When your child starts to make new friends as they grow older, how do you maintain a friendship with the fellow parents you have formed a bond with?
Having a child will change your life in more ways than you can ever imagine. While you're expecting, people will likely tell you how much you're going to change and how different life will be a year from now. You might get worried, or you might shrug it off and say "not me." Life will change when you have children, but that's nothing to be scared of. It marks the beginning of an exciting new chapter.
Chances are many of the friends you already have might not have children of their own yet, or at least not children who will be the same age as yours. That means you'll be forced to become friends with the parents of your child's friends. After hanging out with them a little on playdates, you might realize that you actually have a lot in common.
Then comes the most annoying part of all. As your children grow and change, they will probably grow apart. At first, it doesn't take much for children to find common ground. An affinity for the color purple or a penchant for toy cars is more than enough. However, their interests become more complex as time passes. So what will become of the friendship you have formed with your fellow parents?
Kim O'Rourke explains via Scary Mommy that the key is to not ignore it. Doing that cost her and a close friend a decade of friendship. As their daughters grew apart and made new friends, they continued to force them to play together. The awkward interactions eventually led to the moms not hanging out anymore.
If you're honest with your fellow parents, chances are they will be relieved they're not the only ones who have noticed. The next step is to then figure out how to spend time together without the kids. Since your children are older and likely don't need as much parental supervision, that should be easier than it has ever has been before. Plus, you never know, in time, your respective kids might become friends again in the future.