The Sexual Journey of a Woman Trying to Conceive

If you’re in the midst of TTC (trying to conceive), you may already know that a beautiful, natural chapter can sometimes be a long and frustrating process. It often takes a little more than just a roll in the sheets to get pregnant, but don’t give up yet. You’re not alone. Read more about the journey to getting that positive pregnancy test.

7 Just Do It

Whether you’ve just tossed the birth control in the trash or had a thorough preconception appointment with your OB/GYN, you and your partner have decided that it’s time to have a baby.

Maybe you and your partner just get busy whenever you feel like it. Or perhaps you’ve already started using ovulation predictor kits and monitoring your temperature to pinpoint the best time to have sex. No matter what, you’re probably hoping that you’ll be one of those Fertile Myrtles who gets pregnant the first month of trying. You’ve heard about women who became pregnant as soon as they stopped taking the pill. At this stage, you’re convinced that you will be prego in no time.

6 Waiting…

You have to wait to take a pregnancy test. The time between ovulation and when you either find out you’re pregnant or you get your period is known as the “two-week wait.” It can be torturous.

While trying to conceive, doctors say you should act like you’re already pregnant. Take a prenatal vitamin, continue to eat well and exercise, and avoid bad habits, such as smoking and drinking alcohol.

Since you’ve probably got all this time on your hands, you’ll like move to the next phase of this TTC journey. 

5 Research (Paging Dr. Google)

Maybe you’re reading ahead in all of your pregnancy books to get yourself ready. Or maybe you’re online, looking up pregnancy symptoms, or the best positions to conceive, in case you need ideas for the next time around. Or maybe you’re just chatting online in the TTC forums with other ladies also trying to pass the time during the two-week wait.

Take it easy. You don’t want to stress yourself out while trying to get pregnant. Stress and anxiety can make it harder to get pregnant. And not getting pregnant can cause stress and anxiety. So, do your best to relax, take it easy on the research. Don’t go crazy with symptom spotting.

4 Symptom Spotting

Do your boobs hurt? Are you having weird cravings? Feeling more tired than usual? These are all possible pregnancy symptoms. Unfortunately, they can also be signs and symptoms of PMS. Pregnancy and PMS symptoms are very similar. While you’re trying to conceive, what you’re feeling could be a bun in the oven, or it could be Aunt Flo on her usual way.

Some women experience period-like pregnancy symptoms. Others don’t experience any symptoms at all, or their bodies don’t recognize them. And then some women have more unusual symptoms: lots of gas, a deeper voice, or even a stuffy nose.

3 Testing, Testing…

You’re probably dying to know if you’re pregnant, but when can you take a pregnancy test? It can take anywhere from 7-10 days after implantation of the egg in your uterus to get a positive pregnancy test. Test too early, and you might miss it. It’s best to avoid the temptation to “POAS” (pee on a stick). Just wait.

If you receive a positive result, congratulations! Your trying-to-conceive journey ends here. But, if you’re not pregnant this month, move on to the next phase.

2 Try, Try Again

If you are once again greeted by Aunt Flo, then unfortunately, this isn’t your month. It can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you’ve been careful with your timing, figuring out when you ovulate, and patiently waiting for those two pink lines on your pregnancy test.

The good news is you can keep trying. Don’t let this month’s disappointment spoil the mood. Jump back in the sack. You know what they say: if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

But be careful. Having too much sex can delay conception. According to the Mayo Clinic, it’s best to have sex two or three times a week, making sure to have sex at least once a day around ovulation.

And keep it fun! Don’t turn sex into a chore, and don’t focus solely on whether it’s “the right time.” For some couples, it can take at least a year to get pregnant. Enjoy the quality time with your partner, and don’t think so much about the process or the end result. Because when that end result—your baby—arrives, you may end up putting sex on the back burner as you recover from your delivery and adjust to life with a newborn baby.

From here, you’ll be repeating these phases. It could take a while. Maybe next month will be your lucky month.

1 Victory

At long last! You waited for ovulation, you think you timed sex perfectly, you’re feeling a little weird, and according to your internet research, you’ve waited long enough to take a pregnancy test. Congratulations! You’re pregnant!

Now that you’re expecting, your sex life doesn’t have to suffer. You may have your days where you’re tired or don’t feel well, but sex during pregnancy has quite a few benefits. Sex can help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can help with delivery and recovery. Scientists also believe that frequent sex while pregnant can lower blood pressure and reduce stress levels.

Another benefit of sex while you’re pregnant? Your orgasms may be off the chart! A lot of women claim to have multiple orgasms for the first time when they’re pregnant. You can thank all of the extra blood flow to your pelvic region. So, take advantage of all the crazy changes to your body and enjoy it.

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