your baby is actually born, it’s definitely a much simpler process if you know whether your baby is a boy or a girl.
1 CON: KNOWING DOESN’T LEAVE THINGS AS OPEN FOR GETTING TO KNOW YOUR BABY
Knowing the sex of your baby can end up influencing how you feel about them even subconsciously. Gendered views on behavior are something that pretty much all of us have, even if we don’t mean to.
By not knowing the sex ahead of time, you might find it a bit easier to focus on your baby and getting to know their personality once they arrive. There are a lot of preconceived notions that come along with this, as is the case with the traditional blue or pink color schemes, and lots of us are looking to buck this trend.