When you're newly pregnant with baby number 1, it's the most conflicting time. Your hormones are raging like you have never had them rage before and your emotions are ten times worse than they will be with other pregnancies. It's also a very stressful time, you have no idea what could or will go wrong and everyone wants to have a say in everything you do.
Here are five very simple tips for newly pregnant moms-to-be. More experienced moms can sometimes help you detect things like preeclampsia before you do (especially if it happened to them first).
1. Don't waste time stressing about books like "What to Expect." They are helpful and the pregnancy book can be good but once the baby comes, don't bother with the milestone books- they will stress you more than help. They can be good for knowing when to start feeding the baby or what to do in certain situations, but when it comes to development, babies don't go by a chart or a book.
2. If people are telling you to go to labor and delivery because your body swelling up is not normal, listen. Feet and legs swell, put your feet up and consult your doctor if the swelling gets too bad, however always go straight to the doctor or ER if your hands and face puff out- seriously, it's a sign of preeclampsia and should not be ignored.
3. "It happens to other people, it won't happen to me" is not a good way to look at things. It can push you into denial and lead to symptoms being ignored, that's how it can feel when it comes to both pregnancy complications kids with various developmental differences, and it doesn't help in either situation.
4. Always make time for yourself. Daily. Having just a few minutes to relax daily helps you find your center and ground yourself. It can be waking up before the kids and taking time in the early morning, or doing a little something during nap time or after they go to bed. While you're pregnant, make sure to start a self-care routine- either find a pregnancy safe workout (after consulting your doctor) or do start a hobby of some kind- and get in the habit of doing it daily.
5. You don't have to listen to all the advice of random people (strangers or friends or blogs) give you but do listen to your doctor. Just because someone did something while pregnant, doesn't mean it will help or will be safe, so it's always best to go by your doctor's guidance.