A new study shows that it is okay to be an "okay" mom. It is okay for mom's to take breaks and it is okay to not run to them every time they make a peep.
Being a mom is very difficult. It's tiring and sometimes you feel trapped. Little people spend all day asking you for things. It's like you have a full-time job with a very angry and demanding boss. And then on top of everything you don't get paid! A new study came out showing that it's not only okay for mom's to take breaks, but it is good for the kids.
The new piece of research has stressed the importance of moms taking breaks and getting away from the children. The study also showed that being an "ok" mom is "good enough." Many parents believe that in order to be a good parent you must respond immediately to every one of their needs and promptly. However, "if you do it at least half of the time, that seems to be enough for the baby to still be secure,” says Dr. Woodhouse, who co-authored the study with Julie R. Scott of Pennsylvania State University, Allison D. Hepworth, Ph.D., of the University of Maryland School of Social Work, and Jude Cassidy, Ph.D., of the University of Maryland. It's very important to have a child feel secure because "research shows security in infancy can positively affect a child's physical, motor, and cognitive development." Making a child feel secure apparently doesn't take as much as parents believe. As mothers, we don't have to run to them as quickly as we possibly can to make them feel secure.
The study indicated that not only is it okay to leave your child alone in a secure location, but it actually essential to their growth. It's important to show that your child is able to grow and learn about their surroundings without the interference of the mother. So, Mama, it's okay to take breaks. It's okay if you don't go and run to your child every time they need something as long as your child isn't in any harm. You're most likely being too harsh on yourself and your raising kids who will be perfectly fine! Take those breaks mama! You need them and they are good for your baby!