People say children can bring joy into people’s lives. Though it may seem like the more children you have the happier you will be, that is not always the case. Many times people only want one child or change their mind about the size of the family they want. And there are also times after having one baby you might feel like you do not want to have any more children.
There is nothing wrong with feeling like you want a small family. So keep reading to discover ten signs that you are one and done and you are not even thinking about having other kids!
10 Money Problems
Throughout your pregnancy and you are going to discover that being pregnant and having a baby is an experience. The bills do not stop there when it comes to children. It is going to be your responsibility for you and your partner to be able to afford to raise your child until they become financially independent and move out.
You might realize that your budget has become a lot tighter after having a child. You might want to use the rest of your budget to be able to give your child whatever they want instead of tightening your budget even more for another child.
9 Labor Was Difficult
During labor, anything can happen and even if you took birthing classes things can go not as planned. Some women can be in labor for over twelve hours or in the end, have a difficult time sleeping the baby.
If you experienced a difficult labor for your first child you might not more kids because of that. That is a normal reaction if you had a difficult labor that you do not want to risk going through something like that again. Nor would your partner ever want to see you like that too.
8 You’re Happy Your Child Is Becoming More Independent
One of the best feelings in the world is watching your child grow up and becoming more independent. Before your child needed your constant attention, but now able to entertain themselves while you get things done around the house.
This can make you and your partner realize that you do not miss the days where you always had to be taking care of your child’s every need since they can do some things by themselves. You know that once you have another child you will be right back to square one of needing to take care of a newborn’s every call.
7 Troubles Getting Pregnant The First Time
Many people seem to think that getting pregnant and having a baby happens very easily, though that can be the case for some women, it does not happen like that for most women.
It can take years for some women to get pregnant and this can involve seeing doctors and going through multiple rounds of IVF treatment just to have your first child. You and your partner might decide that the process of trying to get pregnant is too troublesome to try to have more children.
6 We Are Happy You Are Not Pregnant When Your Friends Tell You Their News
If you have already had a child and you are scrolling through social media seeing pregnancy announcements post and you are thankful that you are the one not pregnant, then you are done having kids.
Pregnancy does a lot to our bodies emotionally and physically. You might have had a physically easy pregnancy, but mentally you might have had a rough pregnancy. You might have had a lot of stress and anxiety about being pregnant and thinking about your upcoming labor that you were relieved when your baby was born. If you are one of those moms then you are one and done.
5 You’re Glad Milestones Are Over
Some parents love and cherish when big milestones like teething and potty training come up in their child’s life. These parents love to take pictures and tell everyone how joyful this experience has been in their life. Then there are the parents that are happy those milestones are over with.
Many important milestones in a child’s life take a lot of time and patience to help your child through it. And if you are the type of person happy you do not have to deal with an upset teaching child or a stinky diaper then you are done having kids.
4 You Enjoy Having The Freedom To See Your Friends Again
As your child grows and needs your constant attention less and less you are going to discover that you can start leaving your child with family or a babysitter so you can go out and do something that you want to do.
Though you might think these feelings of wanting to see your friends are selfish they are not! You are more than just a mom to your child and you need to have your own life too to be the best mom you can be. So don't feel bad about enjoying seeing your friends again, that is just one of the perks of having one child grow up and getting time back to yourself.
3 Feeling Burnout With One Child
Raising a child is a lot of work. It doesn't matter if you are handling a newborn, toddler, or even a teenager, kids are always a challenge since they require attention. If you and your partner are having a hard time handling your child's needs and you are already feeling burnout, then you do not want to add more children to that mix.
More children would just mean more time that you have to spend trying to watch two kids not get into trouble and entertain them. Don’t feel bad if you are feeling burnout with one child, they are a lot of work to make sure they are growing up to be happy and healthy!
2 You Had A Hard Pregnancy
A great indicator if you are ready to have more kids is to see how your body handled having your first child. Though we dream that pregnancy will be easy on use that is not always the case.
You might have had a hard pregnancy due to morning sickness, tiredness, being placed on bedrest or whatever you felt could come back if you want to have a second child. You need to remember that you need to be healthy not just to have a second child, but to be able to take care of the little one you already have.
1 Feeling At Peace With One Child
When you were younger you might have dreamed about having a certain amount of kids when you grow up. Though you were young, this feeling of wanting a big family carried with you after years and years. But you might discover that you have one child you might feel at peace and not want any more children.
This is very common because the reality of the situation is much better than the dream you’ve been carrying. You might find out that one child fills all the needs for you and your partner and you do not want to have more.