Having a child, whether this is your first time or you have been on this journey before, can be the most adventurous time in a person’s life. It can make you happy, scared, excited and a great many other things.
There is no one and nothing that will be able to prepare you or your mate for parenthood with 100% accuracy. Neither of you will be able to predict the crazy things that happen during pregnancy, nor will you or the baby’s father be able to know exactly what it is like to raise a young boy or girl until you get to that point yourself.
Of course, you will ask for and receive plenty of advice from friends and family members from the moment you and your significant other announce the big news. However, take the advice with caution, because there are some myths about raising babies that a lot of people believe to be true that actually have no merit or base in reality. Here are just a few of them.
15 Baby’s Cry is Always the Same
Many people who don’t have much experience in the baby department automatically think that all baby cries sound exactly the same as the next one, and that it is hard to figure out what they want. However, some parents know this is not true.
When we are older, we can tell someone what is wrong with us, or talk with them about things we want. This is actually not much different when it comes to young babies.
Each cry from your child has a distinct sound. Is he or she hungry? They have a certain cry for that. Are they tired? Do they need to be burped? Are they sick and not feeling well? Give it time, and you will discover that they have cries for those, as well.
As the parent, you will notice the sounds that are in each of your baby’s different cries. Though this does not necessarily mean someone else’s child will have the same cries for the same reasons. Listen closely to yours to figure out their own personal pattern.
14 Bonding Is Immediate
Many men and women have heard countless tales about how a mother and father felt an immediate bond with their child as soon as he or she was born. It is said that the bond between mother and child often starts during this time, when the mother of the baby first lays eyes on him or her, and hears the first cry.
But, this does not always happen. If you do not experience this, or you did not experience it in the past, that is totally normal as well. In fact, approximately 20% of men and women do not feel this special moment right away. Sometimes this bond comes with time.
Do not worry if you do not bond right away with your newborn. As with all relationships, these things can sometimes take time to fully develop. As your child grows and you watch them become who they are destined to be, you will fall madly in love with the tiny being you and your mate created.
13 Some Bottles Are Better than Others
We have all heard parents talking about which products are the best for newborns, and which ones are the best for older kids. But sometimes, the brand of the product in question does not matter.
All baby bottles have the same purpose. What is the deciding factor in whether or not it works well with your individual baby is your baby.
He or she may not like a certain nipple, or something else about it may seem a little off to them. Just like all people, babies have their preferences. Additionally, each child is different and they may not enjoy or like the same things as the next one.
Think about it this way, all of us like different foods and the tastes they have. It appears to be the same way when it comes to young babies and they bottles they like and don’t like.
12 Baby Walkers Help Them to Walk
This is not necessarily a myth, but many don’t realize the potential harm they can cause. Additionally, most don’t know exactly when to begin using these products, and that knowledge can be beneficial if you do want to use a walker.
Your child’s bones and muscles develop at a certain rate. In some cases, if walkers are used too early, this can affect the rate of growth in your child’s body. This means that it is possible that using a walker to help him or her learn how to walk can actually delay the process further, as well as damage the young person’s bones.
Some other things can happen, as well. If they are using a walker, they can fall down the steps in your home. They are also more likely to get into poisonous things that you try to keep out of their reach.
11 Babies Don’t Have Kneecaps
There are a lot of interesting facts about babies that are true. Additionally, there are some weird misconceptions about them as well. One of the most common, widely known misconceptions about babies is that they are born without kneecaps. This is not true. Actually, they do have kneecaps, but they are softer than that of an older child or adult.
The bones our babies have are all the same bones we have as adults. The differences are that they have much shorter and softer bones when they are tiny newborns. As they grow, their bones grow and become stronger in order to sustain their aging bodies. When they reach adulthood, their bones are fully developed.
What you need to know is that their kneecaps are technically just cartilage at the time of birth. These form bones over time, and this process is referred to as ossification.
10 Newborns Can't See
This is one of the more popular myths about babies that many still think are true. Aside from the others mentioned above, here is another one. People think babies are born without their eyesight. A lot of men and women tend to believe that newborn children cannot see and develop their eyesight over time.
This is actually not true at all. Newborn little girls and boys can see, but their vision is blurry in the beginning. Babies are actually born with full visual capacity. Though some say they can only see in black and white, and therefore cannot yet see other colors, others say they can in fact see with color.
One true fact about the visual capabilities of newborns is that they are extremely nearsighted. Because of this, objects that are far away can appear blurry to your baby. However, they can see objects that are up to 15 inches away quite clearly.
9 Crying Doesn't Mean Something is Wrong
When your baby cries, it can be a confusing time, especially if you have not yet figured out the certain sounds your baby makes when he or she needs something in particular. But it can be even more stressful when they cry more than usual.
When this happens, parents tend to think their little boy or girl is sick, or that something else is wrong with them. Obviously, in some cases this is true, and you should pay a visit to your child’s pediatrician, but this is not always the case.
It takes strength to make a big fuss about something, so keep that in mind next time this happens to you and your child. Take this point with caution though, because when this happens it is always best to make sure they do not have a fever, nausea, and see that they have a normal color to their skin.
If you find no signs of anything being wrong, check for other discomforts. Make sure their diapers are not full and that you change them frequently, and attempt to feed them. This can help you make sure they are not crying due to extreme hunger.
8 Adult Medicine is OK for Babies
We have all heard someone say that doing certain things will help your baby feel better and that these things are good for them. However, this is not always the case. Many believe that giving children small doses of medicine that is intended for adults is okay, as long as it is taken in moderation. This is absolutely not true. In fact, this can be very harmful to very young, small children.
There are many different types of medicines intended for adults only, it's these such medicines that parents should never give their babies or children. Even children's cough medicine is not safe to give your newborn. In fact, it is suggested that parents avoid giving them any type of cough medicine if the little girl or boy is under four years of age.
It is best not to give your baby any kind of medicine that is not suggested by his or her doctor.
7 TV is Educational
Let me start off this point by saying that videos do help our children learn things. They can help when he or she is trying to learn colors, speech, etc. However, doing this when your son or daughter is super young is not beneficial.
While there is proof that these videos do help little kids become more educated as they grow, studies show that this only starts to take effect when young girls and boys are 2 years old or older.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, parents should wait until their babies are older to have them watch educational videos. If it is done before they reach that age group, there is little to no affect on the child, despite the claims of success from the companies that sell these products.
Additionally, there may be a great risk to doing this. Some say that if these videos are shown to children at an age that is too early, it will lead to delays in the child's progression of their social skills.
6 Crib Bumper Pads Are Safe
There are many reasons why parents, especially those that are new to the world of raising children, use as many products as they can to protect their little ones, but what many do not realize is that some of these are not as safe as they might like to believe.
When a child as young as a newborn is laying in his or her crib, there is a chance that they might suffocate, and this is arguably the greatest concern when it comes to crib bumpers. By now you might be asking yourself how this can happen.
Suffocation due to a crib bumper can occur when the girl or boy is lying in a position where their nose or mouth is pressed up against the material. If they are very young, they are not as able to move around as an older baby, which is why it causes a greater concern for newborns.
There are also other risks that come with using a crib bumper. These include but are not limited to strangulation and breathing stale air. The use of bumper pads in the crib have been linked to SIDS, so talk to your doctor if you want another way to stop your child from banging their head on the drib bars.
5 It's Safe for Babies to Drink Water
As you may have noticed by now, some of these things mentioned in this article are not total myths. By that I mean that certain points I have discussed are not appropriate for babies of a certain age, but they are okay when the children grow older.
One of these is the myth that it is okay for babies to drink water. Actually, it is not safe for them to do so for several months after birth. More specifically, parents should wait at least six months before letting their little boy or girl consume water.
The reason for this is that every young baby needs to drink milk or formula. This is because there are things in both of those that help him or her grow as they are supposed to. If they fill up on water, their appetites may decrease and this will leave them malnourished.
While we are on this topic, I would also like to add that even at six months old, babies should not drink water regularly. To get a good estimate of when exactly is a good time to start giving them water, ask your pediatrician.
4 Breastfeeding is Not Hard
We have all seen mothers breastfeed their babies, especially lately due to the controversy over whether or not it is okay to breastfeed in public. There a countless stories about how beautiful and natural it is, and sometimes that makes mothers who have a hard time with it feel as though they are not doing their job as the caretaker of the child.
This is not true. The fact of the matter is that breastfeeding is not easy for many women, and that is okay. There are other ways to feed and nourish your growing child.
When we hear of the ease and effortlessness some women have experienced when breastfeeding, we are not told of the possible issues that might come with it. Some of these complications include the baby having issues latching on to his or her mother’s nipple, not latching on at all, and the pressure put on the nipple when the child’s mother is feeding them.
3 Using Baby Talk Helps With Language Skills
Baby talk seems to be a universal thing. In many parts of the world, when adults are speaking to very little boys and girls, they tend to pronounce words differently. Sometimes this just means they make their syllables sound a little longer than they would had they been speaking to someone of an older age, and this can help children learn better language skills.
However, this is not the form of baby talk I am going to discuss. Many times, especially when children are learning to speak and they sometimes come up with random words to describe objects or people, their parents will start doing the same thing back to them.
Making up nonsense words and using them during conversation with a young boy or girl can be confusing for them, and this will only further delay the growth of their language skills. Instead, use normal words when talking to them that way they can learn how to speak in a correct fashion.
2 They Can’t Talk Yet
No, they have not quite figured out how to make words. They have not figured out the concept of making sounds into words so that they can tell us what they want or need.
But don’t let that fool you. Your little boy or girl has no shortage of ways to communicate with you, and at a very young age they are already figuring out how is best to share their thoughts with mom and dad.
Do not let the fact that they cannot fully speak make you think they are not finding every other way possible to get their message across to you. From birth, the sounds they use for communication gradually change, becoming closer and closer to real words until he or she finally says their first understandable word. Their littles “oohs” and “aahs” turn into them trying to pronounce letters, which then leads to words, so this is definitely something parents should be able to pick up on and use as a teaching moment.
1 Playing With Fancy Toys
Again, this is not something that is a complete myth. But part of it is a myth, and that’s what we are going to talk about here.
Yes, toys, just like educational videos, can most definitely help your baby when it comes to figuring new things out and getting used to the world outside of the womb.
However, how high tech the toy is, or how big it is, will not play a role in their learning. At least not for a long time, anyway. The fact is that your child does not have to have the most popular, trendy toy out there on the shelves in order to be able to learn new things.
The best thing to do is to let them play with their toys and learn the basics. Have them learn what shapes the toys are in, what colors they are, what they are called, etc. This will also help them with their speaking capabilities.